- Jun 16, 2016
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My husband and I share a bank account where our accounts are separate. We are experiencing some of the same issues again which is bringing back flashbacks of how things went before. My husband took $600 out of my account to pay bills he said, but after I questioned him about it he began to show signs of guilt by treating me extra nice all of a sudden and telling me how he feels bad about taking from my savings again to pay bills. This is the second time that he pulled from my savings without telling me.
Since I'm concerned that he is using our bills as a cover for his heavy inappropriate contentography addiction I have decided to track my savings account to make sure that he doesn't take from it without me knowing which is what I did before and again I feel really bad about doing this without telling him since it is dishonest since it is lying by omission meaning that I'm lying by not telling him something. I want to help him though without him knowing, because I don't want to him to think that I don't respect or trust him. Which unfortunately I don't trust him especially since he is an addict and he has done this to me before. I'm not sure what the right thing to do is.
What should I do?
By the way, we do have marriage mentors that we meet with and when I brought up that he has taken hundreds of dollars out of my savings, they told me that they didn't know what I should do.
Since I'm concerned that he is using our bills as a cover for his heavy inappropriate contentography addiction I have decided to track my savings account to make sure that he doesn't take from it without me knowing which is what I did before and again I feel really bad about doing this without telling him since it is dishonest since it is lying by omission meaning that I'm lying by not telling him something. I want to help him though without him knowing, because I don't want to him to think that I don't respect or trust him. Which unfortunately I don't trust him especially since he is an addict and he has done this to me before. I'm not sure what the right thing to do is.
What should I do?
By the way, we do have marriage mentors that we meet with and when I brought up that he has taken hundreds of dollars out of my savings, they told me that they didn't know what I should do.