Interracial Dating

[MERCY@GRACE]

I don't post here bc I am married, but saw this post highlighted on lifes stages and decided to check it out. I am black, dh is white....although everyone guesses I am anything BUT black lol. When I worked w/ the youth few yrs back, they shared how some of their family members made derogatory racial comments. This floored me as these family members were ELDERS and DEACONS.You'd never guess they had any form of predjudice bc they were kind and friendly to ALL! So no, I don't really think you'll ever get honest answers on polls such as this....bc lets face it....being predjudice is nothing to be proud about. It is a good topic to discuss. I like to dispell the myths-such as the kids will suffer. We have 6kids.... oldest being almost 10 youngest almost 4mo. The only attn, they get is positive attn. Ppl are always commenting on how gorgeous they are.

We are military so it is VERY common to see MANY mixed couples....so common, that ppl don't even turn their heads. I do notice when we get away from the mil comm, we do get a few more stares...but who cares...your not spending the rest of your life w/ strangers! After awhile you forget that you are different ethnicities until someone points it out lol!
I also agree that there is nothing wrong w/ having preferences, as long as you don't exclude someone based on race/color alone.

The real/important question is: Is the one you love saved
That's just my 5cent

 

[Diane_Windsor]

It's not my cup of tea, but if others wish to do so well, more power to them.

According to Psychology, most people are naturally attracted to people who have similiar physical characteristics. It's a 0.9% correlation, which anyone who knows what a correlation is knows that 0.9% is extrodinarily high [the closer to 1% the closer the correlation]. This is why I am attracted to women of brown hair and brown eyes. I don't have any issues with inter-racial dating, but I'm just not attracted to women of different races the way that I am attracted to women of my own race [hispanic girls mainly].

Well said

diane

 

[Peculiarone]

I'm black and have always practiced interracial dating. I have no probs with it. We work among our differences and agree to disagree and it all flowed well.

 

[mikeymae]

Greetings to all.

Wow, this is very good post to dicuss, anyhow this my $1's worth. I find nothing wrong with interracial relationships. Now with that being stated I have not always had this view. Let me explain. Growing up in Virginia my parents were very strict about me dating outside my race. Here is the funny part behind this, we always lived in a mainly "black" community per se. Anyhow, most of my views about interracial dating were distorted because of my parents until I went to high school. When I entered high school I ended up going to a 98% perdominately black school, in other words I was a minority. Let me just tell you this is where I met God and my views about blacks changed drastically. Over the 4 year period I developed very unique relationships with many of my classmates. The flipside of the story is since I was white, many of my black classmates did use racial slurs towards me, but you know I was ok. Most of this came out of ignorance because they did not know the real me.

Here is something funny that also occurred. Back in high school (I am 25 now) not many of the black girls found me attractive, but later on you wouldn't believe how many of the same women adore me since I see many of them at the hospital. (That is where I work by the way.) So back to the point of the topic, my racial barriers ended up coming down. Even though I never married a black woman I did marry a dark asian woman from the Philippines. By all means, I thank the Lord for bringing down my racial barriers. Now as far the orginal poster is concern it is true that you will only pursue those that you are interested in. (We all have a certain taste that we delight ourselves in.) Color should not matter and like many others have posted learning the culture is what is needed in understanding the differences and the blessings that come from having a interracial couple.

Regards,

Michael

 

[lunalinda]

Every time I see a couple of a different race holding hands or something, it actually makes me feel good. Not just because they're interracial and are "getting along" but also because that's two less people in the world who aren't stooping to the low level of racism. Two less people in the world who don't harbor hatred for another race.

I agree with the preference thing...there's absolutely nothing wrong with preference.

I have a question for people who have preferences, though...

If you've had a preference for as long as you can remember, but you find yourself falling for a person of a different race (which CAN happen!), do you just go with it and be with that person if that person feels the same, or do you just stick to what you've always preferred?

Cuz personally speaking, I thought my preferences would always win, but errr, that wasn't the case lol. I used to prefer guys without facial hair and who are NOT younger than me. First two bf's I had both had facial hair and are younger lol. And I thought I preferred white guys cuz they're light-skinned like me, but that just got tossed out the window too.

I've been involved with 3 guys (in a Christian way of COURSE), 2 of them being actual bf's. Guy number 1 is white. Guy number 2 and 3 are black. Okay okay, guy number 2 is half Puerto Rican and half black to be specific, but you'd never guess by looking at him. Guy number 3, though, is all black. So now I don't even think I have preferences anymore. However, since I've been with black guys more than white, I feel that they're more attractive to me and I never saw that coming. Sue me for thinking this, but I absolutely love how darker skin compliments my horridly pale skin

Now me, I'm half Puerto Rican and half Mexican. Throw in some Spanish and Native American too. And there hasn't been one "full-blooded" hispanic/latino guy interested in me. *shrug* Most guys who are interested in me are black. Then come the white guys. Hard to believe that guys of my own race are seemingly the least interested. Oh well. Either way, I have absolutely NOTHING against interracial relationships. Mixed race children are absolutely BEAUTIFUL too. Vanessa Williams and Halle Berry anyone? What guy doesn't think those women are beautiful?

And yes, I agree that the biggest problem nowadays isn't race really, it's culture. Once you're over THAT hurdle, though, it should all be okay.

 

[Ceris]

If you want to know my view on interracial dating, just check out the picture of me and my girlfriend that is my profile picture. I think you'll get the idea.

 

[dan_the_man]

Anyone ever gotten the "God intended for people to stick with their own race...he doesn't want whites dating blacks. He wants them to stick with their own kind." from their parents? I got it after I got punished for dating an african american girl (I'm white).

Needless to say I didn't reply back with the words I was thinking at that moment in time.

 

[ReynaDreamz]

I love interracial relationships and i think they are so wonderful and i think that everyone should do it lol....its a display of God's love for everyone ....God has put no boundaries in that area on us.......and personally myself I am mostly attracted to males out side of my race...im black and indian, latina and i am not usually attracted to black males but latino and white males i am.....and they are to me.......so most likely i will date and marry out of my race. God bless

 

[Linnis]

Haha! Next time tell them she's a hybrid...I told one lady that about my nephew and she looked at me funny and walked away...big words rock!

 

[digitalfeed]

Haha, hybrids... that's a good one to remember.

 

[Kusanagi]

I see no problems with interracial dating .

 

[Lia]

Love interracial dating! I'm Asian and have dated Asian, Latino and Caucasian before. I hope and pray that someday God would bless me with an interracial marriage as well
And eventhough I think all babies are adorable, mixed babies are the cutest in my opinion.

 

[Peculiarone]

Even though I don't have a problem with the interracial dating, it seem that I always end up back into the Jamaican/black culture. I guess as humans we get so use to a thing that it just sticks with us.

 

[RefinedByFire]

Hmmm....people in here say they don't mind interracial dating but I wonder how many of you have actually participated in interracial relationships? I've dated hispanic, white and asian girls.

All were beautiful.

 

[vibrant]

Hmmm....people in here say they don't mind interracial dating but I wonder how many of you have actually participated in interracial relationships?

i have.

"do i want to capture
the moments we share
like a breath held,
with black on white,
the way we are when i take
your hand in mine? "

 

[lunalinda]

Hmmm....people in here say they don't mind interracial dating but I wonder how many of you have actually participated in interracial relationships?

*raises hand* I'm Hispanic (1/2 Puerto Rican, 1/2 Mexican). First boyfriend was Caucasian (german). Second boyfriend was 1/2 PRican, 1/2 Black (black by the looks of him though). Third guy was never my boyfriend, but we went on several dates and still very close friends, and he's black. Now it's like...the NORM for me to want different races lol.

 

[MagicStar723]

The Bible teaches nothing against it and I don't see a problem with it. I DO however have a problem with some people trying to be someone that they aren't. It is fine to be multi-cultural but to all out try to be something you aren't I don't like it.
I do not find myself attracted to other races but I certainly do not condem those who do!

 

[Linnis]

I'm Canadian and married an American...both white but I sure had culture shock when I came here the first time.

As far as actually dating outside my race, we're all human and growing up in a city with every color & mix one can think up, until I started watching TV I didn't know some people wouldn't like someone else because their not the "right" color.

I dated a guy who was really nice, not white, it didn't work out, His views as a Jehovah's Witness were just too different. I doubt him being white would have changed that.

 

[surgeon]

Whoever discriminates aganist another person discriminates aganist God, it's written somewhere in proverbs, so don't be too judgemental about a persons skin.

 

[sweetmercy]

I'm white and my boyfriend is Latino. I absolutely LOVE being in an interracial relationship...I think the colour of his skin is one of the things that attracts me to him. I do, however, find the cultural differences a little hard to handle at times. For instance, in the Latino culture, it is common to call another person "fat" or "fattie", including your significant other. To them, it isn't considered an insult. But for me, on the other hand, it is extremely disrespectful and offensive! My bf and I are trying to understand each other's viewpoints on this particular difference and come to a compromise. But I believe that these types of differences, as difficult as they sometimes are, can help to make a relationship much stronger.