NothingIsImpossible
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My wife doesn't like my beard. I usually let it grow for 2-4 weeks before I cut/shave it off. And since I don't bother with beard oil (or whatever), its rough and dry. But shes gotten used to my pattern of letting it go for weeks and and still give me a kiss. Though not usually on the cheeks. Which is fine.
Romance is still required of course. But the core of the person, as long as they were honest when dating, should keep someone in love with you still. Though as with most marriages, as time goes on you may have to rekindle the flame since a couple gets so used to the other person that they kind of forget about what drew them to that person in the first place.
Of course there are those who lie alot when dating and once married the spouse seens a totally different person. In that case its gone from a small bait and switch to a full on jekyll and hyde. Which is dangerous.
And yet most women still put alot of effort into looking beautiful for the rest of the world still. While obviously its not about trying to find another mate (since your married), I find alot of it has to do with women are afraid of what other women will think of them and maybe they may think the same of another woman.
I remember a picture I seen of a couple walking past another couple. The caption above the guys head was something like "Shes cute!" as he looked at the woman. His wifes caption (as she looked at the woman) was her thinking about what she likes/dislikes about the womans clothes, makeup, body features...etc. Like "Wow she has better lips then I do. And look at those nice shoes. Although her hair looks kind of messy!".
So in short I think its sort of a competition for women. Not that they do it on purpose of course. Its just how society has made them feel. Like they must look the best they can or else face criticism. And since being married to a woman from another country, I notice women from her culture are VERY quick to be competitive. They will talk behind each others back about "Did you see so and so doesn't have a Coach purse!". Or "Wow, why is she have cheap Walmart shirts?".
Now that I sort of went on and on, bake to the makeup. I really wish my wife wouldn't wear makeup. However with that said I am also fine with it because I realize why she wears it. To cover flaws. She does look diffrent without it on. And I can see why she (or most women) would feel they would be judged without their makeup.
Its one of those things that "It is what it is."
Me though? I drive people nuts because I do not care about fashion or what "trending" or anything. I have been wearing the same old Target/Walmart "beach" looking casual shirts forever now. Same pants. Same shoes. I don't care if my hair is styled or not. I don't care if I wear socks with sandels.
Sure, to some its tacky. But to me I realize none of that matters in the end. Its nothing to spend any time on worrying about. There are bigger issues in life then worrying about socks and sandals. Though to be fair I am not saying we should not care about every aspect of what we look like. We should shower and have proper hygiene of course. Things that are obviously important.
I think thats to some degree normal. We tend to put the "best us" out there when looking for someone. And after the honeymoon phase the romance maybe slows down. Not that people don't love each other. But its more of your married and accepting who that person is and that all the effort put into yourself when finding someone isn't needed as much.What about those who do so when dating then stop when married? Is that the old bait and switch?
Romance is still required of course. But the core of the person, as long as they were honest when dating, should keep someone in love with you still. Though as with most marriages, as time goes on you may have to rekindle the flame since a couple gets so used to the other person that they kind of forget about what drew them to that person in the first place.
Of course there are those who lie alot when dating and once married the spouse seens a totally different person. In that case its gone from a small bait and switch to a full on jekyll and hyde. Which is dangerous.
I quoted this because it sort of was going to be something I was going to talk about above. Makeup is a thing that frustrates me as a guy. Most women know their husbands love them as they have seen their wife without makeup, naked and probably in many other ways. We know our spouses very well and they know we love them regardless.Some even think that makeup itself is deceptive as it is in many cases a way to mimic signs of fertility beyond what one is naturally showing (more red in the lips, cheeks etc. which mimics physical signs of arousal in young and fertile females biologically. )
And yet most women still put alot of effort into looking beautiful for the rest of the world still. While obviously its not about trying to find another mate (since your married), I find alot of it has to do with women are afraid of what other women will think of them and maybe they may think the same of another woman.
I remember a picture I seen of a couple walking past another couple. The caption above the guys head was something like "Shes cute!" as he looked at the woman. His wifes caption (as she looked at the woman) was her thinking about what she likes/dislikes about the womans clothes, makeup, body features...etc. Like "Wow she has better lips then I do. And look at those nice shoes. Although her hair looks kind of messy!".
So in short I think its sort of a competition for women. Not that they do it on purpose of course. Its just how society has made them feel. Like they must look the best they can or else face criticism. And since being married to a woman from another country, I notice women from her culture are VERY quick to be competitive. They will talk behind each others back about "Did you see so and so doesn't have a Coach purse!". Or "Wow, why is she have cheap Walmart shirts?".
Now that I sort of went on and on, bake to the makeup. I really wish my wife wouldn't wear makeup. However with that said I am also fine with it because I realize why she wears it. To cover flaws. She does look diffrent without it on. And I can see why she (or most women) would feel they would be judged without their makeup.
Its one of those things that "It is what it is."
Me though? I drive people nuts because I do not care about fashion or what "trending" or anything. I have been wearing the same old Target/Walmart "beach" looking casual shirts forever now. Same pants. Same shoes. I don't care if my hair is styled or not. I don't care if I wear socks with sandels.
Sure, to some its tacky. But to me I realize none of that matters in the end. Its nothing to spend any time on worrying about. There are bigger issues in life then worrying about socks and sandals. Though to be fair I am not saying we should not care about every aspect of what we look like. We should shower and have proper hygiene of course. Things that are obviously important.
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