Irrational worries

[tartanarmy]

Where did the time go? I always thought by now I would be married, and a mother. More than anything else *almost* I want to be a good wife to a good man, and a good mother.

Im going to be 32. I have my career all set up. (I'm an interpreter for the Deaf and love my job!) So in a way I suppose its a good thing that this has taken so long because now I feel ready to move to the next stage.

Guess my fear is that it wont happen. I will be 32 as I said and I'm not yet married. I'm secure enough in myself that I'm not going to fall apart but sometimes I get a little down that I'm jsut not where I though I would be

Guess I'm just waiting for God to reveal his plan for me

 

[skunkfeather]

I will be 33 in February and I'm still not married, nor do I have children. I thought I'd be "further along" than I am now but I'm going on the faith than God has a different approach for me, rather than the timeline I thought my life would follow.

 

[sampa]

tartanarmy I'm there with you, I'll be 36 next week and still haven't had my first love or a boyfriend in 16 years.......but I still trust the Lord must have a plan. And will continue to pray that my desires match His.

 

[loved33]

do you go on many dates?

 

[twightlight]

I am 32, and about to be divorced... again. I still have no kids, and I don't even have a career. I didn't notice time flying by this fast, and now I am afraid that I am going to wake up one day and BOOM! I'm 40, BOOM! I'm 50, BOOM! I'm dying alone in a hospice somewhere because I couldn't stop smoking. Time is a stressful thing when you are "behind" where you think you should be. But I don't think there really are any set rules for where you should be, we just grow up with expectations.

 

[hisbloodformysins]

it's easy to feel pressured and anxious sometimes when time just gets away like that.... but the only thing that we can do is get our focus and trust back on the lord and trust him to answer and take care of us.

HB

 

[ranyhyn]

I can somewhat understand what you're saying. I was 28 when I got married but I never had a relationship up until I met the woman who would become my wife. She and I met when I was 25. I was considered the "nerd" when I was in high school and I didn't have many friends throughout college either. I thought I was never going to get married either. And then everything kind of fell into place all within a short amount of time.

My wife can't have any more children so that isn't a concern for me. I know it's not much of a consolation but keep your hopes up. You've got your career in place so you're settled in that arena. Now you have time to focus on relationships without having to worry about it affecting that area of your life. You still have plenty of time to have children and you could always explore adoption as an alternative if necessary.

 

[hisbloodformysins]

Where did the time go? I always thought by now I would be married, and a mother. More than anything else *almost* I want to be a good wife to a good man, and a good mother.

Im going to be 32. I have my career all set up. (I'm an interpreter for the Deaf and love my job!) So in a way I suppose its a good thing that this has taken so long because now I feel ready to move to the next stage.

Guess my fear is that it wont happen. I will be 32 as I said and I'm not yet married. I'm secure enough in myself that I'm not going to fall apart but sometimes I get a little down that I'm jsut not where I though I would be

Guess I'm just waiting for God to reveal his plan for me

He will.. continue to trust him

 

[Moonstruck4U]

I worry that I will never have another child. Just a strange feeling. I'd hate for her to be an only one.

 

[Miracle Storm]

Where did the time go? I always thought by now I would be married, and a mother. More than anything else *almost* I want to be a good wife to a good man, and a good mother.

Im going to be 32. I have my career all set up. (I'm an interpreter for the Deaf and love my job!) So in a way I suppose its a good thing that this has taken so long because now I feel ready to move to the next stage.

Guess my fear is that it wont happen. I will be 32 as I said and I'm not yet married. I'm secure enough in myself that I'm not going to fall apart but sometimes I get a little down that I'm jsut not where I though I would be

Guess I'm just waiting for God to reveal his plan for me

Well I did things backwards, certainly not the way God would have wanted. I got pregnant at 14 and within a month I was married. Five days before my 15th birthday I had my son. By sixteen I was divorced. Oh I met someone else around 18 married him, had three kids and now we are divorced (Thank God ((long story))). I am just now getting ready to start college and I feel like I have waited to long..(time has passed me by) But I know there is a greater plan.

The reason I am telling you this though is because I wasn't ready for all that, but I wanted my way.
We all want to put a time frame on our lives and the good stuff is usually in the time frame of "right now"
As far as you waiting for God to reveal his plan...
I think you are certainly living his plan, simply in what you are doing as a career (bless you). Just keep walking in his plan for your life as you have been and let God work out the details.

I wish you all the best.

 

[Inkachu]

The only thing I can say is:

1. We aren't alone. As this thread shows, there are many 30-something's and even older people who have never been married and/or who don't have children and/or who haven't realized dreams and hopes from their youth yet.
2. God has it all in hand. Dump it all in His lap and trust Him.

 

[sampa]

The only thing I can say is:

1. We aren't alone. As this thread shows, there are many 30-something's and even older people who have never been married and/or who don't have children and/or who haven't realized dreams and hopes from their youth yet.
2. God has it all in hand. Dump it all in His lap and trust Him.

Inkabink, I've found some of it encouraging.....today I recommended a friend to this site since she's the same as me, single never married. She's been hopeful for sometime but I think there's probably as few in her situation around her --- she's lives far east of me so I'm not able to hang out with her like I'd like.

I've made friends in the local area that are in their early 20's, but the life stage just isn't the same as a single. And my married friends, well their issues are quiet different than mine and sometimes makes me appreciate my freedom. And have to savor while I can the quiet time and years I've been able to worship the Lord with less divided attention.

 

[FG21]

I'm 37, single never married and bawling because I just left the guy I was dating and told him never to talk to me again. Okay, he's not a Christian but still I am all tore up!

Is it wrong to just want to live as a couple, grow a garden? Maybe paint a few walls? I really want to get married (this is new, from Christ, thank you Lord!), unfortunately all the "good" guys are taken at my old age.

 

[Lemmiwinks]

I don't believe God has a plan for me. I think he made me, and put me here, but I don't believe he intervenes in my life. I believe he knows who I am, but only vaguely; the same way I know that I have an oak tree in my yard, but I don't know how many limbs it has or any details. I think God made me and put me here, but that's all. He is probably off tending to his other worlds, I bet he doesn't give Earth much thought.

 

[GQ Chris]

Sometimes future problems have plagued me and I find solace in the fact that I can't do even the littlest thing that would effect the outcome of the future (see Luke Ch.12;Matthew ch.6)


The best thing a person can do is to walk wisely and Not worry. Easier said than done, but God has promised to meet All our needs. I look back and see that to be true every time.

 

[Deliberatetourist]

All of you need to take the innitiative, get up and start to make things happen. It says ".....the steps of a righteous man are ordered of God". Not the sedentary posture of someone on the sofa.

 

[Deliberatetourist]

I don't believe God has a plan for me. I think he made me, and put me here, but I don't believe he intervenes in my life. I believe he knows who I am, but only vaguely; the same way I know that I have an oak tree in my yard, but I don't know how many limbs it has or any details. I think God made me and put me here, but that's all. He is probably off tending to his other worlds, I bet he doesn't give Earth much thought.

Actually he's standing right behind you waiting for your pity party to be finished.

 

[xXmacyXx]

Put everything you have into God... just don't hold back and actually focus 100% on Him.. not 90, or 95%.. Just focus and trust, and He will provide.. Faith

 

[Zandy]

I don't believe God has a plan for me. I think he made me, and put me here, but I don't believe he intervenes in my life. I believe he knows who I am, but only vaguely; the same way I know that I have an oak tree in my yard, but I don't know how many limbs it has or any details. I think God made me and put me here, but that's all. He is probably off tending to his other worlds, I bet he doesn't give Earth much thought.

Oh boy. I felt this way at 32. I think you will see something happen and then your purpose will all play out.

 

[cmascio]

Hang in there. Things don't always work out the way we expect, but they work out the way they are supposed to!