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That is a shame, and somwhat disturbing!
It's only shameful and disturbing to you because you do not support abortion. I believe that the woman's rights, wants, needs, physical and emotional wellbeing, goals, hopes, dreams, etc. take precedence over a fetus. I've always felt this way despite growing up in a rigidly pro-life home. Do I think abortion is nifty? No. Do I think it's great? No. Do I wish there was no need for abortion at all? Absolutely. But sadly we don't live in a perfect society in which all a woman has to do is think "I don't want to have a baby right now" and *poof* she is magically unable to conceive at that time in her life. Or that everyone could afford a pregnancy. But we don't live in fantasy land. I deal in reality. I know there is a need for abortion and making it illegal and protesting outside of abortion clinics isn't going to change that.
 
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fluffy_rainbow said:
It's only shameful and disturbing to you because you do not support abortion. I believe that the woman's rights, wants, needs, physical and emotional wellbeing, goals, hopes, dreams, etc. take precedence over a fetus. I've always felt this way despite growing up in a rigidly pro-life home. Do I think abortion is nifty? No. Do I think it's great? No. Do I wish there was no need for abortion at all? Absolutely. But sadly we don't live in a perfect society in which all a woman has to do is think "I don't want to have a baby right now" and *poof* she is magically unable to conceive at that time in her life. Or that everyone could afford a pregnancy. But we don't live in fantasy land. I deal in reality. I know there is a need for abortion and making it illegal and protesting outside of abortion clinics isn't going to change that.
I don't protest outside of abortion cliniqes and i wouldn't treat one who preforms abortions any diffrent than I would treat my mother. I try to live in a spiritual reality, so our viewpoints and oppinions will be different. I still find prochoice to be very disterbing(at least in this context).
 
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Should killing your child be legal, even if the state he is in is not fully developed. No of course not. We dont kill Toddlers just because we dont want them and that they are still not fully developed thus making it acceptable. Raped? Fine, have someone adopt your baby, there you go, instead of killing it you give it a chance at life with another family. Wow that was hard to figure out.
 
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as a Christian myself, i tend to fall somewhere between pro-choice and pro-life.

pro-choice side of me: the time that a woman deserves the right to have an abortion if she is raped, if the pregnancy threatens the life of her or the child. if she chooses to die for the child's life, that is a noble death in my opinion, and if she chooses to have the pregnancy aborted, that is a noble choice, because it is hard place to make some kind of judgement. and the rape part, well i don't think it is fair to ask a woman who got pregnant by being raped to give birth a child that she wasn't to have at that time. now if she goes through pregnancy, more props to her. that is noble and good, but it isn't bad or sinful to abort a pregnancy that was brought upon rape.

pro-life side of me: no abortion when someone willingly goes and has sex for whatever reason (love, lust, fun whatever) and has a child and descided, "oops, i made a mistake, i'm not ready to have a child." life changes for that girl, and i think she should face up to the choice she made, to participate in an action that creates life, and she should change her life to be sure that child's life is good.

i think we should recognize the truth of this world, and that everything is not the way it should have been. as a Christian i view that sin screwed everything up and now we have to live in the consequences we see around us, and try to find the best outcome of all possible situations, instead of hoping for things to be like the Garden of Eden (that will only happen in heaven). that is why i'm somewhere between pro-choice and pro-life on the matter of abortion.
 
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Crispie said:
Should killing your child be legal, even if the state he is in is not fully developed. No of course not. We dont kill Toddlers just because we dont want them and that they are still not fully developed thus making it acceptable. Raped? Fine, have someone adopt your baby, there you go, instead of killing it you give it a chance at life with another family. Wow that was hard to figure out.
that is just a one sided look at it. you are not taking in the consideration that a child can come out severely messed up because his technical mother didn't want the child because she was raped, and sent him into adoption. you didn't take in the fact that some kids do not come out of the adoption process right. you didn't take in the emotional baggage of knowing your mom gave you up, and then maybe she would come back because of some enlightment light bulb popped on.

this is a difficult situation to make some judgement on. adoption is not a one hundred safe measure of giving someone a stable life. now don't think i am bashing the adoption process. of course there are many kids who make it, and end up just fine. that's not the point of the matter, and the negative facts of the adoption process is not the point either.

the point is, at least to me, that in that certain situation, the woman deserves the right to choose. and with that situation, the choice, i don't see it as being sinful to abort the baby because she was raped. i'm not a woman, i don't know how that could possbily be to be raped and then have a child conceived and then think what is the right outcome. i don't think people should try to figure it out, let alone us men try to figure it out.

i used to be a hardcore pro-life person. then i started realizing that pro-choice is not pro-death, it is simple, pro-choice. now, i think if abortion is every legal, like one hundred percent legal, the federal government, needs to mandate it big time. there needs to be a time period of mental and psychological analysis of the girl. there needs to be investigation of the situation that came about. with the pregnancy complications well, i don't think that needs federal government mandatation, that needs the doctor's notes. i think there should be a set, clear, strict guideline to do an abortion, not some free-for all sex-aholics going in there just because they screwed around and they don't a child just yet. being pro-choice does not mean your pro-death, or pro-immorality. it just means that you look at situation, see it from all perspectives, and then try to find the best outcome in that situation, and to me personally, it does seem that pro-choice has a better outcome. and my pro-life side goes to the situations that could have been prevented by a different route of desicion making.
 
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crispie said:
Raped? Fine, have someone adopt your baby, there you go, instead of killing it you give it a chance at life with another family. Wow that was hard to figure out.
Such compassion for rape victims! Fortunately you are a guy and you will never (thank God) have to endure harboring your rapist's seed. Reliving the trauamtic violation over and over again. Enduring the emotional stress and heartache of being reminded of your rape every day for almost a year. Yeah, it's just SO DARN EASY! Duh! *blank stare*
 
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I am pro-life.. I had done numorous reports when I was in school and seeing pictures of aborted babies just breaks your heart. Some people I have talked to say that it's okay to abort it so earlier because it's not fully developed and all and yes I know a woman doesn't have that much time to abort the baby till it is too late, but as soon as that baby is conceived it is a human life.

My aunt did decide to have an abortion, it killed her to do it and she still struggles with it even tho it was almost 25 years ago. She was 14 and my uncle had raped her. And she was going to carry out the pregnancy but it eventually made her sick that she was carrying her brothers baby.

A friend of mine was told to abort her baby because there was no way the baby would survive, well she was against it and in her 6 month she had went in for an ultrasound and come to find out the baby had died, but she doesn't regret anything about it.
But I would be in the same situation if anything threatened my or my babys life I would risk it, I just couldn't go through with an abortion. And I give credit to the woman that does decide to carry it out because even if you didn't want a baby anyway it has to be the hardest decision any woman would ever have to make.
 
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tattedsaint - your position is inconsistent... and falls under punishing women for having sex. A lot of pro-lifers(not all) fall into this category with many inconsistencies in their logic.

For one, if abortion is murder then why allow it in the case of incest or rape?
It's not the fetus's fault that this crime happened, so why let it be killed over it?

Another inconsistency occurs when people compare killing a fetus to killing a toddler...
If there was a clinic, like planned parenthood, that was killing unwanted 2 yr olds I would be down there in a heartbeat offering to adopt however many I could afford.
I think most people feel this way.
So if killing a fetus is the same as killing a small child why aren't the pro-lifers that are so keen to make this comparison down at the local planned parenthood offering to adopt these children? There's 1.5 million lives equal to those of a toddler being killed every year. Organize and plead to take these lives into your homes. You'll save far more lives if the women are confronted with the people that want to adopt their child.

Another inconsistency... calling abortion murder. In most countries murder is punished severely. Are the pro-lifers that make this comparison advocating the same punishment to people who have abortions if it's made illegal? Life imprisonment? Possibly the death penalty?
The inconsistency here is that most will say, No. Well why? Saying 'No' shows you put less of a value on the life of a fetus then you do on someone already born.
 
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Bravo, Levi. I believe that the majority of lifers feel endured pregnancy is a fitting punishment for having sex. They only care about children while inutero and aren't so concerned what sort of home they are being born into.

As far as punishment for having an abortion, even before Roe vs. Wade, when abortion was illegal it was not on the grounds of murder. It was illegal because the government was concerned it was not a safe medical procedure since schools did not teach pre-med students how to perform them which meant lay people were performing them in people's homes or in their own homes. Now it is a course of study when studying medicine so it is vastly safer than the abortions of the pre-Roe era. It was never considered murder by the legal system and women could not be prosecuted for having them. If a doctor was caught performing illegal abortions, they had their license to practice medicine revoked. If it was a lay person, there was a fine. There was no capital punishment or being tried for murder.
 
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fluffy_rainbow said:
Such compassion for rape victims! Fortunately you are a guy and you will never (thank God) have to endure harboring your rapist's seed. Reliving the trauamtic violation over and over again. Enduring the emotional stress and heartache of being reminded of your rape every day for almost a year. Yeah, it's just SO DARN EASY! Duh! *blank stare*
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I think you make it more difficult than it needs to be. Why doesn't the fetus have rights? No one has been able to express what I would consider a compelling argument why a fetus is not considered human life and why it is not given the right to exist like we are. Sometimes the simplest explaination is more right than the complicated explainations, and to me the simplest answer to "is a fetus human" is yes. The easy answer to "is it the fetus's fault the woman was raped" is no-- I mean, why would it be? You can take religion entirely out of the equasion and I still come to the same answer. The simplest answer.

I don't blame the mother for what happened, but hey, life aint fair and sometimes a person has to put up with stuff that he or she didn't intend to happen. Grow up and deal with it.
 
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Levi you have made some good points. This topic will forever be argued and never settled.
Abortion is an ugly word.
I have wondered myself where I stand on this issue and I am never able to fully make the decision. I hate abortion for everything that it stands for but I think it has to be an option.
One of my good friends was one of these 'careless' people that has been mentioned above, she had sex without taking precaution and landed herself in the doctor's office where she was confirmed to be pregnant. The circumstances in her life as she saw it would not allow her to have this child - she was probably more scared at the moment to even think about how her future can be changed to accomodate this new person. However, she chose to go ahead with the abortion and we never discussed it ever again.
Now years later...she is about to adopt the baby daughter of her sister. Her sister is the 'classic' case of when a girl SHOULD abort her child according to some. She is mentally unstable, hooked on drugs, living on the streets and was raped. Noone knows who this man was, but she was able to carry the baby to term and this little girl was born perfectly healthy ( a miracle in itself). Now my friend is able to look back at her own life and the choices she made and decide that this is one way she can spare another poor child from a sad life.

I don't understand how some christians can be so bent on setting people straight in regards to whether or not abortion should be allowed. For one, it is not our place to judge or even to stop it from happening( because the approach some fanatics are using is just as bad as abortion itself)- and for another, what will happen to the women/girls that get pregnant in situations like rape as mentioned or even where their own family would very well disown them? We HOPE* that they will stop and think about the choice they are about to make, but let's face it, that's a terrifying moment for many women!

If there are not facilities provided to have the abortion procedures carried out with standards and regulations,then they will have no choice but to go under-ground or worse yet, perform the abortion on themselves which is potentially fatal. This will ALWAYS be a problem for society and we cannot ignore that...so the least we can do is keep these places open where the hygiene regulations and counselling are in place to help get these women back on their feet. If we can't save the child at least we can still save the mom - sometimes we forget that it is two people involved, not just the child.

I only pray that these women are never put in the situations where this even has to come to mind....and if it does, pray that it is something they learn from and will want to change, like my friend and her new adopted daughter.

my 2cents...take it or leave it
 
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Hi ! :wave: I'm new to this. I was looking through some of the discussions and found this one. I have very strong views on abortion. My view is that it is wrong in any case. Raped, still wrong, not the childs fault. Incest, again, not the child's fault. Harm to the mother, I have two children that I love dearly and if I ever have anymore and a doctor tells me that by carrying the child I might die, well you can bet that I would sooner give up my own life as to kill a child. In any case I believe that, as a women told me when i was younger, God can heal anything, God can do anything, if that baby is in the wrong place inside the mother He can move it, if you cant take care of the child He will send someone to comfort you. Anyway another point I want to make is is that by making abortion legal, our government has given girls and guys another form of birth control. Abortion is selfish and wrong. The bible plainly states Thou Shalt Not Kill. I believe that from the moment of conception it is a living person and has a soul. Babies are precious gifts from God and should be treated with the same respect as anyone. I love God and He loves you so therefore I love you. God Bless.:)
 
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kissybug27 said:
Hi ! :wave: I'm new to this. I was looking through some of the discussions and found this one. I have very strong views on abortion. My view is that it is wrong in any case. Raped, still wrong, not the childs fault. Incest, again, not the child's fault. Harm to the mother, I have two children that I love dearly and if I ever have anymore and a doctor tells me that by carrying the child I might die, well you can bet that I would sooner give up my own life as to kill a child. In any case I believe that, as a women told me when i was younger, God can heal anything, God can do anything, if that baby is in the wrong place inside the mother He can move it, if you cant take care of the child He will send someone to comfort you. Anyway another point I want to make is is that by making abortion legal, our government has given girls and guys another form of birth control. Abortion is selfish and wrong. The bible plainly states Thou Shalt Not Kill. I believe that from the moment of conception it is a living person and has a soul. Babies are precious gifts from God and should be treated with the same respect as anyone. I love God and He loves you so therefore I love you. God Bless.:)
AMEN to that! prepare for some strong adversity.:wave:
 
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kissybug27 said:
Hi ! :wave: I'm new to this. I was looking through some of the discussions and found this one. I have very strong views on abortion. My view is that it is wrong in any case. Raped, still wrong, not the childs fault. Incest, again, not the child's fault. Harm to the mother, I have two children that I love dearly and if I ever have anymore and a doctor tells me that by carrying the child I might die, well you can bet that I would sooner give up my own life as to kill a child. In any case I believe that, as a women told me when i was younger, God can heal anything, God can do anything, if that baby is in the wrong place inside the mother He can move it, if you cant take care of the child He will send someone to comfort you. Anyway another point I want to make is is that by making abortion legal, our government has given girls and guys another form of birth control. Abortion is selfish and wrong. The bible plainly states Thou Shalt Not Kill. I believe that from the moment of conception it is a living person and has a soul. Babies are precious gifts from God and should be treated with the same respect as anyone. I love God and He loves you so therefore I love you. God Bless.:)

And again, AMEN!
 
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levi501 said:
So if killing a fetus is the same as killing a small child why aren't the pro-lifers that are so keen to make this comparison down at the local planned parenthood offering to adopt these children? There's 1.5 million lives equal to those of a toddler being killed every year. Organize and plead to take these lives into your homes. You'll save far more lives if the women are confronted with the people that want to adopt their child.
I agree with that one hundred percent, I just wish I had the resources to save even one of these children.
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If a man rapes a woman it's a sin. If the woman who is raped has a abortion it is a sin. Just becuase the sin comes from a sin doesn't mean that it is not still a sin. Abortion is a sin plain and simple. The child was given life by God no one has the right to take it away.
 
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Many pro-lifers I know do stand outside of abortion clinics and offer to take the mom to a crisis pregnancy center for aid or adoption services. Some abortion mills are at the back of buildings which makes it difficult to speak to the people entering as we are not allowed on private property. Pro-aborts are also trying to make this sidewalk counseling illegal.
 
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kissybug27 said:
Hi ! :wave: I'm new to this. I was looking through some of the discussions and found this one. I have very strong views on abortion. My view is that it is wrong in any case. Raped, still wrong, not the childs fault. Incest, again, not the child's fault. Harm to the mother, I have two children that I love dearly and if I ever have anymore and a doctor tells me that by carrying the child I might die, well you can bet that I would sooner give up my own life as to kill a child. In any case I believe that, as a women told me when i was younger, God can heal anything, God can do anything, if that baby is in the wrong place inside the mother He can move it, if you cant take care of the child He will send someone to comfort you. Anyway another point I want to make is is that by making abortion legal, our government has given girls and guys another form of birth control. Abortion is selfish and wrong. The bible plainly states Thou Shalt Not Kill. I believe that from the moment of conception it is a living person and has a soul. Babies are precious gifts from God and should be treated with the same respect as anyone. I love God and He loves you so therefore I love you. God Bless.:)
hello kissybug :)

i have one question with your post. if you believe "Thou Shalt Not Kill" to its fullest extent, then are you pro-death penalty, or against it? if you are for the death penalty, then does justice go outside the Ten Commandments? and what about war? of course scriptures say there will always be wars, but how are we as Christians to believe like with this war in Iraq, or whatever war that has happened?

to your other points, it's not that i disagree with them personally. it's just your using pro-choices to give life to a child, no matter what circumstances. but you have to realize that other's consciences are not like yours, and just because someone is different that doesn't mean their conscience on this matter is skewed, or sinful.

pro-choice is not a slap in the face to the child, at least i don't see how it is. i used to think that any type of abortion was bad and sinful. but i'm different now for some reason. plus with people who do agree with pro-choice in certain scenarios, it's not that they are pro-abortion. i hate abortion just as the next person does. but the situations i have mentioned are the only ways that i can abortion practical. God can do miracles, but can you tell me any point in time that a miracle is the norm for everyone? God will do miracles in this area, no matter if abortion is legal or not. God is bigger than our understanding and whatever laws we put into place, even if we think we're on the right track.

if you can tell me a way that we can get people to use sex for the right reasons, for the right timing, and if it works for everyone, then i will become a hardcore pro-life again. if you can tell me a way to stop rapes and everything else that touchs abortion, then i think it would be appropiate to be a 100 percent pro-lifer. it's just, that's not the way it is.

plus, you are using your own emotional, personal choice to make an set opinion on a topic. if i had kids, would i want to abort them? no way! if i had kids, i would want to give my life if need to be to be sure they live a full life. but what does that have anything to do with the issue of abortion? we cannot understand every situation out there based upon our emotional choices.

the fact is we live in a fallen world. God doesn't do amazing, phenomenal miralces all the time. the main point of faith is sustaining our faith through bad times, especially through a time to where an abortion may have had to be the best move for a mother. it's like with war, we live in a fallen world, and it's something we have to deal with with control. i believe abortion is the same. we have to control it. abortion is only another birth control if people use it in that manner, and i believe that if the federal government will make strict legalities to where it doesn't become like that then abortion won't be as bad as it seems.

as you i believe at the moment of conception the creation is a being. but then tell me why it's ok to go to war, or to put someone in the electric chair to die for sins he committed, when that life is being cancelled out from moving forward in the world they live in? do you think the innocent iraqis that have died to our war over there asked for that? of course not, just as any baby that had died because the mom wanted to survive the pregnancy, or because the mom was put into a rock and a hard spot because some guy raped her. but which one is right? there are negative and positive effects to every choice we make.

now please, i don't want you to think i am coming after you in opposition. i just question your reasoning that you shared for being pro-life. because making a claim that you are pro-life, because it is said, "Thou Shalt Not Kill" means you should be lined up in any other areas of life. plus, i just see that view point to be one sided, and not dealing with this fallen world, and the bad situations that come up for women that have to make that choice. that is my personal opinion, and i don't want this to be an argument between you and i, because we are brother and sister in Christ. we just have two different trains of thought on this issue. and like i said, it's not like i disagree with you, it's just, i have a hard time understanding how you, or any 100 percent pro-lifer can fit that into views of abortion.

so again, i am not coming after you and attacking your views. i am just questioning them, and i hope you feel the sense of love with my questions and to know that i am not judging you. i am just questioning your views and stating more of my own thus showing the reasons why i believe as i do. i hope that if you and i continue to talk about this, that it continues this way :) God Bless you! :)
 
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If a man rapes a woman it's a sin. If the woman who is raped has a abortion it is a sin. Just becuase the sin comes from a sin doesn't mean that it is not still a sin. Abortion is a sin plain and simple. The child was given life by God no one has the right to take it away.
if no one has the right to take a life away period, then that means all war is wrong, and any Christian serving in Iraq right now is sinning right? if no one has the right to take a life away period, then that means the death penalty is sin, and no matter what Christian is involved in the justice system, and committing a grave sin, for taking life away right? that means it is a sin to kill a man in self-defense that threatens yours or your family's life right? saying that no one has the right to take away a life of a fetus, means that all of the above apply to that belief. or is situational ethics divine truth?
 
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