I have to admit, I'm a little annoyed by the comments stating "what do you expect, kids will be kids, duh...." well, not those words exactly, but I do resent the attitude, and here is why.
First of all ( a real immature word here that fits perfectly..) duh.... Who is ignorant enough to not understand that kids will be kids? I did come here to vent, at the risk of some lack of tolerance which you find in almost every thread you start when you post something that others might judge you on. I didn't come here to be judged, but for complete sensitivity and maybe some gentle words, which most all of you gave, even regardless of the "duh" part (hope I'm not losing anyone). That does bother me because I am not a bad mom. I know none of you have said "you're a bad mom", but you might as well imply it when you state insensitive things like that. I deal with my desire to be the best mom and the reality of feeling angry and frustrated every day, I mean every single day and night, it's in my prayers every night. What good does such comments do? Seriously. I know this, and yet I just need to vent. I'm tempted to start a thread well hopefully parents can safely vent their anger and frustrations without having to face any judgement or critism. We all know what having kids entail. If anyone has a holier than thou attitude about how great of a parent they are than others, then atleast use some judgement to keep it to yourself.
Ok, that said.
I love my kids, I treasure them often! I am greatful that I can have kids! However, for myself, raising them is hard, it is challenging, and frustrating and sometimes I just want to yell. I did do a good thing by putting them to bed early because I was understanding my limits, and I it is harder for me to be patient when I'm tired and feeling overwhelmed, which is what was happening. I knew that when I posted this... yet it was somewhat theraputic to just vent, can anyone relate? Just because I know these things doesn't mean it's any less frustrating. And thanks to those who prayed for me because it helped. I guess that is all I have to say for now. Oh, and that I try not to compare myself to others. I know other people can cope better than myself, but does that mean they should have kids but I shouldn't? No, I disagree, and fortunately so does God. As for my mil, it amazes me how a 65 year old woman with knee problems is able to come to my home, take care of my kids, and clean my house better than I can???? But I'm sure she isn't someone more powerful or better than I am, maybe more mature and patient. No one is more capable than anyone else. Some people might have more understanding or have an understanding that others don't... and others just haven't found that niche... or some people have higher standards than others. My mil has the personality like my hubbie's where she doesn't worry as much as I do, therefore she may not be as careful.... sure, she seems more at peace, but the kids end up with filthy cloths and filthy faces, that is not something I am at peace with. My hubby is content to sit on the couch, watch his shows, and let the kids get into more things than I do... no wonder he seems to have it more together than me......
It seems there is always more to the story than we realize at times. That is why we shouldn't compare ourselves to others.
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