So basically you need to find a quiet, docile, obedient woman who puts out regularly and without complaint, who will attend to your every need and never have a bad mood or negative thought,
It sounds like a pretty good list, overall, for an ideal bride. Not that there are many women exactly like this. 'Quiet' is a relative term. The idea candidate for a Christian wife has a 'meek and quiet spirit, which is in the site of God, of great price.'
Docile and obedient? Being obedient to God is a positive characteristic. I Peter 3 encourages wives with the example of the submission of Sarah who 'obeyed Abraham, calling him lord.' If a girlfriend is obedient to her boyfriend, that isn't necessarily a positive sign, though. Obedience to her father is. If she is obedient to her boyfriend, she could be the codependent type. If she is obedient to her parents because this is what the Lord commands, even though she is the type of person who knows how to think on her own, who has a will, a drive to do things, that is good. Power under control is a good thing. Self-control and obedience to the word of God are good things.
After a woman marries, she is to submit to her husband. She does not have to submit to her boyfriend, and in a lot of cases, it is a really bad idea to do so.
Never have a bad mood or negative though? That's not likely to happen. Seeing how she deals with bad moods can be helpful. If she learns to take every thought captive unto the obedience of Christ, that is a good thing, too.
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who is a virgin that loves sex, who doesn't have any ambitions of her own except to serve you and the lord.
Yes, a virgin who loves sex. What an ideal for a bride. But how would she know how much she loves sex if she is a virgin? It is good if a woman has a healthy attitude toward sex and if both husband and wife go into marriage with the understanding that each is to meet the other's sexual needs. If both are virgins, sex drive may be hard to predict. If she is not a virgin and says she has a high sex drive, we've all heard the stereotype of women who love sex before marriage, but don't want to have it much after marriage. (Maybe this is a bad side effect of fornication for some people.)
On ambition, her having ambitions that are compatible with your own seems a bit more realistic. A lot of men are not attractive to unimaginative women with extremely low ambition.
A desire to serve the Lord is a key trait to find in a wife. If she is flawed in numerous other areas (and who isn't) the desire to serve the Lord can motivate her to yield to the Lord when it comes to the other areas of her life.
Good luck with that.
This type of flawless, perfect person does not exist.
Good point. And if a young man finds a woman like this, he should ask himself, "If she is so perfect, why would she want to be with me?" I suppose there are a number of godly women who fit all or most of these characteristics, but some of these things can take time to develop beyond an ideal age for marriage. Some of this type of character development comes through difficulties faced in marriage.
Titus 2 tells the older women to teach the younger women to love their husbands, how to care for the home, to submit to their husbands, etc. The reason this has to be taught is that there are women who don't do this automatically. It
needs to be taught, and it can take some time.
If a man insists on the idea woman, a 'perfect 10' in looks, with all these characteristics, and actually finds one, then he should be just as perfect as well. Otherwise, why would she settle for him. In real life, people have flaws and don't live up to all our ideas.
Fearing the Lord and loving the Lord are two top characteristics for a wife. A lot of the other character issues can be straightened out over time if she loves and fears the Lord. I would still encourage young men looking to look for a 'meek and quiet spirit', someone who forgives easily and does not get upset about small things too easily, someone who is not controlling, who is submissive to authority, and who can accept what the Bible has to say about marriage. Agreement on what marriage is supposed to be like is important.