
I knew I'd be in trouble for this one!!! :o After reading and re-reading that before I posted it, I still knew it would be trouble. That's why I put the title. I am coming here with an opinion, but honestly seeking an answer.
And where are the smilies that show how embarassed I am?
My wife told me that she doesn't appreciate 'shallow' music; her music is deep and intellectual (and she enjoys country, Elvis, and romantic songs). Those words are where I went wrong. I just always used those words when discussing my music, and never thought that they might properly apply to other music.
Now, to re-word it somewhat: *All* of the women I know (past or present) roll their eyes when I talk about Rush or Yes or any of the aforementioned groups. Their husbands will join in with vigor, but the women will retire to another room. I remember one evening when four married couples got together and music came up. I mentioned that I had tickets to see Rush that month, and all the guys went "Oh, wow!" The women responded as if I'd said something about boxing (which I can't stand!) and left the room.
Until now, I believed women
generally enjoyed listening to rock and roll, perhaps even hard rock, but when it came to heavy metal they drew the line. When it came to lyrics that weren't about emotions, they didn't go there. When it came to music that celebrated the works of Tolkein, they stopped paying attention.
Ah, that's where I had seen the problems: Fantasy. All of the groups I mentioned had some roots in the works of J.R.R.Tolkein. And, along the way, I had equated fantasy with intellectualism. After all, the only people who enjoyed Tolkein in the 1980s were geeks with Coke-bottle glasses. We were the first to have computers. We played Dungeons and Dragons in dark basements that resembled dungeons. And our music reflected our love of wizards and orcs and sorcery.
So, I put the question to you again, hopefully without being offensive:
Did you openly listen to this music 20 years ago? Or did you pretend to like something else for the sake of society?