I'm just curious. Because most Christian seem to think it's fine to kiss their partners before marriage (while still in a relationship), so I'm wondering how it's any different to do it when not in a relationship. After all, a relationship is not formal at all, just like not being in a relationship is not formal.
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Kissing when not in a relationship - is it wrong/sin?
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It's ok if you want a relationship with the one you just kissed. I'm not into kissing men I'm not keen on, just seems inappropriate. Why bother and give false signals like that?
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I'm not talking about myself, ok? I don't go around kissing random men, either. I was asking because I can't really understand how that would be any more wrong than doing it IN a relationship.
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PinkSweetart
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I'm not sure I understand the question. Do you mean like kiss a friend? And if so... do you mean romantically, or just a greeting?
I don't do this, but I see people kiss (on the lips) as a greeting. It's just a peck though. Nothing romantic. It's a cultural thing though.
I don't do this, but I see people kiss (on the lips) as a greeting. It's just a peck though. Nothing romantic. It's a cultural thing though.
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PinkSweetart
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Maybe I'm being naive, but I've never seen this situation happen unless the two friends weren't sober. Unless you mean like a friends with benefits type thing?
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That's what I assumed, and those relationships are alright I suppose (they end up hurting you more than you realize though, not emotionally or anything; they just put you in a whole different world when thinkin' about other people); come to think of it, lol, they kind of suck [egh, they served their purposes when I was going through them and other things in life].
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I'm sorry, didn't mean to be rude.
Well any situation where you feel attracted to someone enough to kiss them. What I mainly had in mind was like at a club. That type of setting. But could be any setting. Let's say you meet someone at a friend's place and things get romantic because of mutual feelings. That can happen, too. Or a party?
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If the OP was talking about FWB, then I agree with Cy. They cause more harm.
Okay. So you mean, kissing someone before you start a relationship? You meet someone, are in the moment, and then kiss?
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Well then I don't see it wrong. Unless it led to sex when the person is a christian. People could also get the wrong idea about the person if it was sort of a "thing" for the person to kiss everyone he/she is attracted to.
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Kissing in a relationship is different to kissing someone who you hardly know or are friends with. I had kissed three guys before my relationship, none of whom I was attracted to - it was when I had had a few to drink (we didn't do anything else, no way!), part of it was because I felt pressured. Now that I am in my first relationship, I love to kiss, it seems more special to me and it is with someone who I actually love and am attracted to. Before I was in a relationship kissing felt empty and I was always left feeling disgusted.
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No sex, just a heat-of-the-moment passionate kiss kinda thing. And yeah, people could get the wrong idea if he/she kissed everyone he/she is attracted to, but let's say it's one person. Because the passion and feelings are there and so strong.
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If it's just kissing, and just that one person, then I personally don't see it as wrong.
I wouldn't do that, but wouldn't judge someone who would/has.
I wouldn't do that, but wouldn't judge someone who would/has.
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Oddish
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I don't know. I don't think you should kiss someone unless you have a serious interest in them but maybe that is just me. I regret kissing the three people I wasn't in a relationship with and actually quite dislike the whole clubbing scene now as it feels seedy and is centred around lust.
Not everyone will agree here though, so no point trying to make anyone feel bad about their opinion. Just stating what I think
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Not everyone will agree here though, so no point trying to make anyone feel bad about their opinion. Just stating what I think
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Kissing prior to marriage is an abomination to the Lord. Just like a whistling woman. It is simply disgraceful.
But seriously now. An opinion, of sorts.
Because most Christian seem to think it's fine to kiss their partners before marriage (while still in a relationship)
Well. Yes. Whilst in a relationship it is usually considered fine and dandy to do the whole bonding thing via the swapping of saliva and a game of tongue twister.
I'm wondering how it's any different to do it when not in a relationship. After all, a relationship is not formal at all, just like not being in a relationship is not formal.
One is an informal partnership existing prior to the individuals being certain that marriage is a viable option.
The other exists without the informal agreement (spoken, unspoken) that the two members are exclusively seeing each other.
Kissing outside of a relationship ... so many people seem to start their relationships that way, one day they're sitting around minding their own business, the next they're entertaining someone's tongue. Or pecking them on the cheek. Whatever floats their boat. I see why, but it's not my style.
For many entertaining the fact that kissing is unwise is simply unimaginable - but this boils down to how you view kissing. Is it an activity connected to sexual urges that should not be engaged in as it simply causes the hormones to run riot, thereby increasing the likelihood of other sexual activities as everyone's blood is rushing around through the excitement of kissing.
Or is it simply a way to cement the relationship and express that there is mutual attraction and you both hope it will progress into something more than a casual fling. So the act of kissing is reinforcing the underlying desire and letting both parties know that they are desired, loved and trusted.
But I know nothing, I generally do not find myself overcome with the desire to kiss anyone.
All my you's are general, not specific.
But seriously now. An opinion, of sorts.
Because most Christian seem to think it's fine to kiss their partners before marriage (while still in a relationship)
Well. Yes. Whilst in a relationship it is usually considered fine and dandy to do the whole bonding thing via the swapping of saliva and a game of tongue twister.
I'm wondering how it's any different to do it when not in a relationship. After all, a relationship is not formal at all, just like not being in a relationship is not formal.
One is an informal partnership existing prior to the individuals being certain that marriage is a viable option.
The other exists without the informal agreement (spoken, unspoken) that the two members are exclusively seeing each other.
Kissing outside of a relationship ... so many people seem to start their relationships that way, one day they're sitting around minding their own business, the next they're entertaining someone's tongue. Or pecking them on the cheek. Whatever floats their boat. I see why, but it's not my style.
For many entertaining the fact that kissing is unwise is simply unimaginable - but this boils down to how you view kissing. Is it an activity connected to sexual urges that should not be engaged in as it simply causes the hormones to run riot, thereby increasing the likelihood of other sexual activities as everyone's blood is rushing around through the excitement of kissing.
Or is it simply a way to cement the relationship and express that there is mutual attraction and you both hope it will progress into something more than a casual fling. So the act of kissing is reinforcing the underlying desire and letting both parties know that they are desired, loved and trusted.
But I know nothing, I generally do not find myself overcome with the desire to kiss anyone.
All my you's are general, not specific.
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What a strange answer. On one hand you want to give the impression that you think "whatever floats their boat" is fine, yet on the other hand you keep repeating how you would never do such "swapping of saliva" and feel such a need as it's "not your style". That seems pretty judgmental to me. Do you struggle with multiple personalities?
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