I know this young girl who goes to our church she has been getting into alot of trouble in her life she lost her mom due to cancer a few years ago and just seems to be hanging around with some bad people she is about 17 years old, well she recently came into the church one night asking for prayer and told us she was raped 5 days ago. But something seemed weird I don't know what but when she told me I broke down and was bawling, but she just sat there and had no expression and when we were talking about it it seemed as thought it was not any big deal?I asked her how her dad was and she said oh he's really good and I said does he know then she said yes.I dropped it after that but I thought how could her dad be o.k? I am so confused is this a normal reaction? I have never known anyone who has been attacked so I don't know ? and after she was just joking around with people and laughing ? I don't know can anyone shed some light on this situation??
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I think its something she is still coming to terms with - it took me almost a year to realise the severity of what happened to me.
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It took me about two years to realize the full extent of the rape/abuse I had suffered... and that it wasn't my fault.
I just repressed it and blamed myself about my hangups.
She could be unsure or still in shock...
Good luck.
I just repressed it and blamed myself about my hangups.
She could be unsure or still in shock...
Good luck.
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When this particular incident happened to be I was 19 and at first I was upset and then afterwards I was completely queit about it. I mentioned it every now and then but never really made a huge deal out of it. So it was just me. But I almost felt embarassed about it and didnt really know what to think about it. But take her seriously and know that she is telling the truth. It shows and she is dealing with it in her own way.
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It's okay to cry when someone you know has been hurt. Actually, in a way it was probably helpful to her, because seeing the way someone else reacts to it can sometimes jolt you out of that numb cage you have built around yourself.
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Hi Determinedheart,
This young girl chose to tell you. Please don't let it go. People don't usually make this sort of thing up. It's serious. And her reaction after telling you is a huge indicator that she is not dealing with it.
I think you should gather all the resources you can. Get in touch with a crisis line or sexual assault hotline for your community. Call phone directory assistance or a women's clinic to get this information.
Again, don't act like she never told you. She may be wearing a mask to hide her feelings, but, inside...
Let us know what happens.
Take care.
This young girl chose to tell you. Please don't let it go. People don't usually make this sort of thing up. It's serious. And her reaction after telling you is a huge indicator that she is not dealing with it.
I think you should gather all the resources you can. Get in touch with a crisis line or sexual assault hotline for your community. Call phone directory assistance or a women's clinic to get this information.
Again, don't act like she never told you. She may be wearing a mask to hide her feelings, but, inside...
Let us know what happens.
Take care.
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