Eventually "life" happens and we need God, or the spiritual aspect in our lives.
Are you denying my friend's experience and perspective? As a complete stranger to him, you know the secret corners of his life better than he does, or than I do? Interesting.
There was a reason Jesus said that there would be few who would find him, the Narrow Way, and travel the narrow road of life with God (
Matthew 7:13-14). Life is full of very pleasant, very pleasurable, alternatives to Christ and the suffering and self-sacrifice he said was integral to following after him. (
Matthew 16:24-25) My friend was not unique. In modern, western societies, many go from one end of their life to the other never needing God. And these comfortable, affluent, self-sufficient folk look at the offer of the crucified life and laugh at it. If there is nothing more beyond the grave, why wouldn't they?
The person with an anchor is not adrift on the sea of uncertainty that those without God suffer from. Whether they realize they are suffering or not.
And all of this is true whether there is an afterlife or not.
I don't deny, of course, that life for many is fraught with trouble and that God can be a sheltering cove in the ocean storms of life. My point was that, without the prospect of life beyond the grave, there is far higher incentive logically to live selfishly in the now than to walk the difficult narrow way of a disciple of Jesus and diminish the pleasure one may obtain in the short, singular existence that is life in doing so. That God can be a tremendous support for people in trouble does not really diminish the force of this line of reasoning. If this temporal life was all there was, "eat, drink and be merry for tomorrow we die," would be an eminently reasonable proposition.
What's interesting, too, is that the godless who encounter life's troubles often use those troubles, not as impetus to find God and His love and care, but to rail against Him, as proof of His cruelty and malice. I've talked with many unbelievers over the years who do just this. For them, the pain and suffering of life is further proof that the good God of the Bible must be false.
Seems unlikely that our merciful heavenly Father would do such a thing. Jesus tells us that it is godly behavior to love our enemies. (verse 48) What we claim God will do to his enemies makes him worse than a pagan, or a tax collector. (traitor) Scripture below.
If we only love those who love us, what reward will we get? (verse 46) And then we claim God will incinerate his enemies? Say what?
This "merciful heavenly Father" is the One who cast Adam and Eve from Eden forever, allowing the curse of their sin to corrupt and stain the World (and you and I); He is the One who in His wrath flooded the world, drowning all but Noah and his family; He is the One who destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah with fire; He is the One who commanded his Chosen People to act as His arm of judgment and destroy the evil pagan nations who had set themselves as enemies of Israel; He is the One who opened the earth to swallow the rebellious among the Israelites; He is the One who killed all the first-born of Egypt (after setting plague after plague upon them).
So, yes, God is merciful but He isn't
only so. He is also a holy God, a God of justice and judgment, which is reflected in His wrathful punishment of the unrepentant wicked in hell.
Of course, God shows love and mercy to His enemies by giving them a way through Christ to escape His holy, just wrath. No one
has to go to hell. As C.S. Lewis pointed out, "the door to hell is locked from the inside." Ultimately, the man who finds himself in hell has chosen to be there.
I see God's terrible, eternal punishment of the unrepentant wicked, not as a testament to God's cruelty, but as a testament to the incredible awfulness of our sin. Just as the punishment is formed to fit the crime - mostly - in human justice, so, too, God's punishment addresses the deep wickedness of the "crime" of our sin. The punishment of hell is a testament to the true vileness, the deep evil, of our sin. Our sin, after all, is against God Himself, the Creator and Sustainer of All, the Infinite King and Lord of All Creation. If God is small in a person's eyes, the magnitude of their sin against Him will appear correspondingly small; if God's holiness is ignored or given short shrift in a person's thinking, His holy wrath meted out upon sin will seem inordinate. Hell, however, stands as a stark reminder of the "exceeding sinfulness of sin."
We are creatures born in sin, living in it, even loving it, surrounded by it in the World ruled and shaped by the devil. It is no surprise, then, that we lose perspective - God's perspective - on the nature of our sin. Being so comfortable in sin, sinners cannot understand God's severe hatred of sin. Surely, God cannot hate so much the sin we love; our sin cannot be so bad as to deserve hell. We must make God more like us; we must conform Him to our thinking such that He views our sin more like we do. But God's word remains, unchanging and clear:
Isaiah 59:2
2 But your iniquities have separated between you and your God, and your sins have hid his face from you, that he will not hear.
Psalm 1:5-6
5 Therefore the ungodly shall not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous.
6 For the LORD knows the way of the righteous: but the way of the ungodly shall perish.
John 3:36
36 He who believes on the Son has everlasting life: and he that believes not the Son shall not see life; but the wrath of God abides on him.
Luke 16:22-24
22 ...the rich man also died, and was buried;
23 And in hell he lifted up his eyes, being in torments, and seeing Abraham afar off, and Lazarus in his bosom.
24 And he cried and said, Father Abraham, have mercy on me, and send Lazarus, that he may dip the tip of his finger in water, and cool my tongue; for I am tormented in this flame.
Matthew 25:41-46
41 Then shall he say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from me, you cursed, into everlasting fire, prepared for the devil and his angels:
42 For I was hungry, and you gave me no meat: I was thirsty, and you gave me no drink:
43 I was a stranger, and you took me not in: naked, and you clothed me not: sick, and in prison, and you visited me not.
44 Then shall they also answer him, saying, Lord, when did we see you hungry, or thirsty, or a stranger, or naked, or sick, or in prison, and did not minister unto you?
45 Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as you did it not to one of the least of these, you did it not to me.
46 And these shall go away into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into life eternal.