Those who have been disagree with you
It's no more force than forming human beings with a disposition to ice cream.
"Force" is about restraint against our will.
There is no force of restraint against our will in the changing of our disposition by the Holy Spirit.
It is all sweet to our heart.
And why wouldn't it be, we were made for God, to know and love him.
Adam was made to know and love God-yet he effectively dismissed Him. God could've just disposed Adam fully towards Himself-but that would be to go against Adam's will. God doesn't do that because the only way that love is real is when its a
choice, when we've come to learn of its value the hard way, and so appreciate what Adam failed to appreciate as he preferred
himself and cold pride over God instead. This is why we're here in this relatively godless and loveless word, to begin to develop a hunger and thirst for something more, for something missing, for God, for real, eternal truth and justice and love so that, when He comes calling by His revelation and grace, when He begins to draw and move us towards Himself, we
will accept. But not necessarily, or not necessarily with endurance to the end. Those who
have experienced this understand this very biblical truth, and the God who authored this plan for man.
God has been in the business of
producing something during all the centuries of man's exile from Him, something truly grand and of great worth and that comes about only as the will of His creation comes into line with His own will. Had He simply wanted to stock heaven with the elect and hell with the reprobate He would've done that at the beginning, precluding all the sin, evil, suffering, and death down through those centuries that results from man's disassociation from Him. Instead, that time has a
purpose, to
educate us, so that ultimately we'll finally and fully reverse Adam's decision within ourselves, with the help of grace, with baby steps at first as God takes us by the hand.
"The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance." 2 Pet 3:9
"If indeed they have escaped the corruption of the world through the knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, only to be entangled and overcome by it again, their final condition is worse than it was at first. It would have been better for them not to have known the way of righteousness than to have known it and then to turn away from the holy commandment passed on to them. Of them the proverbs are true: “A dog returns to its vomit,” and, “A sow that is washed goes back to her wallowing in the mud.” 2 Pet 2:20-22