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I hate my life.
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I'm not so different from you, man. I know what you're thinking, because I thought the same thing. I came here hoping to find inspiration. Don't get me wrong, I believe in God. But we come here, say we'd rather die than wake up and face ourselves another day, and some genius comes in saying "You sound very depressed. You need help." Or "Here's some Bible verses taken out of context. This should make all of your problems dissolve."
I know every person on this board would bend over backward for a perfect stranger, because it's the right thing to do. But I don't see how anyone ever gets help here. I'm sorry to tell all of you people, but the whole "let God handle everything" method doesn't work for everyone. Because I believe he's a non-interventionalist. I look at myself, at the people around me, at my life, at the state of the world, and I've decided he's just letting things run their course at this point. But I just wanted to tell you we really aren't so different. I've never had a girlfriend either. I'm only 20, but I'll be 21 before I know it. When I was 15, I couldn't imagine myself having a girlfriend by 18. When I was 18, I couldn't imagine it by 21. I'm almost 21, and I can't see it by 24. I know you don't like to trust people, and I'm not asking you to trust me. But I am just some anonymous dude over the Internet, so maybe we could just talk about things? I don't know, I just really need someone to talk to, and I feel embarassed opening up to people I know in real life. I bet you're probably the same way.
I know every person on this board would bend over backward for a perfect stranger, because it's the right thing to do. But I don't see how anyone ever gets help here. I'm sorry to tell all of you people, but the whole "let God handle everything" method doesn't work for everyone. Because I believe he's a non-interventionalist. I look at myself, at the people around me, at my life, at the state of the world, and I've decided he's just letting things run their course at this point. But I just wanted to tell you we really aren't so different. I've never had a girlfriend either. I'm only 20, but I'll be 21 before I know it. When I was 15, I couldn't imagine myself having a girlfriend by 18. When I was 18, I couldn't imagine it by 21. I'm almost 21, and I can't see it by 24. I know you don't like to trust people, and I'm not asking you to trust me. But I am just some anonymous dude over the Internet, so maybe we could just talk about things? I don't know, I just really need someone to talk to, and I feel embarassed opening up to people I know in real life. I bet you're probably the same way.
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all of those things can be overcome. Trust in Christ and ask Him to help you. He wants to help you.
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Really think about it. Is your life solely based upon finding a job?? Is your life solely based upon going out of town? On people?? Or are these just desire that you have not accomplished yet or reached yet. If you receive all these things will you TRULY be happy? All these things God can take care of. If you need help trusting people ask God to help you to forgive those who have hurt you. If you have trouble finding a job ask God to help you find a job, accept change, and move. Did you ask?
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I suppose I will never be happy. I'd probably be happy only if I was dead (if you can name it "happiness"). I've been asking God for help with finding a job for more than a year but with no results.
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You sound as though you are depressed.. and that does make you feel as though you will never be happy again.
But... you can get through it, and out the other side... and happiness is possible even if you can't imagine it now.
God *will* help you, brother
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But... you can get through it, and out the other side... and happiness is possible even if you can't imagine it now.
God *will* help you, brother
Praying
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But tell me: what should I live for?You sound as though you are depressed.. and that does make you feel as though you will never be happy again.
But... you can get through it, and out the other side... and happiness is possible even if you can't imagine it now.
God *will* help you, brother
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Primarily, because life is worth it, because you are a unique person created by God for a purpose..
Do you have family or friends?
I know you have friends here who would miss you, and I am sure there are people in real life.
I was suicidal a year ago... now, although things aren't always easy, I am very grateful to those who showed me that life was worthwhile.
Do you have family or friends?
I know you have friends here who would miss you, and I am sure there are people in real life.
I was suicidal a year ago... now, although things aren't always easy, I am very grateful to those who showed me that life was worthwhile.
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Perhaps you are scared of changing and also scared of NEVER changing.
Fear grips onto the depressed and oppressed and keeps us from believing and trying. It also instills in us a sense of pessimism and self doubt.
Everyone on here can tell you what to live for, why you should live, and what can help. But you're depressed and probably nothing will fill that void of pain and emptiness. The words bounce off you and you hold onto your pain.
People say they want happiness, intimacy, and a good life. But, deep down inside they don't feel like they deserve it or are capable of it.
The reason for your prolonged pain is probably because you refuse to believe you are capable of love, joy and peace. We sometimes choose to feel depressed and stay in a state of misery...it is what feels familiar.
Until you let go of the need to hold onto pain, let go of the need to feel entitled to happiness and justice, and let go of the need to be in control..the pain will still be oppressive.
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empe, I used to think that I had no purpose in life. I belonged to a church where women were put down, my birth family was very dysfunctional, my friends were nothing but mean to me unless they could get something from me.
I was so wrong to think I had no purpose. God got a hold of me, I changed churches, and I changed. I learned to stop saying negative things to myself.
It actually hurt me the to realize that God loved me. I know that sounds strange to say, but I didn't feel worthy of God's love. Still I was desperate and I began to pursue Him. He helped me change. I am not the same person today.
God loves you. Maybe like me you don't feel worthy of God's love, but He loves you anyway. He is good, He is kind. There is one prayer He always hears, the cry for forgiveness, and for His help.
I am praying for you, my brother. Your life has a purpose, but that purpose is probably for someone else. That is what I realized, finally. It took me years to realize that even though I hurt myself, I could help someone else. That has made a huge difference.
I was so wrong to think I had no purpose. God got a hold of me, I changed churches, and I changed. I learned to stop saying negative things to myself.
It actually hurt me the to realize that God loved me. I know that sounds strange to say, but I didn't feel worthy of God's love. Still I was desperate and I began to pursue Him. He helped me change. I am not the same person today.
God loves you. Maybe like me you don't feel worthy of God's love, but He loves you anyway. He is good, He is kind. There is one prayer He always hears, the cry for forgiveness, and for His help.
I am praying for you, my brother. Your life has a purpose, but that purpose is probably for someone else. That is what I realized, finally. It took me years to realize that even though I hurt myself, I could help someone else. That has made a huge difference.
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I don't think you want to die, I think you want the pain to go away and death seems like the solution for the pain going away. Why don't you try rerouting your dependence on a job, friends, traveling, and change to dependence on God? Maybe God doesn't want you to get into the field of work you want to get into, maybe God has something better for you and he is stopping you from getting into something that is minimal. Open up to God and ask him, "Lord what do you want me to do?" And I'm sure you shall receive and answer. Brother, nothing in this world will give you happiness but the Lord Jesus Christ so focus on building a better relationship with him. "Seek the kingdom of all first, and ALL these things shall be ADDED to you."
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I know why I don't have any job. It's not that God doesn't want me to do this or that. It's because I live in a small town (about 20,000 people) and there isn't any job in accordance with my education (I'm a computer scientist). I'm not going out of my town though.
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God can and does turn everything around, empe... 5 months ago, I was cutting myself on my arms, and always wanted to die every waking minute of my life
you asked: what should I live for?
live for Him, because He loves you more than your brain can possibly comprehend.
Ask Him what He wants you to do in your life... the one thing I struggled with in my depression is that I thought I never had a purpose in life, and that thought alone not only made me fearful, but also made me very suicidal. But through all of this, God had a plan for me, and through the friends that I have, He showed me what my purpose in life was.
it was a very long process, and I'm still working on it... but i know beyond the shadow of a doubt that He is indeed there, encouraging and helping me every step of the way
Don't hurt yourself, please God loves you too much for you to do something you'll regret. God loves you just as much as he loves me... He does not hold anyone higher than others.
Sometimes, in a state of this sadness, get on our stomach, and cry out to Him for help... I guarantee you, he never leaves us out to dry. He ALWAYS gives us the tools to get out of the mess that we're in, and EVERYTHING that we go through makes us appreciate His love even more and helps us strengthen our relationship with Him.
we all love you and care about you, empe
and the best part of all... God loves you even more than we do, and He can do so much more than we can
Don't give up on yourself. Christ has not and never will give up on you
you asked: what should I live for?
live for Him, because He loves you more than your brain can possibly comprehend.
Ask Him what He wants you to do in your life... the one thing I struggled with in my depression is that I thought I never had a purpose in life, and that thought alone not only made me fearful, but also made me very suicidal. But through all of this, God had a plan for me, and through the friends that I have, He showed me what my purpose in life was.
it was a very long process, and I'm still working on it... but i know beyond the shadow of a doubt that He is indeed there, encouraging and helping me every step of the way
Don't hurt yourself, please
God loves you too much for you to do something you'll regret. God loves you just as much as he loves me... He does not hold anyone higher than others. Sometimes, in a state of this sadness, get on our stomach, and cry out to Him for help... I guarantee you, he never leaves us out to dry. He ALWAYS gives us the tools to get out of the mess that we're in, and EVERYTHING that we go through makes us appreciate His love even more and helps us strengthen our relationship with Him.
we all love you and care about you, empeand the best part of all... God loves you even more than we do, and He can do so much more than we can
Don't give up on yourself. Christ has not and never will give up on you
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I'm afrad that I could be beaten up or even killed because I draw attention to myself with my clothes. Furthermore I'm afraid of paying bills, rent etc. because in bigger towns in my country everything is more expensive but people don't usually earn much more money.
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