To Lovebirdsflying,
Thanks for your post, and I agree.
PS. Had you considered that in a democracy a government can contain religious people in which case it isnt entirely secular?
You make a good point, but I believe in separating the two entirely. I don't think it's right to have an established national religion, for example, and I also don't think matters of religious conscience should be made law.
I'm not speaking here about laws against harming our fellow human beings. That is not only religious conscience, it is also coexistence. Secular laws exist (in an ideal world) to promote peace and protect everyone from wrongful actions. It's the old expression that goes, "Your right to swing your arms ends where my nose begins." By religious conscience, I'm talking about things ranging from, say, restricting what can and cannot be done on Sunday (or Saturday), to the larger matter of legislating homosexual behavior. This is a matter of religious conscience, I believe, since if you ask anyone who objects to it why they object, they will inevitably point to the Bible. The practice of homosexuality (again in an ideal world) affects only those involved, provided it is discreet and behind closed doors, as all acts of a sexual nature should be.
Therefore it is frankly none of my business if my neighbor is gay. I can believe it to be a sin all I want, I should even be free to tell him/her I think it's a sin, but I should not be allowed to decide for him/her, via the law, whether or not he/she can get married. Marriage is a covenant between the couple and God, not including anyone else. I don't know why the secular government even wants in on it, but that's a different topic.
Government should be involved only to protect religious freedom. As believers we would live by our convictions, which is a different thing from the law of the land.
Of course, as believers we also live by the law of the land, but only so far as it lines up with Scripture. If one contradicts the other, I'm going to follow the Lord's instructions, not the government's.
For Scripural backup, I submit Romans 14:5b, in the NIV reading "Each one should be fully convinced in his own mind." You don't legislate conscience. Also Acts 4:19, "But Peter and John replied, 'Judge for yourselves whether it is right in God's sight to obey you rather than God.'" If the two contractict, follow God.
Putting the two principles together, I conclude that government should not forbid homosexual behavior or rights to their relationship, including marriage. However, churches should not be made to perform such unions against their conscience.
That's all. Down off my soapbox now.