Hi everyone,
I figured there may be some other people on this particular board who share some of my struggles, so I figured I'd share.
I became a Christian when I was about 15 (I'm 25 now). My family never went to church (well, we did go to Presbyterian church when I was very young, but my mom left because the preacher said that homosexuality was wrong). I was very gung-ho when I first became a Christian, and was highly obnoxious and irritating. I told my family they were going to hell unless they believed, constantly spouting stuff like that.
I went to Bible college, then another Christian college, and was involved in lots of different churches.
I dealt with major depression, an eating disorder, and some other issues, and they opened my eyes to what some evangelical Christians are like. It knocked me down off my pedestal of assurance that I used to talk down to people from, and made me open my eyes to some things about Christianity that I'd been trying to run from.
Now, I have problems with even the basic tenets. I don't understand the salvation thing. It seems cruel. I used to ask "Why couldn't God just choose to save everyone?", and people would reply "Well, He wants people to worship Him, if people didn't have free choice, it would be like automatons worshiping, which doesn't mean much."
That made sense to me for awhile until I reflected on it- Our loving, almighty God has created billions upon billions of people with the possibility that they could endure eternal, torturous punishment, because He wants to be worshiped? Does that sound right, just, loving? To me, it makes God sound like a despotic, selfish tyrant unconcerned with our well being.
None of us asked to be put in this equation. I did not ask to be born. Why on earth are we to be blamed for a sin nature that isn't our fault? People say we still have free choice. But, let's say I was breeding dogs, and had the opportunity to breed the tendency to bite out of them. But I choose to leave it in there for some reason. Sure, it will ultimately be the resultant dog's choice whether or not to bite, but wouldn't I be held responsible because I could've prevented the possibility entirely?
I know all the lines, all the evangelical answers. I've been taught them, I've taught them to others. They don't suffice for me any more.
One of the main things that damages my faith is the Bible. It seems that, unless I strictly stick to Jesus' words, I find something that seems horrible. God ordering people to kill babies, stoning "witches", etc. Is this really the loving ruler of the universe? He loves all of us that he sent His Son to die for us (to fix a problem He could prevent), apparently except for the babies that were to be dashed against rocks because their parents weren't of the right faith, among others. People talk about the old and new covenant...I don't buy that as an excuse for the Old Testament. Besides, what role would babies play in that at all? Even if people say that God doled out punishment in the OT, what exactly would babies have been guilty of that they should have died so violently?
I'm getting married soon, and we want to have kids. What am I supposed to tell them? I think I'll probably feed them some Christian lines, trying to get them "saved", because I'm afraid that there's a chance it's true. I think a lot of it comes down to that. I know quite a few Christians who I believe are motivated by fear. It's really an excellent control system, psychologically.
I'm not trying to be blasphemous. Many evangelical Christians become VERY hostile when I bring these things up, as if I'm doing it for fun. These things break my heart. It's SO difficult to live in "faith limbo" like this. I WISH I could believe like some people do, like I used to. Feel free to tell me that I should just believe it because God says it, but that doesn't change things.
So, I don't know. I don't expect answers or anything, but I just wanted to put this out there.
I figured there may be some other people on this particular board who share some of my struggles, so I figured I'd share.
I became a Christian when I was about 15 (I'm 25 now). My family never went to church (well, we did go to Presbyterian church when I was very young, but my mom left because the preacher said that homosexuality was wrong). I was very gung-ho when I first became a Christian, and was highly obnoxious and irritating. I told my family they were going to hell unless they believed, constantly spouting stuff like that.
I went to Bible college, then another Christian college, and was involved in lots of different churches.
I dealt with major depression, an eating disorder, and some other issues, and they opened my eyes to what some evangelical Christians are like. It knocked me down off my pedestal of assurance that I used to talk down to people from, and made me open my eyes to some things about Christianity that I'd been trying to run from.
Now, I have problems with even the basic tenets. I don't understand the salvation thing. It seems cruel. I used to ask "Why couldn't God just choose to save everyone?", and people would reply "Well, He wants people to worship Him, if people didn't have free choice, it would be like automatons worshiping, which doesn't mean much."
That made sense to me for awhile until I reflected on it- Our loving, almighty God has created billions upon billions of people with the possibility that they could endure eternal, torturous punishment, because He wants to be worshiped? Does that sound right, just, loving? To me, it makes God sound like a despotic, selfish tyrant unconcerned with our well being.
None of us asked to be put in this equation. I did not ask to be born. Why on earth are we to be blamed for a sin nature that isn't our fault? People say we still have free choice. But, let's say I was breeding dogs, and had the opportunity to breed the tendency to bite out of them. But I choose to leave it in there for some reason. Sure, it will ultimately be the resultant dog's choice whether or not to bite, but wouldn't I be held responsible because I could've prevented the possibility entirely?
I know all the lines, all the evangelical answers. I've been taught them, I've taught them to others. They don't suffice for me any more.
One of the main things that damages my faith is the Bible. It seems that, unless I strictly stick to Jesus' words, I find something that seems horrible. God ordering people to kill babies, stoning "witches", etc. Is this really the loving ruler of the universe? He loves all of us that he sent His Son to die for us (to fix a problem He could prevent), apparently except for the babies that were to be dashed against rocks because their parents weren't of the right faith, among others. People talk about the old and new covenant...I don't buy that as an excuse for the Old Testament. Besides, what role would babies play in that at all? Even if people say that God doled out punishment in the OT, what exactly would babies have been guilty of that they should have died so violently?
I'm getting married soon, and we want to have kids. What am I supposed to tell them? I think I'll probably feed them some Christian lines, trying to get them "saved", because I'm afraid that there's a chance it's true. I think a lot of it comes down to that. I know quite a few Christians who I believe are motivated by fear. It's really an excellent control system, psychologically.
I'm not trying to be blasphemous. Many evangelical Christians become VERY hostile when I bring these things up, as if I'm doing it for fun. These things break my heart. It's SO difficult to live in "faith limbo" like this. I WISH I could believe like some people do, like I used to. Feel free to tell me that I should just believe it because God says it, but that doesn't change things.
So, I don't know. I don't expect answers or anything, but I just wanted to put this out there.