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Tell if you love(d) or hate(d) being a pastor's kid, and tell why, if you feel like it.
swingnscream said:But the actual "job" or "postion" of being a PK isn't nearly as horrible ...after you get the hang of it and don't let the title intimdate you too much.
I would have to say, I couldn't imagine doing what my parents do by choice. So maybe I'm closer to hating it?...I don't know, but it's got it's perks every once and again as well. ...and of course it comes with a billion of stories, yearly!
Ivy said:But one thing that still really burns me up is people who say, "Pastor's kids? They're the worst!" That's stereotyping. I feel like saying,"Oh, that's a thing you know? What pastor's kids are like?" Give me a break.
Ivy said:One great perk I got was a key to the church!
swingnscream said:I haven't heard that one. I have heard of ppl who think things like that, and yeah it makes ya come up with all kinds of evil plans. But there's always going to be ppl who over-generalize anything, and you have to look at them really really stupidly and laugh.
The dumbest thing I've ever personally heard [and it was about me] is: "you can't date her...she's the pastor's daughter!" It's always good to find out you have some kind of "terminal illness" like that from over-hearing ridiculious ppl talk.
prettybaby661 said:Pros
growing up with church in the hme gave me a foundation on which I've built my own pricnipals and relationship with God. I always had someone to go to who I knew had my best interest at heart, and would sit a listen debate, and truly have converstaions regarding the bible. Many things you miss from just listening to sermons.
Cons
having my father as my pastor made it very difficult for me to seperat someone who was not always the best father, and the man who would preach about eternal dammantion. It took a very long time to seperate his words from his actions. I hated always feeling like I had to hold my tongue at church and people judging you to be up to no good Simply because of being a Pk (when in actuality It's simply because I was a teenager hello that 's what those years are for to mess up and learn so that you can become a responsible person)
HMSongbird2 said:I've heard something like that about me except it was, "You can't get in an argument with her! She's the pastor's daughter!! Go make up with her." I thought that was funny.
Yeah, a lot of PKs get a bad reputation and that's really frustrating. I hate being labeled as anything. I've come to realize that some label me as a PK as a positive thing, and some label me a PK negatively. One way or another, it's still a label, and it's madening. For goodness' sake, I was born with a label: "Hannah". I just want to be "Hannah".
seeking.IAM said:When I was a kid at home the UMC tended to move pastors about every 3 to 4 years. I didn't like being uprooted from friends just when it seemed that I had finally made them.
I learned that there are many other situations in life besided the parsonage where the appearance of impropriety is just as important as actual impropriety. It's help me have a professional persona on my job seeking.IAM
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seeking.IAM said:So, I hope ya'll understand when I don't show up to eat your greenbean casserole.
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Well, I go back and forth on accepting Christianity sometimes. I can't figure out if I just believe what I believe because its so ingrained into me and I'd be a failure if I didn't or if it is something that is true. I'm happy to be moving out and living on my own so I can have more space and less expectations to be figuring that outIvy said:That's a very good point. I think when I was younger, I didn't realize that it was OK to have different roles in different situations. I thought being honest meant acting the same way in every situation, but it ain't so, is it?
A Rant:
You know, sometimes I feel some anger at the policymakers in the denominations that require all the moving. Don't these dolts in their ivory towers realize that the kids of the clergy matter, too???? That they have just as much need for stability and belongingness as other kids?
They're concerned about "reaching lost souls" and they're making lost souls out of the kids of the clergy! This is a fact. Statistics show that 95% of p.k.'s do not embrace their parents' faith. You can't believe how much invective & bitterness I read on atheist and x-christian sites from PK's. I have four siblings, and they all renounced Christianity but me.
Seriously, I want to know why the denominational higher-ups care so little about the kids of the clergy. I guess their souls don't matter?
And I'll bet there is not one course in any seminary that instructs parents how to integrate the demands of parenting & pastoring, how to help kids deal with image pressures etc. etc. etc. Not one.
I hate to sound so steamed, but I really felt like I did not matter at all in the whole scheme of things, just a piece of (hopefully polished) furniture.
Well, sorry.....I won't always sound so negative I guess I have some stuff built up in my system and have been waiting like years for someone to say it to who would understand.
HMSongbird2 said:Yeah, a lot of PKs get a bad reputation and that's really frustrating. I hate being labeled as anything. I've come to realize that some label me as a PK as a positive thing, and some label me a PK negatively. One way or another, it's still a label, and it's madening. For goodness' sake, I was born with a label: "Hannah". I just want to be "Hannah".
seeking.IAM said:A lasting side-effect: when I retired from active-duty as a PK (i.e., grew up), I vowed to never go to covered-dish dinners. So, I hope ya'll understand when I don't show up to eat your greenbean casserole.
Wow, that's crazy. I'm so sorry to hear that. The denomnation my dad's always been with actually tries to help out the pastor and not having them moving all the time becuz honestly that's not good for anyone including the church. I mean I knew MKs had to deal with those kinds of things, but I didn't know there where denomnations who'd do that kind of thing on purpose. ...I can't imagine.seeking.IAM said:When I was a kid at home the UMC tended to move pastors about every 3 to 4 years.
Yeah, for a short while I had the privilige of going somewhere, where I wasn't the PK, and on top of that it was such a wonderful church. My mom has always taught my siblings and I to be good the pastor [like getting him a small Christmas gift, being encouraging...simple things], even though for most of our lives it's been our dad, it's been a great example set. I definitely say that's one good thing about being a PK, is knowing what it's like being on the inside, and if you take that and turn into respect or just use it for good then you can be an absolute priceless gem to whatever church your at. Because my mom's influence, teaching to use what I've experience for the good of other pastors, I made friends with the pastor at the church I attended even though it was only for a shortwhile. I'm now back at my dad's church but my brother still attends that wonderful church, so I go back to visit when I can.WhereHeLeadsMe said:Does anyone else go to a church that your dad doesnt pastor?