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If I am correct, that is actually a worse problem overall than if they really did know and just denied it.
Placido Domingo apology prompts new accuser to step forward
I saw the linked article about Domingo reversing course and acknowledging and apologizing for his "abuse of power" and "unsolicited physical touching...groping". His initial stance was that everything he did was welcome. Cynically maybe his apology is just trying to do damage control, but it is more direct than others I've seen and makes no excuse other than his ignorance.
Weinstein from all accounts was genuinely shocked he was found guilty. The facts in his case were largely undisputed - it came down to whether they were wrong or not. Which seemed obvious to me that he was a rapist, but looking at some threads after the conviction many seem to not agree.
I look at the statistics of the number of women who are harassed and that shows it extends way deeper into society that just those at the very top of business, arts, politics, etc.
One common argument is essentially that the harassers know it is wrong, but it's about power and control and a feeling of impunity. Which is bad enough. But now I'm really chewing on the idea that culturally the problem runs so deep that a large percentage of men grow up learning that kind of behavior is OK, all part of the dating/mating game, and even that women appreciate the attention and see it as flattery. How else do you explain the victim blaming we see?
As I said earlier, if that is correct, I think it's a much bigger problem than people knowing they are wrong and choosing to harass anyway. Makes no sense how they couldn't know, but sometimes it looks that way.
Curious about the thoughts from this forum as things are often seen through a different lens here than some of the others. (Also, this place has been dead..)
Placido Domingo apology prompts new accuser to step forward
I saw the linked article about Domingo reversing course and acknowledging and apologizing for his "abuse of power" and "unsolicited physical touching...groping". His initial stance was that everything he did was welcome. Cynically maybe his apology is just trying to do damage control, but it is more direct than others I've seen and makes no excuse other than his ignorance.
Weinstein from all accounts was genuinely shocked he was found guilty. The facts in his case were largely undisputed - it came down to whether they were wrong or not. Which seemed obvious to me that he was a rapist, but looking at some threads after the conviction many seem to not agree.
I look at the statistics of the number of women who are harassed and that shows it extends way deeper into society that just those at the very top of business, arts, politics, etc.
One common argument is essentially that the harassers know it is wrong, but it's about power and control and a feeling of impunity. Which is bad enough. But now I'm really chewing on the idea that culturally the problem runs so deep that a large percentage of men grow up learning that kind of behavior is OK, all part of the dating/mating game, and even that women appreciate the attention and see it as flattery. How else do you explain the victim blaming we see?
As I said earlier, if that is correct, I think it's a much bigger problem than people knowing they are wrong and choosing to harass anyway. Makes no sense how they couldn't know, but sometimes it looks that way.
Curious about the thoughts from this forum as things are often seen through a different lens here than some of the others. (Also, this place has been dead..)