I have a question

[sk8brdkd]

Let me share the backstory first. I’ll try and summarize it

7 months ago, my ex cheated on me. He first admitted I shouldn’t be ok with him sleeping with someone else. Then started telling me things like he’s not ready to commit to anyone right now, he doesn’t want to date anyone bc of talks/drama, etc and he wants to be single so he can advance his life/career. He told me he doesn’t have love for anyone but me... however, all the while that had been going on btwn me and him, he was still seeing and sleeping with that girl.

Fast forward to this past month, and I finally found out the truth from him and they are bf/gf which I had figured anyways.

So 2 weeks ago, he started arguing with me again about how it’s pointless being friends and I responded to him saying, I didn’t want to stop being friends with him but that right now, I need some time and space to myself.

Well.. my comment started it. He started giving me negative attitude. Calling me stuff *staff edit* for no reason. 7 months ago, before he cheated on me, I lent him $5,000, and he’s slowly been paying me back. I haven’t questioned him or pushed him to pay me back faster. I Always told him, when he can. However.. when he started giving me attitude wanting me to pick up all my stuff from his house, I did mention the last $400 that he owes me and that set him off. Calling me money hungry. Saying all I care about is money. I gave the dude 7 months to pay me back without any type of an attitude and he’s calling me money hungry..,

Sorry I rambled too much. My question is, why is he giving me such an attitude? Why is he being so angry, calling me names and being so negative towards me.

I told him flat out. With the way he’s treating me now, everyone would think that I’m the one who cheated on him instead of him cheating on me bc of the attitude he’s giving me. I haven’t given him an attitude. I’ve been trying to be very patient and understanding this entire time trying to know and understand the truth. And he kept giving me run arounds. I recently asked him what I said or did to make him give me this attitude and asking what I did to make him hate me all of a sudden. He responded saying he doesn’t hate me. Also said that he still really loves and misses me. But within an hour, after he found out from his dad that I’m friends with another guy, he started giving me a terrible attitude again. But why??? I wish I knew what I did that was so wrong in his eyes to deserve this attitude from him.

Can anyone explain his behavior to me and tell me why he’s treating me like this now and being so angry and negative towards me?

 

[Saucy]

It's very rarely that couples split up and everything is fine between them. And having a girlfriend makes it a bit worse. He wants to move past you and focus his time and attention on her. She's probably giving him a bit of grief to cut all contact with you. As shared with you before, being friends with this guy isn't a good idea. He committed the ultimate betrayal and is now pushing you away. He's trying to make you hate him, maybe so he doesn't feel as guilty doing what he did.

Get the rest that you're owed back, and cut ties. You believe otherwise, as you've stated before you believe God wants you to remain friends with him, but I think that's just you having a tough time removing someone you care about from your life.

 

[vinsight4u]

/nvm

 

[kittysbecute]

It’s simple. He’s a jerk. There isn’t any reason to keep him in your life.

 

[com7fy8]

7 months ago, my ex cheated on me. He first admitted I shouldn’t be ok with him sleeping with someone else. Then started telling me things like he’s not ready to commit to anyone right now, he doesn’t want to date anyone bc of talks/drama, etc and he wants to be single so he can advance his life/career. He told me he doesn’t have love for anyone but me... however, all the while that had been going on btwn me and him, he was still seeing and sleeping with that girl.

Fast forward to this past month, and I finally found out the truth from him and they are bf/gf which I had figured anyways.

And, of course, God knew this, all along, right? So, we can pray and obey how God guides us so we trust the people He knows it will be good to trust.

It is good to share with people who are good examples of how to be real with God and submit to Him and how to relate well with other people. We need good examples like this. They can help us know who knows how to love, so we can connect with the right people.

I would say to share only with a guy who is obviously helping you get more real with God and he is helping you to learn how to love in a close relationship, including "without complaining and disputing" (in Philippians 2:13-16), and

"submitting to one another in the fear of God." (Ephesians 5:21)

"nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock." (1 Peter 5:3)

"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you." (Ephesians 4:31-32)

This is basic Biblical relating for children of God. I would not get close to anyone who is not obviously helping you to relate and share like this.

And I think a real Jesus guy would tell you to have mercy on a man who has betrayed you and who does not know how to love the way Jesus wants. And forgive yourself for fooling yourself into getting involved with a foolish person who is a cheater and therefore a betrayer. We can fool our own selves into getting with wrong people and then we can blame the other person; but . . .

I will answer to God. I myself need to get into obeying how our Heavenly Father guides me about who I trust and how I get involved with each person >

"And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful." (Colossians 3:15)

This is basic Christianity . . . how we all are "called in one body" to obey how our Father rules us in His own peace; in our Heavenly Father's peace we have His personal guiding about who He would have us trust. And He will guide us in how to relate with people whom we should not trust. He is able to give us wisdom and keep us in His peace, while we are dealing with enemies and selfish people.

Even while we have enemies around us, we can have all the good which our Father desires to share with us >

"You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies;" (in Psalm 23:5)

So, if we are with God, we already have all the good which He is sharing with us, so that we do not fool ourselves into compromising with wrong people in order to try to get what we suppose wrong people can give us. So, then, a question is not why has a wrong person treated me badly, but why have I trusted a worldly person when I could be enjoying all we can have with God?

We can stay in His peace, all the time, while we submit to Him. This is a basic of what comes with trusting in Jesus > Matthew 11:28-30 < with Jesus and His real correction, "you will find rest for your souls."

Therefore, I need to trust God to correct me about how I have not done this, but have for selfish reasons given my attention to wrong people instead of to Him first. God is worthy to have our attention first, all the time, isn't He? We need to not cheat on our Groom Jesus, by allowing selfish people to have power over us and control our attention. Give them the attention of prayer with caring and our good example, but do not allow them to have power to hurt or control and use us >

"And who is he who will harm you if you become followers of what is good?" (1 Peter 3:13)

So, we all need to do what you need to do, instead of allowing evil people and selfish people to have power over us. But do have mercy and compassion for wrong and worldly people, and pray with hope for them; Jesus suffered and died on the cross with hope for any and all evil and selfish and foolish people. So, we all qualify for the welfare of God's mercy.

So, give your attention to God and to genuinely Christian people, including couples who have done well in relating in their marriages and bringing up their children, so you can learn from their example. In other words, God bless you by having you do this

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

He's treating you poorly because hes trying to push you away but doesn't have the guts to say he wants you out of his life completely. So in a passive aggressive way hes trying to make you end the friendship so he doesn't have to. It's easier for him if you end the friendship than if he does. People do this all the time when they want to break up and be with someone else but want to keep their self image that they are a nice kind person intact, and if they just tell you flat out, I don't want you in my life again. In their mind that is not congruent with their self image. So to keep their self image in tact they subconsiously get you to end it for them by passive aggression. They do all they can to make you hate them, to make you sick of them so that if you are the one who ends it they can feel better. Theres nothing new about this behavior and there need not be any confusion about what your ex is doing here.

I suggest getting your money back, and forget about him. I don't know if this is the case with him or not but knowing this would help. Was your ex involved in numerous relationships with many options or did he go with you because he didn't have many options. The reason I ask because perhaps he went with you while trying to find someone he deemed better and then once he did hes now trying to push you away once he got what he wanted out of you. It sucks, but it is something that is so common theres no real confusion as to why hes doing what hes doing. I hope this helps.

 

[sk8brdkd]

It's very rarely that couples split up and everything is fine between them. And having a girlfriend makes it a bit worse. He wants to move past you and focus his time and attention on her. She's probably giving him a bit of grief to cut all contact with you. As shared with you before, being friends with this guy isn't a good idea. He committed the ultimate betrayal and is now pushing you away. He's trying to make you hate him, maybe so he doesn't feel as guilty doing what he did.

Get the rest that you're owed back, and cut ties. You believe otherwise, as you've stated before you believe God wants you to remain friends with him, but I think that's just you having a tough time removing someone you care about from your life.

Things only got worse after I told him I needed time and space away from him. But, it was after I took the welder that I bought and took it from his house, that he blamed me for snooping and stating he doesn't trust me. I actually just asked his sister about his behavior and she told me that he actually feels guilty about what has happened but instead of blaming himself, he feels the need to blame me instead and take it out on me. That all he wanted was for him to have this new girl and to have me hang around the 2 of them (me being the best friend), and to do all the activities w/ him still w/ her --- I wasn't about to do that bc i couldn't accept her and he stated he understood that. Honestly, about 3 weeks ago or so, I prayed and asked God if he still really wanted me to be friends w/ him or not and I prayed that he'd make it clear. Well, 2 weeks ago, God made it clear and said no. so, we've basically cut ties. He still has a few things that he needs to give me back but, I really don't want to text him yet. I'm not ready to yet.

It didn't seem like he really wanted to cut ties to be honest. But, he's blaming me for some things now it seems. I've given him to God 100% now so, now God can work on him --- About 2 months ago, God told me that he's going to teach him a lesson thru this girl, so, time and space is what he needs and that is what he's going to get, as well as me.

 

[sk8brdkd]

He's treating you poorly because hes trying to push you away but doesn't have the guts to say he wants you out of his life completely. So in a passive aggressive way hes trying to make you end the friendship so he doesn't have to. It's easier for him if you end the friendship than if he does. People do this all the time when they want to break up and be with someone else but want to keep their self image that they are a nice kind person intact, and if they just tell you flat out, I don't want you in my life again. In their mind that is not congruent with their self image. So to keep their self image in tact they subconsiously get you to end it for them by passive aggression. They do all they can to make you hate them, to make you sick of them so that if you are the one who ends it they can feel better. Theres nothing new about this behavior and there need not be any confusion about what your ex is doing here.

I suggest getting your money back, and forget about him. I don't know if this is the case with him or not but knowing this would help. Was your ex involved in numerous relationships with many options or did he go with you because he didn't have many options. The reason I ask because perhaps he went with you while trying to find someone he deemed better and then once he did hes now trying to push you away once he got what he wanted out of you. It sucks, but it is something that is so common theres no real confusion as to why hes doing what hes doing. I hope this helps.

I will never hate him. I hate what he did to me and the lies he told me. As I told him 2 weeks ago, I am not going to walk away from him and I won't, not completely. I'll still be around if he wants to text me but I am not going to go out of my way right now to text or to talk to him. But, I do not hate him. No matter how much attitude and negativity that he sends my way, nothing he can say or do, will send me packing for good. I just need space right now. I need not be friends w/ him right now. I need not talk to him right now. I will never tell him that I don't want to be friends and I will never tell him that I'm walking away for good. If he chooses to, then that's his prerogative.
I see that he's been pushing me away and I called him out on it 2 weeks ago, which actually made him angrier. Didn't effect me much other then made me a bit angry. Can't say he actually broke up w/ me --- he cheated on me and things kinda ended a month later while he was still seeing this girl and still cheating on me for that month.

I have still been praying for him on and off --- I still hold love for him in my heart and I still care about him a lot --- i can't see why i should hate him as a person besides hating his actions. There's no hate in my heart towards him. There's some anger and hurt that is lingering and a lack of trust w/ trying to trust other people --- those are what i'm working through but, i never hated him.

My ex and i were best friends for 7 yrs. We did everything together and for the first 5 1/2 yrs, we saw each other sometimes for 12-14 hrs a day --- we worked together and then hung out after work just about everyday. We got extremely close and started doing other activities together --- biking, boating, hiking, vacations -- it was a great relationship. During one of his relationships he had w/ another girl, he began telling me that he was in love w/ me. I respected him and his relationship, so, i never reciprocated what he said to me even though i did like him a lot. It wasn't until after he and his gf finally broke up --- it was a terrible relationship where the girl constantly berated him and they had so many fights. He and I got together 2 months later and everything was perfect. We were even looking at houses together. He told a few people that one day he was going to marry me and that he couldn't be happier w/ me. That he was the happiest and most content with being in a relationship w/ me and he never wanted to be w/ anyone else. That's everything he told me and told others in front of me. Even the guys at his work would tell me what he had told them about me and him and me and called me the future Mrs. ______ --- idk what changed. The day he cheated on me, he had called me in the morning --- we had a nice conversation on the phone --- he was heading to work and i was heading to a park. Later that night, I had gone over his house bc I needed to grab something. I saw a motorcycle out front and when i went inside, i saw a woman's belongings and an empty condom next to his bed. Of course I knew what happened. I called, then texted him. After he asked me what was wrong, he came back and stated that I shouldn't think too much into it and that he and i are going to be together forever but, that's when our relationship/friendship started taking a turn for the worst. Why would he look to be w/ someone else if he was extremely happy w/ me? He never answered that question even though i asked him numerous times. He decided to withhold the truth from me for nearly the entire 7 months til 3 weeks-4 weeks ago when he finally opened up w/ me.

 

[Saucy]

Things only got worse after I told him I needed time and space away from him. But, it was after I took the welder that I bought and took it from his house, that he blamed me for snooping and stating he doesn't trust me. I actually just asked his sister about his behavior and she told me that he actually feels guilty about what has happened but instead of blaming himself, he feels the need to blame me instead and take it out on me. That all he wanted was for him to have this new girl and to have me hang around the 2 of them (me being the best friend), and to do all the activities w/ him still w/ her --- I wasn't about to do that bc i couldn't accept her and he stated he understood that. Honestly, about 3 weeks ago or so, I prayed and asked God if he still really wanted me to be friends w/ him or not and I prayed that he'd make it clear. Well, 2 weeks ago, God made it clear and said no. so, we've basically cut ties. He still has a few things that he needs to give me back but, I really don't want to text him yet. I'm not ready to yet.

It didn't seem like he really wanted to cut ties to be honest. But, he's blaming me for some things now it seems. I've given him to God 100% now so, now God can work on him --- About 2 months ago, God told me that he's going to teach him a lesson thru this girl, so, time and space is what he needs and that is what he's going to get, as well as me.

It's just time, my friend. You've tied yourself up in this guy for so long. I saw the writing on the wall over a year ago and you wouldn't hear it. If God tells you one day to stick with him, then tells you another day not to, what does that say? It's not really God telling you this. Your own emotions are swirling around. Just end it with him and move on with your life. I ASSURE you you'll find someone so much better for you. You don't deserve to be cheated on and used like that.

 

[High Fidelity]

Why do you think a person like this deserves your time?

Dump them. Move on.

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

Of course don't hate him, don't hate anyone. I'm simply saying hes trying to get you to dislike him to the point you cut him off. And you should cut him off because why deal with anyone who doesn't want to deal with you? The friendship you had, the relationship you had, no longer exists. I know what its like to be with someone and "know" this is who you will be with the rest of your life. What I've learned is no matter how sure you are about your relationship there are no guarantees. Change is inevitable, that isn't to say a relationship will end because of that change but it can and often does because of this.

You say he was extremely happy with you so why would he cheat on you? The simplest answer is because things simply weren't as they seemed to be. Appearances are often deceiving and just like you thought everything was okay, you were going to a park and he was going to work, yet behind the reality that we think we live in, we have something much different than we could ever imagine actually going on.

Theres also another answer, if we were to assume he was happy with you, why would any man cheat? Another simple answer is because he likes you but he likes other women. You make him happy but so do other women. Do you want a man who can't commit to just you? What do you have to gain by staying with him at this point, when its clear it's not mutual. Don't you know your true worth? If you did you would come to terms with the way things are, not what you thought they were. And as much as it hurts right now, take some time to heal from this while knowing you will find someone who will appreciate you and love you the way you deserve. Because this ain't that guy.

 

[Elliewaves]

Why would you want to be with someone who treated you and treats you so horribly? Get your money, then stop being friends with him. If he ever comes to the point where he wants you back, then he is going to have to prove it to you. There are guys out there that would never dream of treating you like this; seek them out. Honestly it sounds like he wanted to break up with you but didn't know how to talk to you so he cheated on you and let you find him. Now, it sounds like he doesn't want to be reminded of what he did so he's trying to push you away and get you to leave.

 

[S.O.J.I.A.]

were you intimate with this guy?

 

[Sketcher]

Stop caring what he thinks of you. Get the money and any and all other material possessions of yours that he still has, and that's it. He's calling you money hungry? The borrower is slave to the lender (Proverbs 22:7). I'm not saying hate him, but do nothing more for him, ever. And reorient your life so that he's not the star player anymore. Live a good life away from him.

 

[sk8brdkd]

It's just time, my friend. You've tied yourself up in this guy for so long. I saw the writing on the wall over a year ago and you wouldn't hear it. If God tells you one day to stick with him, then tells you another day not to, what does that say? It's not really God telling you this. Your own emotions are swirling around. Just end it with him and move on with your life. I ASSURE you you'll find someone so much better for you. You don't deserve to be cheated on and used like that.

I wish I could remember what you told me a year ago about him. I mean, I do remember I had my questions about him, but all along, we did get along great and did everything together.

Me and him aren't talking anymore, not really. I do need to text him to get a few remainder items. Yes my emotions had been swirling all around. He has been getting very very angry w/ me and i don't know why. I honestly don't think he knows what to think or feel right now either. About a week and a half ago, i had asked him why he hates me all of a sudden, his response was, i don't hate you. I actually still really love, care and miss you.... yeah, sure he does --- he just wants to try and hook me back in by saying that. I didn't fall for it. You can't tell someone you love/care/miss them and then treat them like garbage. It doesn't work that way at all.

I did meet someone on July 1 who had been thru the "same" thing as me. He's been a great supporter/encourager and I enjoy his company. Sometimes though, some things make me question him. It's probably nothing but my overthinking brain bc i tend to overthink a lot. My one friend told me she believes whatever he's going thru has nothing to do w/ me, bc he likes/cares about me a lot and he's probably just working thru something right now and needs time to himself. We're taking things very slowly though.

 

[sk8brdkd]

Why do you think a person like this deserves your time?

Dump them. Move on.

He already dumped me. I guess I was just trying to find out the whole truth from them. Not understanding why he was trying to throw me under the bus. But, he did do the ultimate betrayal by telling me how much he loved and was in love w/ me and only ever wanted to be w/ me and no one else for the rest of his life. That wasn't the case obviously but, he never told me anything was wrong. He always only told me things were great btwn us. He's so happy and couldn't be happier. What's someone to think when they only hear positives from their significant other?

Of course don't hate him, don't hate anyone. I'm simply saying hes trying to get you to dislike him to the point you cut him off. And you should cut him off because why deal with anyone who doesn't want to deal with you? The friendship you had, the relationship you had, no longer exists. I know what its like to be with someone and "know" this is who you will be with the rest of your life. What I've learned is no matter how sure you are about your relationship there are no guarantees. Change is inevitable, that isn't to say a relationship will end because of that change but it can and often does because of this.

You say he was extremely happy with you so why would he cheat on you? The simplest answer is because things simply weren't as they seemed to be. Appearances are often deceiving and just like you thought everything was okay, you were going to a park and he was going to work, yet behind the reality that we think we live in, we have something much different than we could ever imagine actually going on.

Theres also another answer, if we were to assume he was happy with you, why would any man cheat? Another simple answer is because he likes you but he likes other women. You make him happy but so do other women. Do you want a man who can't commit to just you? What do you have to gain by staying with him at this point, when its clear it's not mutual. Don't you know your true worth? If you did you would come to terms with the way things are, not what you thought they were. And as much as it hurts right now, take some time to heal from this while knowing you will find someone who will appreciate you and love you the way you deserve. Because this ain't that guy.

After he initially cheated on me... he told me that was the first time since he and in started going out that he decided to mess around w/ someone else. But... why would he even choose to mess around and I asked him that question. He said bc he didn't see anything wrong w/ doing that. I said, so you'd be ok if i just decided one day that I was going to sleep w/ another guy?? He didn't respond.

I don't care to be with him anymore. I was just trying to be Friends w/ him. Nothing more then that. Because I don't like him like that anymore and I wouldn't be able to handle being someone like him right now. He's being terrible and he's trying to show off to his new gf that i'm no longer a threat it seems and, he's just so wishy washy right now. I know he doesn't hate me but, he wants his new gf to believe he does. Everything he's taking out on me is his own fault. It has nothing to do w/ me. He just doesn't want the guilt on his head. I had told him numerous times that I will not walk away from him and I'm not walking away. I just don't want to talk to him right now. I can'tn stand him blaming me for things or for his negative attitude. It's childish and stupid. He's acting like an immature teenager and he's 31 yrs old....

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

Why won't you walk away from someone who told you everything you wanted to hear so he could get your money and other benefits you provided him. Then when he got what he wanted from you, and found someone he liked better, he got rid of you like you were nothing. Do you think someone who values themself would have anything to do with someone like him?

 

[sk8brdkd]

Why would you want to be with someone who treated you and treats you so horribly? Get your money, then stop being friends with him. If he ever comes to the point where he wants you back, then he is going to have to prove it to you. There are guys out there that would never dream of treating you like this; seek them out. Honestly it sounds like he wanted to break up with you but didn't know how to talk to you so he cheated on you and let you find him. Now, it sounds like he doesn't want to be reminded of what he did so he's trying to push you away and get you to leave.

I guess why that is rough for me is because of several things that God has told me over the years that has to do w/ him. Inwardly, i felt the best thing to do was to remain friends w/ him somehow, but, I had spoken to this older gentleman at my church a couple months ago, and he told me that God wants me to trust him. God wants me to trust him w/ this guy and if I truly believe what God has told me over the years w/ him, then to leave it in God's hands. If God really wants me and him together one day, he'll make it work but it has nothing to do w/ me. And that whenever the time is ready, this guy will come after me again and will prove himself to me. I no longer have feelings for this guy. I don't want to be w/ him, however, i still love and care about him greatly. Not texting/talking to him has actually been helping me out a lot.

Even about a week or so ago, he had told me he didn't want anything to come btwn us, that he always wanted to be friends but then he goes back and forth from being super nasty to me, to being super nice again. I don't know what to make of it but i don't feed into it.

were you intimate with this guy?

What does being intimate have to do w/ any of this?

Stop caring what he thinks of you. Get the money and any and all other material possessions of yours that he still has, and that's it. He's calling you money hungry? The borrower is slave to the lender (Proverbs 22:7). I'm not saying hate him, but do nothing more for him, ever. And reorient your life so that he's not the star player anymore. Live a good life away from him.

When I had reminded him about the money he owed me still, that was the first time i Ever asked him for it. I had let it go. But, when I told him about the $400, he told me he paid me back and that i should get buried w/ my money. After he found out I took my welder back from his house, he was like, all he mentioned was bikes to take and i take the welder and that sparks money hungry me. Then he said i need it now now now. I told him that's not how it is and I let him go nearly 7 months w/o paying me back and i just mentioned it once while we're talking about returning/exchanging our own items. He also told me, glad all this is happening now. The true me is coming out. He was so happy we never got a house and then saying holy moly --- never knew i was like this --- he was really going all out on me over that and i couldn't figure out why he was so angry and hating me so much over that when as far as i know, i did absolutely nothing except take back a few things that were mine. And that he's happy he learned all this sooner rather then later. When i said to him that i still have absolutely no idea what i did wrong and why he hates me all of a sudden --- that's when he responded back w/ he doesn't hate me and that he actually loves me more then anyone and he cares and misses me. What the heck though?? Playing w/ my emotions and then he went back to being totally angry at me bc he found out about a new guy i am friends w/ but he thinks i'm dating. He can continue thinking that i'm dating him. But, i don't get his attitude and why he's blaming me for certain things.

 

[sk8brdkd]

Why won't you walk away from someone who told you everything you wanted to hear so he could get your money and other benefits you provided him. Then when he got what he wanted from you, and found someone he liked better, he got rid of you like you were nothing. Do you think someone who values themself would have anything to do with someone like him?

I get it. It has been extremely difficult bc we were best friends for 7 yrs. We shared everything and did everything together. To fully drop someone like that has been very hard.

I guess when he told me that he never made it an "official" relationship is when my red flags went up bc he said if it was an official relationship w/ me, then he'd be [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]ed, yet, he had no problem making an official relationship w/ anyone else. He told me he never wanted to do anything to destroy our friendship and asked me why sex would change it. I told him it changed it bc we were in a relationship and he told others that we were dating and in a relationship.

I needed to work through a lot of different things and I needed to know the truth. It took nearly 7 months to find out the truth from him, but, now I have it and am basically done w/ him.

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

To fully drop someone like that has been very hard.

but, now I have it and am basically done w/ him.

Well it sounds like you are coming to terms with this situation and trust me getting him out of your life completely will be very painful at first but you will feel much better in the long run. Because your happiness matters too not just his. And you won't be happy if you are being manipulated by someone who lies to you. And I'm sorry you're going through this because I know how painful it is. Just do what you need to do to move on, take the time you need. But for your benefit please don't let him in your life again because he's done you way too wrong that there is no going back.