A couple of weeks ago i posted about a situation with my uncle being a jerk to me, well he did it again on new years and i snapped. well as i expected my mom came to his defense and everyone laughed at me for getting trouble. Obviously i was fuming. Well the issue just lingering that day and finally mom chewed my uncle out. A few days later she wrote him a very strongly worded letter about how even though he is supposed to be a christian and he is behaving this way(this isnt the only bad thing hes done). Well, the letter really bothered him and he realized what he has become and how he is falling away. So while this whole issue is supposed to be "over with" it really isnt. In the end there was no resolve for me. I have repeatedly asked my mom why it was okay for her to send him on this life changing guilt trip(which i thought was unneccesary), instead of just allowing me to say something to him myself and ending the issue right then. She says she didnt want me to lose my "victory" over my uncle, but i dont see how this can be called a victory. She says the victory is showing that im the bigger person by walking away from the situation, but i never even got to show that, my situation ended with me getting trouble and laughed at because i stood up for myself. I refuse to call this a victory the whole issue has become less about me being treated badly and more about uncles personal journey, the issue is now between him and my mom and im completely forgotten. In my eyes this is a defeat. So what do all of you think? am I right? or wrong?