5 years ago 1 of my friends put his bare rear on my bed (dont ask) now my parents use the bed should i tell them what happend? I am not sure if the bed has been cleaned the sheets have tho. But if he touched the bed with his rear should i tell my parents? Is this dis-honoring them by not telling?
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It seems a strange question, but you know it must be bothering you to be still thinking about it 5 years later. So I am going to respond to your post and take it seriously.
This is my take on it, you could tell your parents, but what would be the purpose, what would be the motive behind you telling them? Sometimes we have to consider the consequences of what we say and share with another person. Could it hurt them etc? Some things are just best left unsaid. Some things in the past just need to stay there. I don't see how it would be dishonouring your parents you not telling them this.
The sheets have been washed long ago, maybe even replaced after 5 yrs. And it was originally your bed aswell which makes a difference to my answer.
Have your parents ever stayed in an hotel room? Think about it.
But really this is a personal choice. Ask God, does He want you to tell them? or would you be doing it just to clear your conscience. If this is the case, if you are feeling a little guilty over what happened and just the fact you have been keeping this a secret, you can just confess it to the Lord. It is His forgiveness we need above anyone elses anyhow. (1 John 1:9).
Also you have just confessed to us aswell.
And as a parent, if it was my child telling me something like this, though, I think I would have a sense of humour, you were alot younger, but I would be curious to why the incident came about, so yes I would ask you. I would hope there is a humourous and simple reason why your friend did what he did. Or there maybe a more serious reason behind the story. Only you know.
It really is a personal choice. No rules. Just pray about it. Don't worry.
This is my take on it, you could tell your parents, but what would be the purpose, what would be the motive behind you telling them? Sometimes we have to consider the consequences of what we say and share with another person. Could it hurt them etc? Some things are just best left unsaid. Some things in the past just need to stay there. I don't see how it would be dishonouring your parents you not telling them this.
The sheets have been washed long ago, maybe even replaced after 5 yrs. And it was originally your bed aswell which makes a difference to my answer.
Have your parents ever stayed in an hotel room? Think about it.
But really this is a personal choice. Ask God, does He want you to tell them? or would you be doing it just to clear your conscience. If this is the case, if you are feeling a little guilty over what happened and just the fact you have been keeping this a secret, you can just confess it to the Lord. It is His forgiveness we need above anyone elses anyhow. (1 John 1:9).
Also you have just confessed to us aswell.
And as a parent, if it was my child telling me something like this, though, I think I would have a sense of humour, you were alot younger, but I would be curious to why the incident came about, so yes I would ask you. I would hope there is a humourous and simple reason why your friend did what he did. Or there maybe a more serious reason behind the story. Only you know.
It really is a personal choice. No rules. Just pray about it. Don't worry.
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Oh ColdDonut,
This is obviously bothering you a great deal.
You sound like you're plagued with guilt and
maybe the devil's trying to make you focus
on bad things from the past.
If you've given your life to God,
you're now a new creation
The devil will always whisper lies into our hearts.
But the Bible says that "if your heart condemns you,
God is greater than your heart".
Just take it all to God in prayer.
ASk God to forgive you for worrying,
and forgive your friend for being rude, and just
leave all of your concerns at the foot of the
Cross.
Do you have a Bible to read so that you can
know how much God loves you and how much
He wants to help you in every way?
Here's a free Bible that you can download
right to your computer. Or if you dont want
to or dont know how to, you can read the
Bible here.
Father, thank you for this kind person
that you love so much, I pray that you
would help him to know your ways,
that you would help him to forgive
himself for any wrongs he's done
and help him to learn to trust you with
his heart and any problems.
Please help Colddonut to receive your
forgiveness when he prays and to
know how deeply you love him.
That your thoughts toward him are
greater than the grains of sand on the beach!
I pray you'd help him to find great
godly friends to hang out with, and
learn more about you, and share
from his heart.
Please help him in every way and
pour out your grace on him.
I pray in Jesus name.
Amen!
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1Newcreation
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Oh ColdDonut,
This is obviously bothering you a great deal.
You sound like you're plagued with guilt and
maybe the devil's trying to make you focus
on bad things from the past.
If you've given your life to God,
you're now a new creation
The devil will always whisper lies into our hearts.
But the Bible says that "if your heart condemns you,
God is greater than your heart".
Just take it all to God in prayer.
ASk God to forgive you for worrying,
and forgive your friend for being rude, and just
leave all of your concerns at the foot of the
Cross.
Do you have a Bible to read so that you can
know how much God loves you and how much
He wants to help you in every way?
Here's a free Bible that you can download
right to your computer. Or if you dont want
to or dont know how to, you can read the
Bible here.
Father, thank you for this kind person
that you love so much, I pray that you
would help him to know your ways,
that you would help him to forgive
himself for any wrongs he's done
and help him to learn to trust you with
his heart and any problems.
Please help Colddonut to receive your
forgiveness when he prays and to
know how deeply you love him.
That your thoughts toward him are
greater than the grains of sand on the beach!
I pray you'd help him to find great
godly friends to hang out with, and
learn more about you, and share
from his heart.
Please help him in every way and
pour out your grace on him.
I pray in Jesus name.
Amen!
Amen.
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1Newcreation
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It is never too late to make amends for something if it is practical and possible to do so. But firstly we still need to repent, and receive forgiveness from God.
Sunlover1's lovely post says it all.
I hope ColdDonut that you can rest and have His peace over so many things that seem to be bothering you.
John 14:27 "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid"
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SavannahSage
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It's been five years! I'm sure the bed has been cleaned, and what if it wasn't? What would be the purpose in telling your parents now? Don't let Satan bring up old "stuff" to make you feel guilty.
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All of us have stupid mistakes that nag us -- things we said to people, choices we made, things that don't fit into who we know we are or want to be.
Those are vulnerable spots for attack.
But think of it also in the context of your brain. The incident was one that didn''t file away neatly, and your brain is still trying to find a spot
where it will fit. It just doesn't.
We are supposed to confess our sins to one another, but your error here was just in being too young to think of throwing it in the wash, and maybe letting your friend to get out of hand without stopping him.... being angry with him but being afraid to make waves... which turned into being angry with yourself.
If these accusations pop up often, find ways to stop them, because they have no benefit. There is no benefit to telling your parents -- that will just instigate further suspicion and resentment. Confess to God, and accept forgiveness, and ask Him for help in removing our sins as far as the east is from the west.
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Amaryllismayfly
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I think you are under attack dear one. I probably would tell my parents. If my kids told me something like that I might be angry at the kid who did it, a little bit, and I would probably laugh at my sweet kid that it bothered for so many years. Because it really is not a big deal. ((((((((((((big hug)))))))))))))) Maybe pray and ask God what he wants from you.
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Well i am not sure about this but the rear of the boy might have touched the bed with out a sheet on.It seems a strange question, but you know it must be bothering you to be still thinking about it 5 years later. So I am going to respond to your post and take it seriously.
This is my take on it, you could tell your parents, but what would be the purpose, what would be the motive behind you telling them? Sometimes we have to consider the consequences of what we say and share with another person. Could it hurt them etc? Some things are just best left unsaid. Some things in the past just need to stay there. I don't see how it would be dishonouring your parents you not telling them this.
The sheets have been washed long ago, maybe even replaced after 5 yrs. And it was originally your bed aswell which makes a difference to my answer.
Have your parents ever stayed in an hotel room? Think about it.
But really this is a personal choice. Ask God, does He want you to tell them? or would you be doing it just to clear your conscience. If this is the case, if you are feeling a little guilty over what happened and just the fact you have been keeping this a secret, you can just confess it to the Lord. It is His forgiveness we need above anyone elses anyhow. (1 John 1:9).
Also you have just confessed to us aswell.
And as a parent, if it was my child telling me something like this, though, I think I would have a sense of humour, you were alot younger, but I would be curious to why the incident came about, so yes I would ask you. I would hope there is a humourous and simple reason why your friend did what he did. Or there maybe a more serious reason behind the story. Only you know.
It really is a personal choice. No rules. Just pray about it. Don't worry.
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Amaryllismayfly
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I don't know the type of relationship you have with your parents, but if it's a good one, then I would say....
Mom, Dad, this has been eating me up with guilt. One of my friends pulled a stupid prank 5 years ago, and sat on your bed with his pants pulled down. I wanted to protect you so I didn't say anything. I am really sorry."
But for some reason I am getting the sense that you might not have that type of relationship with your parents. In that case, I would tell God everything I said to tell your parents. What happened isn't a big deal, really, but for some reason it has become an open door for you, for the enemy to attack you with guilt. I hate to see anyone being attacked by guilt. I know the feeling, so after you tell God you are sorry you have to RESIST the enemy, and he will flee. Keep resisting it.
You have gotten good council here by your brothers and sisters on this board. resist, resist, resist.
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Well i am not sure it has been eating at me like everyone thinks i just thought about what happend a few days agian and was wondering if i should tell them what happend.
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