Hello everyone,
This is pretty much my first post here. Something is just bothering me that I need to talk about with some fellow Christians of whom I believe may be able to relate to me. It's about a friend of mine. I'll just call her 'Lizzie' for privacy sake.
Well, recently 'Lizzie' lost her virginity. I have other friends who have lost it but none effected me like Lizzie because of the type of person that Lizzie always pretended to be. What I'm trying to say is that Lizzie says she is a Christian and always acted like a really strong one. At least, until recently. Well, last year she went through this whole phase where she would talk nothing else but God and the bible and praying. Something in the past months changed that. I'm starting to wonder if she was ever sincere about it in the first place and I'm scared for her.
Anyways, we got into countless discussions in the past about saving ourselves until marriage. It was something that we both had wanted in our lives. Then, not even a month ago, Lizzie got a boyfriend. He lives at a military base so they've only seen each other maybe 10 or so times. Just last week Lizzie was telling me how her boyfriend wasn't a virgin and that she told him about wanting to wait for marriage. She went on and on about saving herself and even spoke about our other friend who is moving rather fast with her boyfriend and saying that she was worried that they would do something.
Well, the next time I spoke to her she told me about what happened. It was really shocking but at the same time, it wasn't. Lizzie expressed her fears about being pregnant and said that if she were she would want an abortion. When I voiced my opinion on that she said something like, 'having a baby, oww!' Also, she had no shame or remorse about what happened at all and now is talking about going on the pill.
I want to be a good friend to her but I just don't know how to react to all of this. It hurts me so much seeing how easily she threw it away and with someone that she barely knows. I don't want to be like a mom to her but I almost feel like that. I'm just so disappointed in her and she's lost my respect. I'll never be able to see her the same way. It just hurts and I cry thinking about it. So, how does someone deal with something like this? How can I be a good and supported friend when I see what is happening to her?
This is pretty much my first post here. Something is just bothering me that I need to talk about with some fellow Christians of whom I believe may be able to relate to me. It's about a friend of mine. I'll just call her 'Lizzie' for privacy sake.
Well, recently 'Lizzie' lost her virginity. I have other friends who have lost it but none effected me like Lizzie because of the type of person that Lizzie always pretended to be. What I'm trying to say is that Lizzie says she is a Christian and always acted like a really strong one. At least, until recently. Well, last year she went through this whole phase where she would talk nothing else but God and the bible and praying. Something in the past months changed that. I'm starting to wonder if she was ever sincere about it in the first place and I'm scared for her.
Anyways, we got into countless discussions in the past about saving ourselves until marriage. It was something that we both had wanted in our lives. Then, not even a month ago, Lizzie got a boyfriend. He lives at a military base so they've only seen each other maybe 10 or so times. Just last week Lizzie was telling me how her boyfriend wasn't a virgin and that she told him about wanting to wait for marriage. She went on and on about saving herself and even spoke about our other friend who is moving rather fast with her boyfriend and saying that she was worried that they would do something.
Well, the next time I spoke to her she told me about what happened. It was really shocking but at the same time, it wasn't. Lizzie expressed her fears about being pregnant and said that if she were she would want an abortion. When I voiced my opinion on that she said something like, 'having a baby, oww!' Also, she had no shame or remorse about what happened at all and now is talking about going on the pill.
I want to be a good friend to her but I just don't know how to react to all of this. It hurts me so much seeing how easily she threw it away and with someone that she barely knows. I don't want to be like a mom to her but I almost feel like that. I'm just so disappointed in her and she's lost my respect. I'll never be able to see her the same way. It just hurts and I cry thinking about it. So, how does someone deal with something like this? How can I be a good and supported friend when I see what is happening to her?
). I've since regreted my decisions and I'm sure that your friend will to. I've only recently been trying to live a Christian life again. I was in the same phase that your friend is in for a few years.
