My turn!!

[MMXII]

What are three ways that you see you and me as different? What are three ways that you see us as similar? Which of the differences are you most comfortable with? Which are you least comfortable with?

You are an extrovert, I tend to be more introverted.
You are involved in a lot of things in your community, I'm more of a home body.
You aren't afraid of trying new things, I tend to shy away from some new things.

God is #1 in our lives.
We genuinely care for each other.
We love to study God's word.

I can't say that I'm uncomfortable with any of the differences. I think and hope we can enhance each other. I hope you can pull me out of my shell in public, join me in community projects and help me try new things.

 

[MMXII]

One more for good measure, J9!

What would be the hardest adjustment a person would need to make to live with you?

Well...if you aren't a dog person, it might be a major adjustment. Micah likes new people and Davidson likes to bark at new people. After they've adjusted, you'll just be part of the family.

 

[MN John]

Can I bark right back at him?
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Please describe your understanding of what God's purposes for marriage are.

 

[MN John]

Are you a morning person? What are you like before your first cup of coffee?

 

[MN John]

Do you try to get hints and clues about what your Christmas presents might be and like to try to figure it out ahead of time?

 

[MMXII]

Can I bark right back at him?
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Please describe your understanding of what God's purposes for marriage are.

Bark away

I believe God's purpose for marriage is to give each person a help mate. One that is loved above all except for Him. I think He wants us to cleave to each other and submit ourselves to our spouse in all ways, our bodies, our minds, our lives. We should love each other as He loves us...now that's unconditional. I think there should be mutual respect meaning that one spouse isn't making huge decisions without the other. I do believe that the husband should be the head of the house as God has given you that authority but I don't believe that that authority should be abused.

 

[MMXII]

Are you a morning person? What are you like before your first cup of coffee?

Depends on how late you've kept me up I tend to be quiet in the morning before or after my "coffee" (which is Coke). I think I'm introspective as I work it out in my head what's on the table for the day ahead. So I won't say I'm a morning person but I'm easy to live with either morning or night.

 

[MMXII]

Do you try to get hints and clues about what your Christmas presents might be and like to try to figure it out ahead of time?

Oh my gosh yes. I haven't told you I like being a detective. And if it's wrapped under the tree...that's pure torture. I'll shake and jiggle it and try to coerce information out of you...any way I can

 

[MN John]

Sounds like we'll have some adventures in store for us in the future!

OK, J9, I'll confront you with another question!

How comfortable are you with confrontation or conflict? How do you ususally resolve conflicts? Are you accustomed to confrontation? Where does anger enter in? Do you repress or hold in your anger? Are you good at expressing anger in a healthy, nonattacking way?

 

[MN John]

Since you are an introvert - one who is drained by people and needs quiet, private time to recharge - and I am an extrovert, I need to be with people far more than you do. I'll need to work on understanding and accepting these differences, as well as not invading your private time. How much do you value "personal time" - time to yourself to reflect, study, or recreate? Relatively, how much time do you prefer to spend 1. Alone? 2. With your S.O.? 3. With others besides your S.O.? 4. With both your S.O. and others?

In an ideal 16 hours of being awake in a day, I would prefer to spend about 2.5 hours alone, 8 with my S.O., 4.5 with my S.O. and others, and 1 hour with others besides my S.O.

 

[MN John]

What are your beliefs about prenuptual agreements?

 

[MMXII]

Sounds like we'll have some adventures in store for us in the future!

OK, J9, I'll confront you with another question!

How comfortable are you with confrontation or conflict? How do you ususally resolve conflicts? Are you accustomed to confrontation? Where does anger enter in? Do you repress or hold in your anger? Are you good at expressing anger in a healthy, nonattacking way?

Adventures...honey, you've only scratched the surface.

I'm very good with confrontation and conflict. As I think I told you on the phone, I'm not a passive/agressive person. I say what needs to be said, in a kind way if possible and then move on. I don't dwell on past hurts and differences. I have some confrontations in my life both at work and at home. I handle them both straightforward and calmly. I sure didn't use to be like this, I tended to blow and then pick up the pieces afterwards...I've grown. I do though supress my anger, especially when I think my words will injure someone's stuffings. The way I handle anger is by getting in my car and going for a drive. I can come back with a clear mind and be able to resolve the issue better.

 

[MMXII]

Since you are an introvert - one who is drained by people and needs quiet, private time to recharge - and I am an extrovert, I need to be with people far more than you do. I'll need to work on understanding and accepting these differences, as well as not invading your private time. How much do you value "personal time" - time to yourself to reflect, study, or recreate? Relatively, how much time do you prefer to spend 1. Alone? 2. With your S.O.? 3. With others besides your S.O.? 4. With both your S.O. and others?

In an ideal 16 hours of being awake in a day, I would prefer to spend about 2.5 hours alone, 8 with my S.O., 4.5 with my S.O. and others, and 1 hour with others besides my S.O.

Well, alone time comes few and far between for me living with 3 others girls. As far as putting a time frame on it...can't really do that. I spend so much time with other people that alone time comes hard for me. I like the idea of spending 8 hours a day with you alone but that may be in our future. So I really look forward to the honeymoon...in more ways than one

I think your break-down looks pretty good to me. I do like alone time to read my Bible and maybe study something new but that can also be shared. I don't want to smother you though and would respect your alone time.

(don't think I answered this one all that great...keep in mind I have a fever and feel awlful)

 

[MMXII]

What are your beliefs about prenuptual agreements?

Good question! I don't believe in them at all. I think a marriage is forever and if a couple starts doubting or questioning that before they get married then the trust isn't there.

This is one where you either totally agree or totally disagree...*holds breath* and I hope it's not a deal breaker.

 

[MN John]

Good question! I don't believe in them at all. I think a marriage is forever and if a couple starts doubting or questioning that before they get married then the trust isn't there.

This is one where you either totally agree or totally disagree...*holds breath* and I hope it's not a deal breaker.

This question is pretty much a dealbreaker, but you answered the right way! Prenups imply a lack of total committment and trust. I think that any couple that needs a prenup probably should not be getting married. There are rare exceptions to this for very special circumstances, but I would be very wary of someone who asked for one. the amount of doubt that would require a prenup is too much doubt.

 

[MN John]

Here's the kind of question that I usually hate to answer...

If you could be any crayon in the 128-color box of crayolas, which one would you be and why? (Be specific and give examples!)

 

[MMXII]

Let's see...I think it would be scarlet. I'm pretty fiery, seductive. I guess if you need more details than that...better ask in a pm

You know my favorite color is red but scarlet has that certain...how can I say...devilish side...kinda like me.

 

[MN John]

What is the wildest thing you've ever done?
What is the weirdest thing you've ever done?
What is the best thing you've ever done?

 

[MMXII]

Wildest was answered privately

The weirdest thing that I did was at a grand opening for a grocery store here. I wore a Mr. Peanut costume and a Easter Bunny costume.

The best thing was becoming a mother.

 

[MN John]

How do you know that you are in love?