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Hello,

I have just started to see a counsellor for being abused as a child and various other things from childhood. Yesterday he asked me if I self harmed at all. I straight away said no as I didn't. However, now I wondering if maybe I did, I'm not sure if this is maybe classed as self harm?

For several years I would bite my nails and the skin around them, but I would bite them so badly that everyday I would have several bleeding fingers and toes and most the time I would have at least one septic finger or toe. My fingers and toes were constantly painful and it would really hurt as I did it, but I would still do it. I have no idea why I did it. Do you think this is classed as self harm or was it just a stupid habit?
 

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It may well have been a form of self harm.. often if we are suppressing the pain of past experiences we use physical pain of some kind to block the emotional pain.
It's certainly worth talking to your counselor about it, though if it is something you no longer do, don't let yourself worry about it too much :hug:
Praying that you can work through things with your counselor and move on, sweetie.
 
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It isn't normal to bite nails so you start bleeding, so you could mention this to your counselor, no matter if it you consider it important or not. I've had lots of things that considered unimportant that psychologists found a kind of clue in that led them to further conclusions.
 
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