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Featured I'm not sure how to react in this situation

Discussion in 'Christian Advice' started by Milos, Nov 29, 2017.

  1. Radagast

    Radagast has left CF

    Missed that.

    It's hard to provide help without the full story.
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  2. Halbhh

    Halbhh The wonder and awe of His Creation! Supporter

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    A cross is not an idol, or not usually. An 'idol' is just anything people make more important in their hearts than the Father, Son and Spirit.

    But what you said earlier above about a person in the church is concerning: "...already lost a friend since he believes if one is experiencing bullying then they deserve it. I can partially understand where he is coming from but that isn't true 100% of the time, sometimes the one receiving the bullying is the victim." <-- This person isn't yet following Christ well, and so it's possible he might not even believe in his heart. Those actually believing in Christ will be like this:
    "By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
    If someone doesn't act loving towards you, you can't know they are His. What are they following? They may be following men or some other ideas -- actual 'idols' (things not of God). So that's concerning by itself if more than only a few in a church acted that way. A very few might in a church, because a church will usually have both strong believers and weak believers and non believers. But if many in a church are not loving, flee it and find a church where most are loving to you and one another, so you can know you are in a church that follows Christ. Preaching should be mostly from the New Testament, very often from the 4 gospels, and the people should be loving. For yourself also, you can have better days in many ways by praying the Lord's Prayer in Matthew chapter 6 with belief.
    Bible Gateway passage: Matthew 6:5-15 - New International Version
    More than one of us will pray for you, and I want you to learn this prayer Christ said to you to pray also.
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  3. Truthfrees

    Truthfrees Well-Known Member Staff Member Purple Team - Moderator Supporter Recovery Team CF Senior Ambassador Angels Team

    Word of Faith
    o wow

    so sorry about this serious situation

    praying for your protection vindication and healing from the trauma

    this is not at all your fault

    there is nothing you did to deserve this and you are acting admirally in the face of such unfair concentrated hatred

    what can you do about this?

    i'm not sure - so i'm praying for you and will get other prayer groups i am a part of to pray for you

    actually one thought that comes to mind is to try to communicate with people one on one and ask them "why do you say that? - you don't even know me - what would cause you to say something like this to me?"

    praying for your deleiverance and vindication from this hateful treatment

    another thought is reporting this to the housing/rental authority or even human rights to see what they can do

    God Bless you my dear friend
  4. Truthfrees

    Truthfrees Well-Known Member Staff Member Purple Team - Moderator Supporter Recovery Team CF Senior Ambassador Angels Team

    Word of Faith
    wow praise God for this good news

    it's not idolatry to wear a cross

    you are doing such a good job of trying to do the right thing

    do what works

    if some of your christian friends don't understand that's ok

    they aren't the ones living in a dangerous situation - you are - so you need to do what works to keep yourself safe

    God Bless you my friend

    praying for you
  5. devin553344

    devin553344 Well-Known Member

    Sorry to hear that. perhaps there is some authority you can consult. Perhaps that will aid your situation, it sounds more like hatred than bullying. God Bless.
  6. Apologetic_Warrior

    Apologetic_Warrior Well-Known Member

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    So sorry to hear, growing up in public school(s), especially from 6-9th grades, the bullies I had to deal with, made my life a living hell. It's not right, it's not cool, it's a sad display of human nature. I wish there were an easy answer an easy solution, but none really come to mind. I am quite certain, especially in my 20's, that I would have simply dropped out of college. Escaping and running away from a problem is sometimes the only sane way out. I am aware of comments that would follow, but I have walked a mile in the shoes of a person who had to face his bullies day in and day out continually dealing with their blind completely unnecessary hatred without cause or sufficient reason. You're in my thoughts friend.
  7. Purity Clarity Parkes

    Purity Clarity Parkes Member

    Remember, for all problems, the solution comes from prayer and asking oneself,”What would Jesus do?”.
    I personally went through a similar stage in Grade 8, where most people thought that I was a terrorist just because my name was ‘hard to pronounce’. The only way I ‘got around it’ was by praying, and being as king as I could to everyone.

    For you it may be different, considering you are in a college setting, but God will walk you through. If you every needed a friend, you have one in myself and Jesus.

    Do not underestimate the Power of God that can shine through a smile. Try smiling/thinking of God every time you are bullied. I would also recommend openly declaring your Faith.

    I will pray for you daily.
    Yours Sincerely
    ~Purity Clarity Parkes.
  8. KrispinWatson

    KrispinWatson New Member

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    “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still” - Exodus 14:14

    Unfortunately, we cannot control the ignorance of those that choose to bully. All we can do is pray and have faith. God will fight your battles for you. You are strong and you are able to withstand this. Whatever you do, do not stoop to their level. God will be with you and I will be praying for you!
  9. LoricaLady

    LoricaLady YHWH's

    Exactly what I was thinking. You can find male bracelets online with crosses, for example but a big bold cross on a chain or leather strap might be the most noticeable.

    I also strongly agree with the person that says such things should be reported.

    I'm sorry this is happening to you. I pray you have peace and protection.
  10. LoricaLady

    LoricaLady YHWH's

    Oh, I see above that you don't want to wear a cross. Well there re T shirts with Bible verses on them. If those are a little pricey for you right now, maybe you can make some of your own with the help of some fabric friendly colored pens and an artistic type in a nearby Church.
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  11. disciple1

    disciple1 Newbie

    Isn't their someone in charge to talk to, I don't know what else to tell you.
  12. LoricaLady

    LoricaLady YHWH's

    One last thought - though I still think the bullies need to be reported: I would say something to the bullies like, "Do you think I am a Muslim? Is that why you are treating me this way? I am a Christian and I hate and despise what people like those in Isis have been doing!"
  13. dqhall

    dqhall Well-Known Member Supporter

    I know there are Arab Christians and Moslems. I cannot tell what a person is like by his/her appearance.

    I did better with strangers when I was polite and gave out greetings when I could. They heard my greeting and gave me peace.

    Once I had neighbors so bad, they gave me continuous threats instead of peace. I had to move. Some people can no longer talk to any of their neighbors. They stay inside and go out only when necessary, they speak to no one along the way.

    When I was in college, the dorms were so noisy studious students retreated to libraries and other quiet areas to study, returning home to sleep late at night. There was some rowdy partying going on in some of the rooms, especially on the weekends.
  14. Greek2Me

    Greek2Me New Member

    Jesus Himself "experienced bullying" on a level we can't even IMAGINE, but I can't think anyone would seriously suggest that "He DESERVED it", can you? Bullying occurs because people lack compassion or love, and are seeking to fill something which is lacking in their own lives.

    God loves you, me and even them. Period. Rest assured of that, and seek His strength and love to pass on to them. Be well...
  15. ToBeLoved

    ToBeLoved Well-Known Member Supporter

    This is really not a bad idea.

    There are also T-shirt’s, baseball caps and sweatshirts. And I would buy and wear a cross. Make sure it is outside of your shirt not under it.

    Let people see who you are.

    I might also when talking with people actually say I can’t believe people are bullying me. I am a Christian. Counter act some of the negative
  16. Lybrah

    Lybrah Active Member


    I know this is a cop-out, but maybe try transferring to a new college, far away. Life is too short for this garbage. These people are not worth it.
  17. Kristen Davis

    Kristen Davis Member

    Well I am sorry you have to endure bullying but I think the best thing to do is to contact your school's supervisor and report this problem immediately! This is a severe problem that could affect your academic success and you need to have this problem dealt with immediately! Also remember the bible quote psalms 27:1 the lord is the light of my salvation of whom shalt I fear.