miscarried just on Nov 1st

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Hi Ladies,

Just passing through. Please consider the following comments from a well meaning guy who is truly sorry for your loss.

14 years ago, my wife miscarried our twins early on. It was her first pregnancy. It was a difficult time for both of us. Sometimes, as a consequence of Adam's sin, bad things just happen in this world. Sometimes a miscarriage is just God's way of making sure that everything that comes out has a fighting chance.

As I am a Christian, and believe that life begins at conception, I count them in my heart as two of my children. I have full confidence that both of them are nestled in the arms of my Heavenly Father, unblemished and unspotted from living in this world, waiting to meet me when I come Home. Should you feel guilty? No. Should you hurt? Probably. What good could ever come from such a thing? Someday, 14 years from now, you may find yourself cruising a message board reading something and because God has made your heart softer, you know exactly how someone feels. Maybe you can say some small thing that would be helpful. God has blessed me with 2 more wonderful children since, but I still have the memory of my "first two". Does it ever go completely away? No. Can you eventually rationalize it so it makes perfect sense? Probably not. But in time, you find a way to make your peace with it...

I apologize in advance if this post comes across overly melodramatic. The feelings and concern are real even if the words were not chosen properly.

God bless you all.

This was a wonderful post JDIBe!! I totally agree. I too have have miscarriages...three in one year! I know that my babies are in heaven with God, being well taken care of and I will be with them one day! Does it make me yearn for them any less...no, it does not, but it does comfort me. Who better to care for your children then God! My heart and prayers go out to each one of you who posted of the loss of your child! It was a very confusing time for me. All aspects were affected, spiritual, physical, mental and emotional! That was 4 years ago and I still haven't completely sprung back. I think the spiritual one was the hardest one! Since then depression has been a battle for me. I think it was always there but all the stress and pain really brought it to the forefront! The pain does go away though! It will be hard for you for a while but it will get better. Don't give up and when you are ready, you will have another child. No one can replace the one you lost but you will have lots of love to give to your next child ! Blessings to you all.

 

[Buttermilk]

hey guys...it has been a long time... i don't have a computer, so i can't get on very often... I know that May 22 is going to be a VERY hard day for me...my due date

i ask for prayers for my cousin...he lost his 2 month old baby the WEEK of Christmas of SIDS..He is doing okay now...he has his good and bad days.

s and s