Maybe you haven't followed this entire thread, I don't know. In her mind, she had to leave, and that is justification enough. It wasn't an easy decision, I can assure you that.
We saw our pastor yesterday, and while naturally he doesn't condone divorce, he comforted her in her decision to get some space for now. All of the issues have built up in her and she has reached the breaking point. My about face has scared her, and I can understand her viewpoint. While I wish she were at home, I can use the time without the tension and distractions to concentrate on my spiritual health.
She isn't being stupid, and she will never beg to come home, nor would I expect that. When the Holy Spirit prevails upon her, and she decides to come home, it will be like the prodigal son in a way. She is my wife and I will always love her, no matter what she has done. She is the mother of our children and we will always share that. I will welcome her with open arms, and not look back, only forward.
I am continuing in counseling regardless of what she does. At present, she isn't going anymore, but that is entirely up to her. If future circumstances dictate that we have joint counseling, that would be terrific. But I can only control my own decisions.
Thankfully, prayer is now a large part of my daily life. For that, no matter what, I will always thank her.
Peace.
