Yes, it is a predicament, because you're not free and clear yet. By the law, you're still married. So if you're still "technically" married, then you have no business flirting and chatting with another woman. I find it interesting that the question you posted on the beginning of the forum stated, "do I fight for my marriage or move on with my Christian walk". That is not a statement that has an "OR" in it. If you truly follow Christ, then you will keep your vows and fight for your marriage. Following your heart will get you into trouble just like the verses in the Bible promise. The heart is desperately wicked, it always wants the easy way out.
And while flirting and finding emotional comfort in this new woman may seem fun and exciting, you're actually flirting with fire. Not only are you breaking your marriage vows (forsaking all others), you're actually disobeying God at the same time.
So I beg of you, please stop this new relationship with this woman. Don't destroy her life while you're trying to put yours and your children's lives back together. You're not ready legally. And emotionally, you're not ready for another person's life to be accountable for. Remember, every new person you add to this equation, you're adding more and more complications.
I would strongly encourage you to go back to marriage counseling. Even if it's by yourself. You may think you're ready for another woman, but you're not. You need to learn to trust God to help you with your life...not another woman. Because I dare say, if you ignore everything I'm suggesting, in 2-3 years you'll be divorcing this woman because God was not in this marriage.