Hello RC friends,
I never thought this would be a place I would ever post, but I need a Catholic viewpoint or viewpoints in order to help my best friend develop spiritually. (small background on me, I am Anglo-Catholic/Emerging Catholic (High Episcopalian, my father is RC and I am very familiar with church lingo and even though I disagree, I have a very soft spot in my heart for RCs, as my father is an amazing and very faithful man)
Anyway, my best friend/roommate Nicole is a lesbian. She is also a faithful RC. She doesn't date women, she has a boyfriend, who she has been upfront with about being a lesbian (he's not RC but is interested), but we have had very long talks that she can't feel anything more than "friend love" for him, and she is worried she'll have to "settle" because maybe this was her cross to bear and this is as good as it will get. From an AC/EC background, this makes my heart very sad. And I can tell it makes her very sad as well. She has told me while in confession the priest will correct her to say that lust is the sin, not being a lesbian. She's still trying to figure that out, and I'm not sure what to make of it either. Lust is a sin for ALL people. We ALL succumb to it now and again.
I already know the RC platform on same sex marriage. So no need to bring that up. But, I want to support Nicole in her faith, and I'm not quite sure how to do it. Thoughts and suggestions are more than welcome, but anti-gay hate speech isn't. A relationship with Jesus is so important, and I want to help her on her way, because she's been quite discouraged lately. She is seeking spiritual direction, but if there is anything I can reinforce at home or what have you...well I'll take your suggestions.
Thanks,
Lex
I never thought this would be a place I would ever post, but I need a Catholic viewpoint or viewpoints in order to help my best friend develop spiritually. (small background on me, I am Anglo-Catholic/Emerging Catholic (High Episcopalian, my father is RC and I am very familiar with church lingo and even though I disagree, I have a very soft spot in my heart for RCs, as my father is an amazing and very faithful man)
Anyway, my best friend/roommate Nicole is a lesbian. She is also a faithful RC. She doesn't date women, she has a boyfriend, who she has been upfront with about being a lesbian (he's not RC but is interested), but we have had very long talks that she can't feel anything more than "friend love" for him, and she is worried she'll have to "settle" because maybe this was her cross to bear and this is as good as it will get. From an AC/EC background, this makes my heart very sad. And I can tell it makes her very sad as well. She has told me while in confession the priest will correct her to say that lust is the sin, not being a lesbian. She's still trying to figure that out, and I'm not sure what to make of it either. Lust is a sin for ALL people. We ALL succumb to it now and again.
I already know the RC platform on same sex marriage. So no need to bring that up. But, I want to support Nicole in her faith, and I'm not quite sure how to do it. Thoughts and suggestions are more than welcome, but anti-gay hate speech isn't. A relationship with Jesus is so important, and I want to help her on her way, because she's been quite discouraged lately. She is seeking spiritual direction, but if there is anything I can reinforce at home or what have you...well I'll take your suggestions.
Thanks,
Lex