how to hide you're in love

[Buskanaka]

hmmm in my opinion that's part of the extraordinary thing about it is that there is no logic, no particular reason why we are attracted romantically to one person and not to another. And nothing worthwhile is gained without risk, if someone is not prepared to risk everything to gain a thing, then that thing isn't very valuable. I love being in love, what I hate is when my love is rejected. I think romantic love does exist, but that no one can explain it. But I don't think romantic love is all there is, the divorce stats show that people who expect the romance and thrill of a new relationship to last get sadly disappointed.

 

[holo]

I like logic.
But you've obviously got some good points. Anyway I guess some can handle romance and what goes with it, better than others. Myself, I am amazed at the whole thing; you don't even have to tell a child to be careful with eating candy, it'll learn from the tooth- and bellyaches soon enough. But then I see adults who get burned time after time after time, and still they're all about it, even wanting to fall in love again and gamble with so much.

 

[holo]

Update, for whoever might be interested:
I'll be short.
She got the letter on valentines, went into some sort of shock and got really mad at me for not telling her until now. Turns out she's been very conscious for quite some time, not to "provoke" me to fall in love with her. We were *this* (/me holds up thumb and index finger *really* close) to "breaking up" the friendship, and I had my darkest hours since that time when I was convinced God had rejected me.
I got her to stay, we promised we'll always be completely honest from now on etc etc.
So, it looks things are going to work out allright, as we sort things out.

The irony (and luck) of it all is that the more I told people (including her) about how I felt, the lesser the romance got. I've also admitted it much more wholeheartedly to the Lord, and it seems like He's just taking it away as I continue giving it to Him instead of trying to get rid of it myself. I think an important clue to the Lord getting to remove something from your life, you have to really not want it (even if it feels good, like, say, drugs), not lie to yourself or the Good Lord, and give it to Him and not take it back. And a cool thing: when it's hard to let go, He will give you the strength and faith and mind to do it, if you ask Him. I hope I learned something.

Lord, I bow to Your Presence, Your unsearchable wisdom and ever-present solutions to every problem. Help me see them more clearly in the future, My God and My King. Give me the strength to wait patiently for Your perfect plan to come through in due time, and thank You for helping me out when I mess it up and lose hope. To You be the glory.

 

[holo]

Let me just add... yay!

 

[KeilCoppes]

I think an important clue to the Lord getting to remove something from your life, you have to really not want it (even if it feels good, like, say, drugs), not lie to yourself or the Good Lord, and give it to Him and not take it back. And a cool thing: when it's hard to let go, He will give you the strength and faith and mind to do it, if you ask Him. I hope I learned something.

Amen. The fundamental pain of being single only went when I came to the conclusion that I would never be married and that I would concentrate on living as a godly (albeit eligible) bachelor. I'll still continue the task of seeking, but not from a place where it's a necessary requirement for life. But it had to be for real - anything else would be a dodge.

 

[wvmtnkid]

The irony (and luck) of it all is that the more I told people (including her) about how I felt, the lesser the romance got. I've also admitted it much more wholeheartedly to the Lord, and it seems like He's just taking it away as I continue giving it to Him instead of trying to get rid of it myself. I think an important clue to the Lord getting to remove something from your life, you have to really not want it (even if it feels good, like, say, drugs), not lie to yourself or the Good Lord, and give it to Him and not take it back. And a cool thing: when it's hard to let go, He will give you the strength and faith and mind to do it, if you ask Him. I hope I learned something.

holo-

While I am sorry that things turned out the way they did (how freaky for the letter to be delivered on Valentines day!), I am glad that you have gotten this burden off of your heart and out into the open, with your friend and with God. If I read correctly, it sounded like your were not hiding your feelings as well as you thought and she knew anyway, so maybe it was just better to acknowledge them and deal with them head on, as painful as that was for both of you in the beginning.

And I think you said the most important thing in the part that I quoted above, and maybe what the rest of us were not telling you in our counsel. Giving your feelings to God and letting Him take them is the most important thing to do. Giving them and not taking them back and wrestling with them. We were so concerned about you suffereing silently with your feelings, as I think so many of us have been there, been in an unrequited love and knew the misery of it that none of us wanted to see you intentionally inflict that pain about yourself. So I am glad that you have been able to do that, and I hope that you have learned something as well. Maybe his whole situation was a meant as a learning lesson.

 

[holo]

wvmtnkid,
actually I hid them much better than I had feared. Part of her shock was because I wrote the letter thinking she already knew, or at least suspected it.
I don't know if this was "meant" to be a lesson, but it certainly seems God is making it one! And even better, we're now starting to talk openly about all that happened all those years ago. We're becoming even better friends as I speak. This kind of thing boosts my faith, I hope I can keep it on the rainy days too.