My dad has problems again

[mourningdove~]

I wish I didn't see his eyes in that moment. I hope that intensity of that memory dissipates a little, because I can't digest the notion of my dad's eyes being like this.

When a loved one is dying, we sometimes do see more than we want to see.

Later on, it can be very helpful to place around the house some good/happy photos of our departed loved one.

Seeing the 'good' photos, day to day, can help to 'dissipate' the sad images we don't want 'lodged' in our memory.

(Least, it worked in my situation.)

 

[Lady Bug]

I'm kind of concerned now, about the eye thing, now that others have said that they haven't seen it. The eyes had a very scary, lifeless, fixed gaze into nowhere, before they halfway closed again. How can this be my dad

 

[Lady Bug]

When a loved one is dying, we sometimes do see more than we want to see.

Later on, it can be very helpful to place around the house some good/happy photos of our departed loved one.

Seeing the 'good' photos, day to day, can help to 'dissipate' the sad images we don't want 'lodged' in our memory.

(Least, it worked in my situation.)

I think that later this might be an idea but right now, this would make me cry.

 

[mourningdove~]

I think that later this might be an idea but right now, this would make me cry.

Yes, it's definitely something for later.

 

[Michie]

Prayers for you all today. May the Lord lead and guide you and grant you peace.

 

[Lady Bug]

I hope people are not sick and tired of me bumping this but I am just too agonized today over his soon cross-over to whatever the other side must be and it's going to drive me mental I can't cope with this at ALL.

 

[Susie~Q]

I hope people are not sick and tired of me bumping this but I am just too agonized today over his soon cross-over to whatever the other side must be and it's going to drive me mental I can't cope with this at ALL.

Don't worry about it, we all care and are here for you. As you also know, you are welcome to email me anytime you want.
Your are in my prayers. Hugs'

 

[mourningdove~]

I hope people are not sick and tired of me bumping this but I am just too agonized today over his soon cross-over to whatever the other side must be and it's going to drive me mental I can't cope with this at ALL.

I'm glad when you bump up the thread and 'check in' ... so we know how you're doing.

Saying a prayer for you tonite ...

 

[FaithT]

I'm glad when you bump up the thread and 'check in' ... so we know how you're doing.

Saying a prayer for you tonite ...

What does “Bump” the thread mean?

 

[mourningdove~]

What does “Bump” the thread mean?

To 'bump' a thread means to add a new post to an existing thread so that the thread will be moved up to the top of the forum again.

 

[Michie]

Prayers for all of you today. May God provide relief from the stress and provide comfort and peace for all of you.

 

[Lady Bug]

It happened around 10 minutes after I got in his room. He was minimally breathing but I felt I had to go to the bathroom. I wish I didn't go to the bathroom (easier said than done, to hold it) because when I came out and touched his chest, the chest wasn't moving. The priest I called, well I might as well have not called him. He probably wasn't uncaring but I wanted more comforting words than I'll pray for him (and maybe a couple things that I already knew). Heck, I was praying the Divine Mercy and Rosary for an hour, and that phone call not only didn't accomplish anything, I feel worse off, not getting more than the short responses he gave. My prayers were much better than the banal I'll Pray For Him that I got from Father S.

 

[FaithT]

It happened around 10 minutes after I got in his room. He was minimally breathing but I felt I had to go to the bathroom. I wish I didn't go to the bathroom (easier said than done, to hold it) because when I came out and touched his chest, the chest wasn't moving. The priest I called, well I might as well have not called him. He probably wasn't uncaring but I wanted more comforting words than I'll pray for him (and maybe a couple things that I already knew). Heck, I was praying the Divine Mercy and Rosary for an hour, and that phone call not only didn't accomplish anything, I feel worse off, not getting more than the short responses he gave. My prayers were much better than the banal I'll Pray For Him that I got from Father S.

Did your dad pass away?

 

[Lady Bug]

Did your dad pass away?

Yes

 

[FaithT]

Yes

I’m so sorry for your loss. My dad died when I was home in the shower. I got a call to come to the hospital because it was about time, but he was already gone. They just didn’t want to tell me on the phone.

 

[Michie]

Lord have mercy. Praying for all of you. Including your Dad. PM me his name and I’ll put him in our prayer book at Church and light some candles.

 

[Anhelyna]

Lord have mercy !
But try and be at peace as he is now free of all his pain and discomfort .

Eternal Memory !

 

[Susie~Q]

I am so sorry. I think the priest should have shown more compassion. It sounds like your dad went peacefully, that's a comfort at least. You have been a wonderful daughter, don't forget that. You did more for your dad than a lot of people would do for their dying parent.

You are in my prayers and remember I am here for you. Hugs.

 

[Lady Bug]

Am I living in fantasy land or does it seem quite coincidental that my dad seemed to wait until I got to the hospital at my usual time, before passing?

 

[FaithT]

Am I living in fantasy land or does it seem quite coincidental that my dad seemed to wait until I got to the hospital at my usual time, before passing?

Maybe he wanted you to be there?