United 2 Restore (and a few other groups) are centered around Ezekiel 37:17 which states about Ezekiel taking the two sticks into his hand, “Then JOIN them one to another for yourself into one stick, and they will become one in your hand.” The thing is, the word for “join” in this verse is qarav, and it isn't so much “join” as it is “draw near.” So Ezekiel draws the two sticks near one another but they remain unique, they remain the sticks/houses of Judah and Joseph, UNTIL God makes them echad in HIS HAND (vs. 19). Exactly what we will look like at that point is something only God knows. I suspect both sticks will give in a little and both sticks will find out that they aren't right about everything. As God has said through Jeremiah, twice, “I will indeed discipline you but only in due measure.” We will all be corrected which should be the foundation for a humbling of us all. That Great Wall of religious pride simply can't be part of this movement.
That is why so many have determined, prayerfully, that living in mutual respect of one another is the only way we can “draw near” and respect who each is, individually, until God makes us one. But, mutual respect is not just something we say, we HAVE TO make it part of how we live, how we approach each other. If we are trying to make the other stick accept the beliefs and practices of our stick, that is not mutual respect. God promised to make us one, HE WILL DO IT, in His timing, not ours. So, we have to decide between us trusting what He said He will do, or continue trying to do His work for Him. The House of Judah and the House of Israel will become one united House of Israel again and forever. God has promised, it is written, it will be done.