Loneliness

[PeculiarTreasure]

I'm feeling better today. Praise Jesus.

 

[AWorkInProgress]

I'm feeling better today. Praise Jesus.

Amen! Glad to hear!

 

[servantsheart4God]

I agree with Aworkinprogress

The internet is great, and you can build some amazing friendships through it. It can help people who are shy to have some more connection with man kind.

But...still people need to have connection with people in face to face encourages. It is a different experience.

Just some questions I thought of.

Are we to be monks and hermits who spend 12 days lock up in our rooms, praying...so that we will be completely focused on Christ? To find compete 100% satisfactions in Him, and not the World or humans.

How do we balance having friendship, including an SO and/or romantic interest AND our friends, with our relationship with Christ?

Just thoughts, and wondering what you'all think.

very interesting inquisitions, the very one's i've thought of myself...how do we balance these encounters with others?.....

definately a 'healthy' balance of friend/relationships is the tricky part. I feel it first depends on what level our apparent 'need' for human encounters is on. Some may have that even balance of both, but puts God at the top of the balance chart. While others (like myself) need to be reminded that although human encounters with either/or is a need in our everyday lives, and God encourages it, THE question IS where exactly do I or we, place God on that chart....IF i placed Him at the top then everything else falls in line and is in balance with others, and all is right with the world . If not, then things are just out of wack and off line, outa line, off-balance and so on...

All in all, I struggle with placing God at the top of my chart in accordance with His Word. Not a matter of trust, love or faith in Him, just merely human nature to want to jump into other things that I feel are a need in my life RIGHT NOW, but apparently just the flesh wanting what it wants.

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

All in all, I struggle with placing God at the top of my chart in accordance with His Word. Not a matter of trust, love or faith in Him, just merely human nature to want to jump into other things that I feel are a need in my life RIGHT NOW, but apparently just the flesh wanting what it wants.

I hear ya on this. I think it's a trust issue with me though.

 

[Philippe2]

How do you deal with loneliness? Not really from not having a SO (although I've been there) but also from not having any/many friends. It's just something I've been dealing with for awhile.

Read Gods word. He is always close by.

 

[AWorkInProgress]

The equation has so many varibles that we never get it down to exact numbers.

If your social life is lived behind a computer screen or TV screen. We already covered that.

If you are meeting people, but not sharing what is in your heart due to fear or whatever. Just work on it.

Ultimately some of us just hate being by ourselves for reasons beyond are ability to "fix". Just create an envirement which is rich in relationships, and be open to oppertunities that God place before you.

Even when we have everything we want, still long for that special someone. Just what God written in us.

Since I been opening up, sharing my intrests and being open to others. I can sense these new oppertunities in people around me. Couple times now I get the sense I could farther than simple chit chat if I desired to. Which opens up door way to new relationship oppertunities to sow and reap.

Assuming I want to take that action. I risk nothing, I gain nothing. How many times have oppertunities arised and fear/doubt cuts off risk of some new relationship?

 

[Sindyan]

very interesting inquisitions, the very one's i've thought of myself...how do we balance these encounters with others?.....

definately a 'healthy' balance of friend/relationships is the tricky part. I feel it first depends on what level our apparent 'need' for human encounters is on. Some may have that even balance of both, but puts God at the top of the balance chart. While others (like myself) need to be reminded that although human encounters with either/or is a need in our everyday lives, and God encourages it, THE question IS where exactly do I or we, place God on that chart....IF i placed Him at the top then everything else falls in line and is in balance with others, and all is right with the world . If not, then things are just out of wack and off line, outa line, off-balance and so on...

All in all, I struggle with placing God at the top of my chart in accordance with His Word. Not a matter of trust, love or faith in Him, just merely human nature to want to jump into other things that I feel are a need in my life RIGHT NOW, but apparently just the flesh wanting what it wants.

Aye, it is such a hard balance. God said in the beginning "It is not good for man to be alone". God was there with Adam...yet God said Adam was alone. I think this shows that a part of the human experience...God doesn't fillfull. Not that He can't, but becaues he doesn't. Even more so...what did God created for? No, not an male accountability partner, priest, or anything...He created a women. A women to be his side, and he as her side.

I have come to the conclusion that the idea of to be completely content in your single hood, and to find completeness in God is not realistic...unless he had called you to singlehood for the rest of your life. There is a God shaped hole in our hearts. There is also a spouse shape hole in our hearts also. There is also a friendship shaped hole in our hearts

The problem that happens with people...including myself...is that we try to put a person in the hole that God is supposed to be. If it's a romantic interest or a friend...we can't be doing that.

God is supposed to be our Source of Joy. Our friends are just the icing on top of the Cake

God is supposed to be where our sense of identity that allows us to keep pushing even through set backs. Our romantic interesting calling us beautiful, handsome, strong, etc is just the extra push that we need.

Our friends, and romantic interest are supposed to only Add into our lives.

 

[Teufelhund]

Are we to be monks forever in solitude? I think not, I doubt that God intends man to be alone. Some people are drawn to solitude and it is beautiful, others are drawn to be around people. Both ways have advantages, in solitude, it sometimes easier to see the truthes that others miss, but it is difficult to be complete without others. I think that some people are destined to be this way and for them it may be good. But I do not wish to be this way. I wish to be in the world, a part of it.

 

[servantsheart4God]

Aye, it is such a hard balance. God said in the beginning "It is not good for man to be alone". God was there with Adam...yet God said Adam was alone. I think this shows that a part of the human experience...God doesn't fillfull. Not that He can't, but becaues he doesn't. Even more so...what did God created for? No, not an male accountability partner, priest, or anything...He created a women. A women to be his side, and he as her side.

I have come to the conclusion that the idea of to be completely content in your single hood, and to find completeness in God is not realistic...unless he had called you to singlehood for the rest of your life. There is a God shaped hole in our hearts. There is also a spouse shape hole in our hearts also. There is also a friendship shaped hole in our hearts

The problem that happens with people...including myself...is that we try to put a person in the hole that God is supposed to be. If it's a romantic interest or a friend...we can't be doing that.

God is supposed to be our Source of Joy. Our friends are just the icing on top of the Cake

God is supposed to be where our sense of identity that allows us to keep pushing even through set backs. Our romantic interesting calling us beautiful, handsome, strong, etc is just the extra push that we need.

Our friends, and romantic interest are supposed to only Add into our lives.

good stuff, which has birthed a new research within me, the study of singleness vs. a divided life . Thx!

 

[servantsheart4God]

Are we to be monks forever in solitude? I think not, I doubt that God intends man to be alone. Some people are drawn to solitude and it is beautiful, others are drawn to be around people. Both ways have advantages, in solitude, it sometimes easier to see the truthes that others miss, but it is difficult to be complete without others. I think that some people are destined to be this way and for them it may be good. But I do not wish to be this way. I wish to be in the world, a part of it.

see ur point, and a good one, i might add

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

Just a small update:

I called the Ministry today to make sure they got my application. They said they did which is great! Someone was supposed to call me back to give me further instruction but never did. I've been nervous about it all day! (Since I'm shy me and the phone don't get along) I guess I'll have to call back tomorrow.

 

[servantsheart4God]

praying God's will for you .

Lord, hear the prayers of my dear friend. You know the situation and the condition of her heart. Please bless her with Your favor to be able to accomplish Your will for her life. I stand in the gap for my friend and lift her up to You. Go before her Father, and guide her steps to her destiny. Equip her with the courage to step up and claim her blessing You promised to her. Place those before her that only serve as an encouragement in her life. Let her stand in Your promises and reveal the godly woman from within her. Thank you, Father for what you've done in this young woman's life, what You are doing and what you continue to do. May it all be for her good and Your glory. In Jesus name, I pray. Amen and amen.

now go get 'em!

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

praying God's will for you .

Lord, hear the prayers of my dear friend. You know the situation and the condition of her heart. Please bless her with Your favor to be able to accomplish Your will for her life. I stand in the gap for my friend and lift her up to You. Go before her Father, and guide her steps to her destiny. Equip her with the courage to step up and claim her blessing You promised to her. Place those before her that only serve as an encouragement in her life. Let her stand in Your promises and reveal the godly woman from within her. Thank you, Father for what you've done in this young woman's life, what You are doing and what you continue to do. May it all be for her good and Your glory. In Jesus name, I pray. Amen and amen.

now go get 'em!

Thanks so much for your beautiful prayer.

 

[servantsheart4God]

awe , dont mention it sister, glad i can pray for you, now walk in your promises and favor - and keep us posted!

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

awe , dont mention it sister, glad i can pray for you, now walk in your promises and favor - and keep us posted!

I will most def. keep ya'll updated!

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

I called back this morning. I left yet another message. The person that picked up said they return voice mail. Well why didn't they yesterday?

I'm just getting rather frustrated.

 

[servantsheart4God]

This is my security that I can rest in....

Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future."

...and you can do the same

many , dear friend

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

This is my security that I can rest in....

Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future."

...and you can do the same

many , dear friend

Thanks so much.

 

[silentpoet]

I called back this morning. I left yet another message. The person that picked up said they return voice mail. Well why didn't they yesterday?

I'm just getting rather frustrated.

Life is like that alot of times. It is nothing personal, just the friction of life. What I am glad to see is you are going after it and not quiting when there is a minor obstacle. You are showing that you have what it will take to succeed.

 

[servantsheart4God]

I called back this morning. I left yet another message. The person that picked up said they return voice mail. Well why didn't they yesterday?

I'm just getting rather frustrated.

Life is like that alot of times. It is nothing personal, just the friction of life. What I am glad to see is you are going after it and not quiting when there is a minor obstacle. You are showing that you have what it will take to succeed.

thats a very good point, and an excellent way of looking at it, very positive on your end and their's, keep up that persistance