Is it bad to just stay single?

[Anne Onymous]

I'm recently converted, so I'll admit upfront I'm not the most knowledgeable on anything, really.
Anyway, I've never actually had a crush on anyone. I am by no means old (20) but still oddly late in life to experience no interest in that area. As a kid, whenever I pictured my future, I can't say a husband or kids were ever part of it—and due to my disability I honestly cannot see myself as a good mother, no slight at all to anyone else, just me personally. I've never been on a date, and frankly, nobody has actually asked me out anyway. I also don't know anyone who would be a good partner for me, so I couldn't even try (and that would feel just immoral regardless, let alone embarrassingly stilted. I wouldn't want to waste anyone's time just to disappoint them.)
I'm aware this might change... but whenever there's a "might" there's also a "might not," so I'm just curious if that's...bad? Like, is there actually consequence for doing nothing? Does God simply have other plans for me?
I don't actually mind the idea of being single; that isn't the issue. And while I don't see any moral fault with just, well... being a spinster, I just want to check it's not gonna count against me, I guess.

 

[Sketcher]

Sinful? No, it's not sinful.

But when you get older, there will be health problems, and some of those health problems will require operations that will involve anesthesia - the kind you're not supposed to drive when you're on. And other health problems will require another to keep an eye on you while you sleep. Being married can potentially make managing all of that a lot easier.

 

[HTacianas]

I'm recently converted, so I'll admit upfront I'm not the most knowledgeable on anything, really.
Anyway, I've never actually had a crush on anyone. I am by no means old (20) but still oddly late in life to experience no interest in that area. As a kid, whenever I pictured my future, I can't say a husband or kids were ever part of it—and due to my disability I honestly cannot see myself as a good mother, no slight at all to anyone else, just me personally. I've never been on a date, and frankly, nobody has actually asked me out anyway. I also don't know anyone who would be a good partner for me, so I couldn't even try (and that would feel just immoral regardless, let alone embarrassingly stilted. I wouldn't want to waste anyone's time just to disappoint them.)
I'm aware this might change... but whenever there's a "might" there's also a "might not," so I'm just curious if that's...bad? Like, is there actually consequence for doing nothing? Does God simply have other plans for me?
I don't actually mind the idea of being single; that isn't the issue. And while I don't see any moral fault with just, well... being a spinster, I just want to check it's not gonna count against me, I guess.

If you're asking about remaining single within Christianity the answer is simple. Christianity has always held that to be the preferred state. Jesus said of it, "he that is able to accept it let him accept it", see Matt 19:12. Paul spoke approvingly of it also see 1 Cor 7:7-9.

 

[Sabertooth]

If your aversion to marriage is psychological, those issues should be addressed regardless of whether you ever get married or not.
If it isn't, I agree with the previous poster.

Jesus said of it, "he that is able to accept it let him accept it", see Matt 19:12. Paul spoke approvingly of it also see 1 Cor 7:7-9.

Here are readable links,

• Matthew 19:12
• 1 Corinthians 7:7-9

 

[Blade]

I'm recently converted, so I'll admit upfront I'm not the most knowledgeable on anything, really.
Anyway, I've never actually had a crush on anyone. I am by no means old (20) but still oddly late in life to experience no interest in that area. As a kid, whenever I pictured my future, I can't say a husband or kids were ever part of it—and due to my disability I honestly cannot see myself as a good mother, no slight at all to anyone else, just me personally. I've never been on a date, and frankly, nobody has actually asked me out anyway. I also don't know anyone who would be a good partner for me, so I couldn't even try (and that would feel just immoral regardless, let alone embarrassingly stilted. I wouldn't want to waste anyone's time just to disappoint them.)
I'm aware this might change... but whenever there's a "might" there's also a "might not," so I'm just curious if that's...bad? Like, is there actually consequence for doing nothing? Does God simply have other plans for me?
I don't actually mind the idea of being single; that isn't the issue. And while I don't see any moral fault with just, well... being a spinster, I just want to check it's not gonna count against me, I guess.

What did the sweet sweet holy Spirit in the word of say? To live your life to Christ.. AWESOME! You sure can!

 

[disciple Clint]

I'm recently converted, so I'll admit upfront I'm not the most knowledgeable on anything, really.
Anyway, I've never actually had a crush on anyone. I am by no means old (20) but still oddly late in life to experience no interest in that area. As a kid, whenever I pictured my future, I can't say a husband or kids were ever part of it—and due to my disability I honestly cannot see myself as a good mother, no slight at all to anyone else, just me personally. I've never been on a date, and frankly, nobody has actually asked me out anyway. I also don't know anyone who would be a good partner for me, so I couldn't even try (and that would feel just immoral regardless, let alone embarrassingly stilted. I wouldn't want to waste anyone's time just to disappoint them.)
I'm aware this might change... but whenever there's a "might" there's also a "might not," so I'm just curious if that's...bad? Like, is there actually consequence for doing nothing? Does God simply have other plans for me?
I don't actually mind the idea of being single; that isn't the issue. And while I don't see any moral fault with just, well... being a spinster, I just want to check it's not gonna count against me, I guess.

This article may help you answer your question.
The Apostle Paul on Marriage and Singleness

 

[Joined2krist]

No, it's not sinful. God bless If you have this gift, God will also give you peace.

 

[trophy33]

Is it bad to just stay single?

We do not know future, so we cannot tell you if its good or bad for you.

Being single has its advantages and disadvantages and its on every individual to decide what he/she prefers. Just take into consideration that as a female, your ability to have healthy children and family will diminish with age and you can feel very lonely and unsatisfied later in life (35+).

 

[dqhall]

I'm recently converted, so I'll admit upfront I'm not the most knowledgeable on anything, really.
Anyway, I've never actually had a crush on anyone. I am by no means old (20) but still oddly late in life to experience no interest in that area. As a kid, whenever I pictured my future, I can't say a husband or kids were ever part of it—and due to my disability I honestly cannot see myself as a good mother, no slight at all to anyone else, just me personally. I've never been on a date, and frankly, nobody has actually asked me out anyway. I also don't know anyone who would be a good partner for me, so I couldn't even try (and that would feel just immoral regardless, let alone embarrassingly stilted. I wouldn't want to waste anyone's time just to disappoint them.)
I'm aware this might change... but whenever there's a "might" there's also a "might not," so I'm just curious if that's...bad? Like, is there actually consequence for doing nothing? Does God simply have other plans for me?
I don't actually mind the idea of being single; that isn't the issue. And while I don't see any moral fault with just, well... being a spinster, I just want to check it's not gonna count against me, I guess.

Part of my family is Protestant, part is Catholic. I have a cousin who is a retired school teacher. She never married and now shares a home with her widowed mother. Most of my cousins married as did my brothers.

The Lord asked Jeremiah to remain single (Jeremiah 16:1-2). Jesus did not marry, yet achieved unparalleled success. Paul was single by choice. Paul had numerous male and female friends as his letter to the Romans attests (Romans 16). I presume John the Baptist was celibate, like a desert hermit. People were going to listen to him and to be baptized. He had disciples. The Jewish community at Qumran near the Dead Sea copied the Dead Sea Scrolls. Archaeologists found an all male cemetery from the first century on the site of their habitation. They lived like monks. Some Buddhists from the fifth century before the time of Christ were also celibate.

Most of the apostles were married.

 

[Anne Onymous]

Thank you all for answering! That was pretty much the consensus I'd gathered, but I figured I'd actually ask.