moving into the mature thread

[dayhiker]

that reminds me .. when I was about 25 I realized that people talked quite often about being young, middle age or old. So I figured of the average person lives to be 75 that was 25 years for each period of our life. So I turned 26 I started to say I was middle age! People didn't like that one bit! Even tho I was talking about myself.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Hahahahahaha! Oh daykiker! you always make me laugh . But seriously isn't 40 more like middle aged cuz most people live to be late 70's or early 80's right?

I just tell people I'm older than dirt

 

[sampa]

But I always like to dance a little in my little french made costume when I'm cleaning!

LOL

Too much information.

The forties is where freedom begins. ....)

Yes, we'll see. I know there's so many things I've not experienced yet that others experience in their 20s, but I am seeing more awareness about a lot of things I wasn't in my 20s. for example driving.

 

[aloou]

I too don't feel like I fit in. In some ways I am more mature than my peers. I got pregnant at 19 and my daughter is now 13 so I have lived the mid-thirties life in my twenties. I was a devoted stay at home mom, never partied in my 20's and got wild so now at 33 after being on my own for 15 years and having so much life experience and hardships I often feel much older. Many of my peers are just getting married and starting to have babies. I did everything backwards all the way through so I never really fit in. I'd like to get married and have more children (in my 30's) lol because I feel it is what I am really good at and what I was made for. With my daughter's impending climb towards 18 I am in a sort of identity crisis. What the heck I will do with myself I have no idea.

On a side note I find much of the Singles Only group conversation to be tedious and I like the idea of the mature singles group but not too many people post here. Rats!

 

[sampa]

Alouu, I sortof know what you mean. I've met others when I was that age and they say "sometimes I wonder what it would have been like if I didn't marry or children". I look at them and usually remind them there's a tradeoff. Alouu you didin't do it backwards at all. after your daughter graduates and moves out, so will begin a new chapter that many just starting won't have. My mom was 38 when I left for the Army and she's adjusted well.

You've gotten past the "me only" selfish years that many waste in their younger years. One of my few regrets. Remember The Lord is good all the time and His love indures forever. Blessings and Hugs my sister in Christ. .

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Well said Sampa! And as far as not many posting here, maybe we need to have an invite or something? . I check out the regular singles section, but alot of times there's not that much content to relate to and then I come here and there's not much going on here either.....IDK

 

[sampa]

Well said Sampa! And as far as not many posting here, maybe we need to have an invite or something? . I check out the regular singles section, but alot of times there's not that much content to relate to and then I come here and there's not much going on here either.....IDK

Invite, you mean inviting singles over? I have an idea, will let you know this weekend. Off to bible study (singles) its 30 miles away. Blessings Michelle and enjoy your weekend if we don't talk before.

 

[dayhiker]

I think the following of our group has grown over the past few months. But it also seems that some come and hang out for a while, or post on one topic and then we don't see them again for quite a while. Not sure why that is.

Great day in NE. some son and some clouds, not too hot. I think there is a dance I'm going to tonight. Will be good to shake the feet, its been a month since I've been dancing.

 

[power2theweak]

Have fun, dayhiker!!!

Hot here--over a hundred again!!!

 

[dayhiker]

So I checked out the dance ... it was too far away. So no dancing for me.

 

[aloou]

Alouu, I sortof know what you mean. I've met others when I was that age and they say "sometimes I wonder what it would have been like if I didn't marry or children". I look at them and usually remind them there's a tradeoff. Alouu you didin't do it backwards at all. after your daughter graduates and moves out, so will begin a new chapter that many just starting won't have. My mom was 38 when I left for the Army and she's adjusted well.

You've gotten past the "me only" selfish years that many waste in their younger years. One of my few regrets. Remember The Lord is good all the time and His love indures forever. Blessings and Hugs my sister in Christ. .

This is true friend! Thank you.

 

[sampa]

I think the following of our group has grown over the past few months. But it also seems that some come and hang out for a while, or post on one topic and then we don't see them again for quite a while. Not sure why that is.

will pray on this.....trust the Lord. Are you ready for this group to grow, with growth comes responsibility. And there will definitely need to be a core group commited to prayer.

As I'm finding with the singles ministry I'm in now. Our singles ministry leader was ready to throw in the towel back in December, about the time I came. I have a quiet leading about things and some others (men of God) stepped up to the plate. They are also maturing both in their character, fellowship and faith. but I did notice that I'd let my prayer slide for a while after the bible study leader said he'd experienced spiritual warfare for 3 weeks, like this other guy that needed prayer in the study. I can't make a commitment at this time, as I may not have internet soon, but possibly in the future.

I will try to add some steady postings in this community as I can and pray that it is the Lords will for it to grow and be consistent in encouragement and development. And even so, it would be interesting if younger joined in to ask and seek wisdom from fellow brothers and sisters that can act as mentors
In Christ,

 

[dayhiker]

Sampa,
I see web groups like this one to be places to share our life, give a little of our experience that might give things for others to meditate on and I guess in general each person is free to be a part of the group in what every way it is meaningful to them.
I've been here for years now, because I really enjoy the interaction. Its an interact that accepts people for who they are for the most part. Tho exit did get a reaction for the ladies!

We pray for prayer requests that are given in posts, but I'm not sure otherwise how I'd pray for this group of CF people.