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I know, I hate to say this but I have yet to achieve a balance in this department.I pray that the Lord will give you the strength to deal with him in a Christian manner and also stand up for your beliefs and be firm in setting the needed boundaries.
From what you describe it sounds like the wind. Sort of what happens in a breezeway.Something happened that kind of shook me up. I think it's best to attribute this to the wind.
On the top of my fireplace there are 2 pictures. One of them is a picture of my mom and dad. Although the pictures are not hanging up on a wall, they have been sitting on the top of the fireplace forever without falling.
The family room that the fireplace is in is connected to the garage, so I open the door to take care of the trash. I anchor the screen door open. It's a very windy day. I was finishing putting the last of the trash bags in the bin, when suddenly the biggest gush of wind ensues. The garage door was closed, but the kitchen window in the adjacent room was open, but it's been this windy before, so I don't know - - I hear a big noise in the house. I go back in to check what it was, and it was the picture of my mom and dad that had fallen to the ground and the makeshift frame (someone else had done this for me) had broken. The other pictures were still intact. I don't get how this happened. Maybe it was too close to the edge of the top of the fireplace but this has never happened before. Could it have been the gush of wind? I hear about when someone dies and a picture of the deceased falls to the ground shortly afterwards and it weirds out the surviving loved ones. It could be just the wind but the wind from the kitchen can't reach that picture to the extent that it would cause a picture to fall.
My brother was here earlier today, maybe he touched it and it became "out of place" enough to fall later? Sigh I don't know.
Mine does too, but it’s for widows and widowers. We did have a group, classes really, for those who lost anyone but to my knowledge it’s no longer active.If they would sit with you or if it would be okay to call every once in a while. Perhaps a group in the Church for those grieving. My Church has one.
I don't know when I'll be able to say I'm OK. I am able to call places and tell them about my dad's death certificate without breaking down, at least. A week ago I could not do that kind of thing. I'm kind of afraid to tell anyone how deep my pain can get, though. My face does not show the extent of that pain.Praying today is a better day!
Believe it or not LB, what you are going through is pretty much what we all go through with grief. It’s not fun but little by little you’ll find yourself being able to do things without feeling raw. It takes about a year to get over the really hardcore grief.I don't know when I'll be able to say I'm OK. I am able to call places and tell them about my dad's death certificate without breaking down, at least. A week ago I could not do that kind of thing. I'm kind of afraid to tell anyone how deep my pain can get, though. My face does not show the extent of that pain.
I'm sorry to say, that you won't be 'ok' for awhile.I don't know when I'll be able to say I'm OK. I am able to call places and tell them about my dad's death certificate without breaking down, at least. A week ago I could not do that kind of thing. I'm kind of afraid to tell anyone how deep my pain can get, though. My face does not show the extent of that pain.
I don't think I'll ever actually be fully "OK." I'll only be "bearable." I don't want to get into money issues here but believe it or not my grieving could be ameliorated if I didn't have money issues. It's too much for me to type out.I'm sorry to say, that you won't be 'ok' for awhile.
I don't know anyone experienced with grief who will expect you to be.
The general 'rule of thumb' is that the first year is the hardest.
From my experience, it is.
So try to think of it for now as taking 'one day at a time'.
And some days will be better, or worse, than others.
Just keep doing what you're doing ... one day at a time.
Don't worry about trying to put on a 'happy face' for others.
And crying is very okay. It's actually a very healthy part of the grieving process.
Again, no one who has suffered a significant loss will be expecting you to be 'ok'.
I sure don't.
Better days will come, just not for awhile.
"Hang in there"
I agree, that first year is the hardest, I didn't feel like myself at all when mom died and then Daddy died 8 years later. To be honest, I still have times when I cry over them, we were best friends, they were my cheerleadersand I helped them when they needed me no matter what. I wish they were still here, there's so much I would share with them.I'm sorry to say, that you won't be 'ok' for awhile.
I don't know anyone experienced with grief who will expect you to be.
The general 'rule of thumb' is that the first year is the hardest.
From my experience, it is.
So try to think of it for now as taking 'one day at a time'.
And some days will be better, or worse, than others.
Just keep doing what you're doing ... one day at a time.
Don't worry about trying to put on a 'happy face' for others.
And crying is very okay. It's actually a very healthy part of the grieving process.
Again, no one who has suffered a significant loss will be expecting you to be 'ok'.
I sure don't.
Better days will come, just not for awhile.
"Hang in there"
Yep we always grieve and miss them. But it’s not the bombshell of emotions as it was in the beginning. We have to function even in grief. It just gets easier over time but it does not mean we do not still miss them. Eventually you’ll be laughing at a funny memory, etc.I agree, that first year is the hardest, I didn't feel like myself at all when mom died and then Daddy died 8 years later. To be honest, I still have times when I cry over them, we were best friends, they were my cheerleadersand I helped them when they needed me no matter what. I wish they were still here, there's so much I would share with them.
LB, don't feel bad about grieving, it's normal, if you didn't feel this way then I would wonder what's wrong. I took the death of my daddy harder than I did mother's death, yet I loved them both dearly. I think maybe because dads and daughter have a special bond, plus, we (or I did and still do) now feel like orphans. We were with them literally from the day we were born, so a major part of us is missing now. True, time heals, but I don't think a person ever gets over the death of a parent(or any true loved one).
Hugs
Thanks so much MichieWent to Church have your father, you, your brother in the prayer book and lots some candles as well.
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Pretty church!Went to Church I have your father, you, your brother in the prayer book and lit some candles as well.
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Thank you! It’s a bit modern in some areas but it’s the only Catholic Church in town.Pretty church!
Pretty! Looks like a nice blend of 'the old' and 'the new'.
Thanks!Pretty! Looks like a nice blend of 'the old' and 'the new'.
So, what was the purpose for the placement of the 4 blue cushions on the floor?
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