Mayzoo
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My mother was on the government systems (yes, she was a deadbeat, horrible mother according to many here) while she went back to school to become a nurse (I know three mothers who were in the same boat). She did not: abuse alcohol, or drugs, or have a porn addiction, and she had almost no money to manage. She was not a teen mom or mother out of wedlock. She was married one time, 3 kids all the same dad. She was divorced. Her ex (my dad) chose to simply disappear (and per many here, the kids were her responsibility anyway). Had she not had that financial crutch, she would have been doomed to low-wage jobs and would not have become an RN who was gainfully employed, became a homeowner, and a full-time taxpayer.
When I was older, I met another mother who chose the same path (also not an alcoholic, drug-addicted porn-using parent). Per the state she was in, if she did not skip the last two months of her last semester of RN school and attend the training classes to learn to sweep floors, stock groceries, and be lectured about being on time for the minimum wage job they wanted her to have, her aide would be revoked so she could never complete her RN schooling.
I know the general view from many here is the woman had sex, so it is all her responsibility to raise the kids she had and it is fine for her to suffer any/all punishment for having sex. Many I have read here state the government should not help as they/the populace did not have sex to create these kids. However, in this scenario, the populace is punishing the innocent children because their mothers had sex. Thus, children are only a blessing when the mother is well self-funded. If the woman/children live in abject poverty, the punishment is just. I still fail to understand why the children deserve to be punished, but I do not expect to ever understand this mindset.
When I was older, I met another mother who chose the same path (also not an alcoholic, drug-addicted porn-using parent). Per the state she was in, if she did not skip the last two months of her last semester of RN school and attend the training classes to learn to sweep floors, stock groceries, and be lectured about being on time for the minimum wage job they wanted her to have, her aide would be revoked so she could never complete her RN schooling.
I know the general view from many here is the woman had sex, so it is all her responsibility to raise the kids she had and it is fine for her to suffer any/all punishment for having sex. Many I have read here state the government should not help as they/the populace did not have sex to create these kids. However, in this scenario, the populace is punishing the innocent children because their mothers had sex. Thus, children are only a blessing when the mother is well self-funded. If the woman/children live in abject poverty, the punishment is just. I still fail to understand why the children deserve to be punished, but I do not expect to ever understand this mindset.
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