I hate myself for this

[goat37]

Arghh, listen I said I wasn't looking for advice or encouragement on finding women or getting the courage/confidence to approach them. I was looking for advice on getting over the depression thing. And to see if anyone else experiences this.

Listen I really appreciate the advice, I know you mean well, but it's not what I'm looking for.

Getting over the depression part? Time heals all...

Your problem now is that you are just working toward your other goals, and haven't gotten there yet (i.e. becoming a cop) and so you still have time to focus on other things, and this love/depression thing is one of them.
Once you get to where you want to be, you'll find yourself thinking about it less and less, and discover that you are probably pretty happy with the way your life is going - and realize that you don't need these type of women to make yourself happy.

 

[MrDude]

Getting over the depression part? Time heals all...

Your problem now is that you are just working toward your other goals, and haven't gotten there yet (i.e. becoming a cop) and so you still have time to focus on other things, and this love/depression thing is one of them.
Once you get to where you want to be, you'll find yourself thinking about it less and less, and discover that you are probably pretty happy with the way your life is going - and realize that you don't need these type of women to make yourself happy.

Yeah you're definitly right, but sometimes I just wish time didn't take so long hehe.

 

[jenptcfan]

Just try to remember that people are just...people. No matter if a girl is beautiful, smart, funny, etc. She's still just a regular person.

I know it can be depressing when you look at other people and think, "they have so much more <money, potential, personality, whatever> than I have", but in reality, everyone has their problems. Some people just don't show it, but they're there.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Just try to remember that people are just...people. No matter if a girl is beautiful, smart, funny, etc. She's still just a regular person.

Unless she's Jessica Alba.

SCHWING!

 

[MrDude]

Unless she's Jessica Alba.

SCHWING!

schwing indeed my friend, schwing indeed.

 

[FranklinNoble]

I'm poor, I'm a terrible spiritual leader, not the best looking guy on the planet, and I love comic books, especially Batman. Not exactly a whole lot of "potential".

Wow... you sound like me at your age.

Oh, and I still love comic books. And while I'm working on being a better spiritual leader, and trying not to live paycheck-to-paycheck every two weeks, I still have a long way to go.

I'm now married with three kids. I love being Dad.

I'll pray for you. Keep your hopes up. The Lord has a plan for you.

 

[OhhJim]

I don't have character or heart. I tend to be a stubborn, argumentative, over-aggressive jerk.

I know some hot women who only date men like that!!

 

[MrDude]

I know some hot women who only date men like that!!

Lol, true, but unfortunatly those aren't the ones I'm interested in

 

[JPPT1974]

Hey if you love comic books then I still love cartoons and game shows!! LOL!!

 

[rhssm]

First you said this

Love's just not a feasible option for me. I'm just trying to get over the stupid depression part that comes with it.

Then you said this

Arghh, listen I said I wasn't looking for advice or encouragement on finding women or getting the courage/confidence to approach them. I was looking for advice on getting over the depression thing. And to see if anyone else experiences this.

In the last quote you said you only want advice about getting over your depression.

But you also said, in the first quote, that since love "isn't a feasible option" for you, you're trying to get over the depression that comes with it.

That would mean that, you feeling that love isn't an option, is largely what causes your depression. Depression comes, with you feeling you don't have love as a feasible option. If depression comes from this feeling you have, and we know that your feeling this way is contrary to the fact that love actually is a feasible option for you, then we are actually targetting what will help you get over your depression. That was advice for getting over depression, directly. If what you said above, you meant, and if it was correct.

 

[MrDude]

Love is not an option. Finding someone is not an option. What I meant, was what are ways to get over the depression, while still realizing that it is not an option.

 

[JPPT1974]

Love is not an option. Finding someone is not an option. What I meant, was what are ways to get over the depression, while still realizing that it is not an option.

To me love is a feeling you feel as well as caring about that person you love the most.

 

[fishstix]

Love is not an option. Finding someone is not an option. What I meant, was what are ways to get over the depression, while still realizing that it is not an option.

To get over the depression I would suggest seeing a counsellor or a psychologist or a therapist or someone like that. They may recommend 'talk therapy' or medication or a combination of the two.

I find that I start getting depressed when I start telling myself lies and believing them. Lies like 'I have no friends' or 'Nobody cares'. What helps is to recognize that I've been lying to myself and then to stop telling myself those lies. Consider whether some of the things that you are getting depressed about are really lies that you have told yourself so long that you believe them. You may need someone else's help to see them. 'Love is not an option' might be a place to start.

 

[trust_faith]

Hmm.. you mean you go to church just to see girls? I think you really have to pray to God and actually it is no wrong for you to see girls... but if that's the main purposes for you to go church, then that's totally wrong.

you can befriend the girls as your friends and go sermons together. You can broaden up your circle of friends too in this way..

You are still young ba...

 

[MrDude]

Hmm.. you mean you go to church just to see girls? I think you really have to pray to God and actually it is no wrong for you to see girls... but if that's the main purposes for you to go church, then that's totally wrong.

you can befriend the girls as your friends and go sermons together. You can broaden up your circle of friends too in this way..

You are still young ba...

What are you talking about? At what point did I say I went to Church just to see girls?

 

[JPPT1974]

To get over the depression I would suggest seeing a counsellor or a psychologist or a therapist or someone like that. They may recommend 'talk therapy' or medication or a combination of the two.

I find that I start getting depressed when I start telling myself lies and believing them. Lies like 'I have no friends' or 'Nobody cares'. What helps is to recognize that I've been lying to myself and then to stop telling myself those lies. Consider whether some of the things that you are getting depressed about are really lies that you have told yourself so long that you believe them. You may need someone else's help to see them. 'Love is not an option' might be a place to start.

That's satan talking inside of your head and that satan wants to distract you from what the Lord is saying to you in your heart. Satan is all lies.