i don't want to contribute to society

[cabsmom]

I can't really say why you feel the way you do, but from observation of others and myself I think we can apply a law of physics. A body at rest tends to stay at rest, a body in motion tends to stay in motion.

When I wake up and shouldn't be having a lazy day but I do anyway, it really makes me feel bad. It also makes it easier to have another lazy day and so on. I don't always like getting up and doing something right away, but I have a wonderful feeling of accomplishment and no guilt.

I have also found/heard that many people get depressed when they don't have something worthwhile to occupy their time. That worthwhile thing may be working (even at a job that is less than desirable), helping out family/friends, volunteering at an organization or many other things or a combination of different things.

Hobbies are also wonderful- in balance. I have a wonderful hobby-quilting. However, I can't do it everyday and I can't afford to do it everyday. I find it distracting sometimes if I work on my hobby when other things are left undone.

There is another quote from someone:

Idle hands are the devil's workshop. It is true- too much idle time gives us too much time to think on our temptations. I find it much easier to resist temptation when I am occupied doing something worthwhile- MUCH easier. This may help you in that way also.

The key is to start doing small changes and not letting yourself procrastinate. OK, I will admit that it is hypocritical of me to say that. I procrastinate on some things and on other things I stay on top of them.

I would start with finding a job if you don't have one.

 

[TheyCallMeDave]

It is very common for Teens to find themselves in a depression with so many things going on in their lives...some which are stressful . So im wondering how your social life is coming along, if you have a network of trusted friends, how are you relating to mom and dad, any recent breakups with the opposite sex , ???

 

[changewithgrace]

I really dont get it cause I am quite the opposite, I like having a job and doing school work. Having been laid off in the past and having to move in with my parents for a stint taught me how much I value work. It keeps you busy, in most jobs you contribute to society in some way and it makes you independent.

 

[fuji]

Hey Four Years, I posted this in the other threads. Thought it might help you as well.

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[znr]

Hi, Four Years,

I would be more than happy to enable you to drop out. You can come over to my place in the MTNS. I have a small backyard that you can pitch a tent in. We could set up a little propane heater outside the mouth of the tent with a fan to blow the hot air on you. I would help you get a hibachi, too, for cooking. Across the street on Monday's we have bible study over at the local watering hole, if you like. 3 - 5 is happy hour - then bible study at 6. They serve food after.

 

[Mcrfan343]

i don't want to work


i don't want a job


i don't want to go to school


...but it's lonely


seems like Having Friends is intertwined with DOING SOMETHING

So basically you want everthing just handed to you without any effort on your part. LOL. I'm afraid that's not possble. In this reality, if you want things you need money. If you want money you need a job. If you want a job you need to work. It's sucks, but we must live with it. And as going to school, well how else are you going to learn? From news papers.

Not trying to be a jerk, just giving you the awful truth.

 

[LoricaLady]

You are singing the theme song of an entire generation.

If you were looking for advice, and I am not sure you were, I suggest serving others for awhile in any capacity. It would be a great way to spend your time. Volunteer work, visiting elderly folks, etc. Getting out of yourself may be just what you need to start feeling better about your own situation.

I think those are some good ideas. Volunteer work can be whatever you like anytime you like and it can look good on a resume. You might even make some friends there.

Also I think the person above who mentioned depression might be onto something. If you are eating a lot of junk food, not exercising and watching a lot of t.v., doing video games, etc., the research is in. Your chances of being depressesd are great.

On the other hand, have you had extensive blood work done? Sometimes depression (if you have it) is related to things like hypothyroidism (makes you feel you don't want to do anything & give brain fog and is the most common health problem in America, very commson), low iron, low Vitamin D, low B12, gluten sensitivity or even celiac disease, etc.

If you want to look for the symptoms of hypothyroidism (thought its more common in women) stopthethyroidmadness.com is great, a life saver.

Praying Messiah leads you to get fixed what ails you.

 

[Redheadedstepchild]

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