- Oct 26, 2017
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I would like to start out in saying how great it is to find a community like this that is willing to help people in their search for answers in the word of God.
This current issue that I am needing advice on is the current state of my marriage.
I was saved in 2008 and was led to Christ by my first wife. Several years and a son later and multiple affairs on her part we divorced and I moved away from God.
In 2012 I started dating a younger woman who was only 19 when I was 26. Everything started out great and we fell in love very quickly and was married a little over a year later. I knew at that time that she struggled with certain parts of her child hood and especially the untimely death of her mother in a car wreck when she was 14.
We started attending church locally and I eventually moved my letter and we were accepted as members. I then took on a second full time job in order to help with bills and we started to slowly drift away from Church.
I have equal responsibility in the destruction of the marriage and even more so because I know that it is my responsibility to lead my family in the Christian manner.
Last January my wife started school and in May I discovered she was have an emotional affair which she ended once I found out. She agreed to counseling but only went 4-5 times then quit. I had to beg her to come to church and she would only come because I kept nagging. She then started working as a waitress at a bar and grill working days then moved to straight nights and we were so apart in our views that I initially said that I give up because of what I felt as a lack of trying on her part and moved out. She did nothing to stop me.
I have recently rededicated my life to God and take my children to church as much as possible and I again feel him working through me.
However, she has recently stated that she feels abandoned by God and that she really does not know him personally though. She has become a person I, nor her family, even recognizes anymore.
She still calls me when she needs something or needs advice but otherwise does not talk to me unless we need to discuss our daughter.
I feel like I don't need to give up on my wife, even though we have signed separation papers, but at the same time how much do I take. I pray all day long for God to enter her heart. Her family, has told me at least, that they are on my side and are telling her she is making a huge mistake.
I guess I am struggling in knowing what is "My heart" and what is "God telling me"
Any perspective is welcome as I am lost as to what to do. Leave her alone and move on or fight for my wife.
This current issue that I am needing advice on is the current state of my marriage.
I was saved in 2008 and was led to Christ by my first wife. Several years and a son later and multiple affairs on her part we divorced and I moved away from God.
In 2012 I started dating a younger woman who was only 19 when I was 26. Everything started out great and we fell in love very quickly and was married a little over a year later. I knew at that time that she struggled with certain parts of her child hood and especially the untimely death of her mother in a car wreck when she was 14.
We started attending church locally and I eventually moved my letter and we were accepted as members. I then took on a second full time job in order to help with bills and we started to slowly drift away from Church.
I have equal responsibility in the destruction of the marriage and even more so because I know that it is my responsibility to lead my family in the Christian manner.
Last January my wife started school and in May I discovered she was have an emotional affair which she ended once I found out. She agreed to counseling but only went 4-5 times then quit. I had to beg her to come to church and she would only come because I kept nagging. She then started working as a waitress at a bar and grill working days then moved to straight nights and we were so apart in our views that I initially said that I give up because of what I felt as a lack of trying on her part and moved out. She did nothing to stop me.
I have recently rededicated my life to God and take my children to church as much as possible and I again feel him working through me.
However, she has recently stated that she feels abandoned by God and that she really does not know him personally though. She has become a person I, nor her family, even recognizes anymore.
She still calls me when she needs something or needs advice but otherwise does not talk to me unless we need to discuss our daughter.
I feel like I don't need to give up on my wife, even though we have signed separation papers, but at the same time how much do I take. I pray all day long for God to enter her heart. Her family, has told me at least, that they are on my side and are telling her she is making a huge mistake.
I guess I am struggling in knowing what is "My heart" and what is "God telling me"
Any perspective is welcome as I am lost as to what to do. Leave her alone and move on or fight for my wife.