Got to talking to this woman online. She's part of our singles group and we got to talking about some of the male church leaders of that group.
She was saying she liked this particular guy (leader) as he was single, but won't date him because he'll like to have a drink on occasion. Her other friend, that's also a leader, won't date the co-leader...same reason. He'll have a beer...on occasion.
"Occasion" being the operative word here.
She said she liked him and wanted date him, but when he ordered a beer...total deal breaker.
I said to her, "You really need to lighten up on your standards"
and she goes, "That's the problem with Christians, they cave on their standards when they should be giving of themselves ENTIRELY to Christ"
Then we got into a debate about the feast at Cana's wedding and how Jesus turned water into wine...and she said "We're not Jesus" and I said, "Well, that just proves it's not a sin" and she said, "To me it is"
The logic that followed didn't make any sense, but she said she'd rather stay single her entire life than to date a man who drinks a beer on occasion.
I have noticed it's always the women who don't drink, but men...they tend to drink, even have a solo beer/wine on occasion.
She said "it kills the Witness" that someone who is coming to Christ as a newcomer, if they see that they have a drink in hand, it'll discredit that person and discredit their belief IN that person being Christian.
Do some of these ladies need to seriously lighten up and realize that drinking, in moderation, is not a sin?
Then, the truth come out....
She went on about how her husband and family members were alcoholics and abuse came of it and that.
So, her dealbreaker is based off a bad experience. Had she not experienced this, then...this wouldn't be an issue. Somehow she is thinking if her new boyfriend has a beer, that it'll lead him to be an abusive spouse, and beating the childrren...in the future.
Although, not sure if you can connect the two, as there's no real logic to this? But can't say I blame her, but isn't this an example of going from one extreme to the next?
But there seems to be a commonality that she and her female friend somehow thinks that any future guy they are crushing on has one beer, will he be assumed to be an abusive husband simply by having one drink?
So, their decision is predicated on the fact they were victims of alcohol abuse that lead to physical abuse of herself and her children and thusly, she won't date a man that even touches alcohol.
It's more PTSD than a Christian decision.
She was saying she liked this particular guy (leader) as he was single, but won't date him because he'll like to have a drink on occasion. Her other friend, that's also a leader, won't date the co-leader...same reason. He'll have a beer...on occasion.
"Occasion" being the operative word here.
She said she liked him and wanted date him, but when he ordered a beer...total deal breaker.
I said to her, "You really need to lighten up on your standards"
and she goes, "That's the problem with Christians, they cave on their standards when they should be giving of themselves ENTIRELY to Christ"
Then we got into a debate about the feast at Cana's wedding and how Jesus turned water into wine...and she said "We're not Jesus" and I said, "Well, that just proves it's not a sin" and she said, "To me it is"
The logic that followed didn't make any sense, but she said she'd rather stay single her entire life than to date a man who drinks a beer on occasion.
I have noticed it's always the women who don't drink, but men...they tend to drink, even have a solo beer/wine on occasion.
She said "it kills the Witness" that someone who is coming to Christ as a newcomer, if they see that they have a drink in hand, it'll discredit that person and discredit their belief IN that person being Christian.
Do some of these ladies need to seriously lighten up and realize that drinking, in moderation, is not a sin?
Then, the truth come out....
She went on about how her husband and family members were alcoholics and abuse came of it and that.
So, her dealbreaker is based off a bad experience. Had she not experienced this, then...this wouldn't be an issue. Somehow she is thinking if her new boyfriend has a beer, that it'll lead him to be an abusive spouse, and beating the childrren...in the future.
Although, not sure if you can connect the two, as there's no real logic to this? But can't say I blame her, but isn't this an example of going from one extreme to the next?
But there seems to be a commonality that she and her female friend somehow thinks that any future guy they are crushing on has one beer, will he be assumed to be an abusive husband simply by having one drink?
So, their decision is predicated on the fact they were victims of alcohol abuse that lead to physical abuse of herself and her children and thusly, she won't date a man that even touches alcohol.
It's more PTSD than a Christian decision.
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