Stop being selfish and think of your WIFE and her feelings. Do ya really want to hurt your wife like this after shes been waiting for 3 yrs for this child you told her about. Suck it up and have the child so you don't destroy your marriage. Its not all about ME when we are CHRISTIAN..we GIVE not take or hurt. Put God FIRST and your WIFE second, your kids third and YOURSELF last and you'll be fine...ya need a servants heart like Jesus! sorry to be harsh but seriously...you dont want to give stuff up for your own flesh and blood. Guess what..parenting is about Sacrificing. JEsus made the ultimate Sacrifice, your supposed to be imitating him.
You should NEVER have children if just ONE of two parties doesn't want a child. Never.
That puts both the marriage and a child in potential jeopardy, because having a child when you do not WANT a child can destroy the marriage and potentially hurt the child in the long run.
And they BOTH have to think of each other. It isn't his sole job to think of his wife, and the wife has no responsibility to think of her husband's wishes, they both have to think about each other, but more importantly they -both- have to think about the future of the potential child involved here.
If and when both parties agree that it is time for another child, then have one. But if even one person is against it, there are too many risks involved in "having a child anyway and let's see what happens". "Gee, hope my feelings change" -- as someone who knows for a fact that sometimes feelings do NOT change, it is far too risky to proceed on "what if".
You have to go with what you know now.
Did the OP pull bait-and-switch on his wife? Yes, sorry dude, can't help ya there. You let her believe she was gonna get a baby, and now you are saying you don't want one. I can see why she'd be upset.
But that being said, you are in this position now, and you have to deal with what's being dealt. Just because he's come to the realization that he doesn't want any children, doesn't mean he should HAVE children because he -at one time- thought he might like another.
People change. We have to change, and we have to
deal with change, that's just how it goes.