Correct. Most Christians fall prey to something called "confirmation bias", where they selectively interpret scripture so that it confirms their beliefs about debatable matters. The language in the Bible contains nuance, ambiguity, and occasional exaggeration... leaving us with the living, liquid, divine word of God that can't just be "decoded" into black and white.
That's why it's important to study the Bible and to seek an understanding of different perspectives. The commentaries that I respect the most will say something like, "There are four common interpretations of this verse" and go through each of them without showing a clear bias. Bible commentaries also help us to understand the original language and cultural context that provides important background for understanding.
What saddens me most about Christian Forums is how often confirmation bias and narrow-minded thinking leads to condemnation. While I'm sure that this site is a blessing for many, it also can cause severe damage to those who accept distorted condemnation as Biblical truth because it comes from someone who quotes scripture.
Do I have confirmation bias? Of course... we all do. That's why I try to approach every debate with a notion that I could be wrong. You can't simplify every question to make it black and white. Circumstances matter. What's in a person's heart and mind matters. A person's unique sanctification matters. We can't know all of those factors.
To everyone responding to these types of questions: please be careful. Trivializing a person's inner struggles can be devastating. We all fall short of God's perfect plan for us, but he released us from the slavery of the law. Condemnation takes a person away from God. Encouragement and support is more likely to point a person towards God... then the Holy Spirit can convict perfectly and the rules aren't nearly as agonizing.
