I spoke w/ my wife last night, and she layed it on me how I do not love her for who she is. She started w/ her weight gains after the children were born. and then said I do not love our children, because my son came to her saying, "I do not want to throw the ball w/ Daddy because all he does is fuss @ me."
I spoke w/ my son about this, and he knows why I fussed @ him. He wants to be a high school/college pitcher, but doesn't want to practice. I told him before/during the fussing, that if he has that desire he will have to practice about 30 minutes a couple of days a week. Well, he is not willing to do that, and I told him that I'm OK w/ that or anything he wants to do down the road, but that if you want something you are going to have to work @ it. I asked him if he thought I loved him, and he said yes, and that he didn't know why his mother felt that way (I know, he is only 12).
I have said her physical appearance does turn me off sometimes (t-shirt and gym shorts, most of the time), but also the watching of "The Batchelor", her recent drinking of Daquiri's, time spent texting(even when driving), Facebooking, not desiring to read the Bible or participate in any Bible study, all play a part in my trying to love her.
I tried early in our marriage to arrange my life so we could have one-on-one time together, unfortunately we have not done any of that in over a year, other than have sex. The last time we had sex was probably before last Thanksgiving, and I still remember, we both enjoyed it and said we should have sex @ least once a week.
I hope this helps to help us.