- Oct 26, 2006
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Hey everyone, my daughter has not been diagnosed yet but we're expecting it soon. She has an appt with a neuropsychologist in a week and a half for an evaluation.
I am having major problems getting frustrated with her. It's been my only problem as far as in getting along with her for a while, but it's just gotten bad lately. She's in her room right now screaming at the top of her lungs because I sent her in there for throwing a fit. See all morning she's been asking me to put clothes on her that are too small for her (they are in boxes waiting to be put in storage), I tell her no because they are too small and won't fit. Well, she bugged me long enough about one thing I finally put it on her. It was way too tight and so within a minute or two she came back to me and insisted I take it off. I told her no, I just put it on you wait until I'm done here (I was checking my bank account online). And the fit started. Kicking her feet, screaming, telling me I'm making her mad.
This is a big issue you have to understand, this girl will go through 5 outfits a day if I let her. She's obsessive about if one thing gets on her clothes she thinks they're dirty. One drop of water, one crumb, it doesn't matter how small. She feels like she has to change her clothes. It's SOOOO frustrating!!
My husband can hardly deal with her at all, so I'm pretty much her main care taker. She really is a sweet little girl, but when she's told to do soemthing she doesn't want to do - watch out. I can usually explain the whole situation to her and then she's fine and undestands. An example is my Mother bought one of those gigantic disks to play with outside for my girls. When we left my mother's house Camille wanted to take it with us, but we told her no it needed to stay there. She started in with a fit right away. So I got down onh er level and explained to her that we don't have room to throw it around at our house and it would go into somebody else's yard, and what if they took it? I said, you wouldn't want somebody to take it would you? Of course she said no and was then fine with leaving it there. Does anybody else have to deal with this? Am I the only one who get's frustrated after a while?
I just want to note also, that fits have never worked in our house. Our oldest doesn't do so much as twitch her legs when she doesn't get her way (we consider that a form of a tantrum). They get sent to thier room right away whenever they behave that way, it's not tolerated. So this isn't a learned behavior from my oldest child, or a trained behavior (meaning we've given in when she's thrown a fit). It's always been and is unacceptable in our house. Yet for her it's a daily occurance.
And then within the past month she's started being a bit mean and aggressive to her baby sister. She doesn't hit her or pinch her or anythin blatently mean. She'll hold on to her legs so she can't crawl, or hold her arms still so she can't move. Another odd behavior is that she's started ripping the baby's toys out of her hands and saying she wants to play with them. I've never seen an almost 5 year old child do this. Her baby sister is 10 months old, so these are pretty much just teethers and stuff to stick in her mouth. Whatever the baby has, Camille will go up to her and rip it out of the baby's hands and say "I want to play with that!" When I tell her she needs to give it back because it's the baby's toy and that she can paly with any of the other baby toys if she wants to, it starts a fit. She's starts crying and says "I'm gonna be mad at you then!" And then she'll throw the baby toy down and storm off to her room, or I'll send her to her room for throwing the fit.
These are just a few things, but she throws things at her older sister in the midst of a fit and at her baby sister. She bother's her baby sister when she's sleeping (in the car), pulling on her arms or legs. It's just getting to be so much, I'm getting tired and frustrated.
Any help?
I am having major problems getting frustrated with her. It's been my only problem as far as in getting along with her for a while, but it's just gotten bad lately. She's in her room right now screaming at the top of her lungs because I sent her in there for throwing a fit. See all morning she's been asking me to put clothes on her that are too small for her (they are in boxes waiting to be put in storage), I tell her no because they are too small and won't fit. Well, she bugged me long enough about one thing I finally put it on her. It was way too tight and so within a minute or two she came back to me and insisted I take it off. I told her no, I just put it on you wait until I'm done here (I was checking my bank account online). And the fit started. Kicking her feet, screaming, telling me I'm making her mad.
This is a big issue you have to understand, this girl will go through 5 outfits a day if I let her. She's obsessive about if one thing gets on her clothes she thinks they're dirty. One drop of water, one crumb, it doesn't matter how small. She feels like she has to change her clothes. It's SOOOO frustrating!!
My husband can hardly deal with her at all, so I'm pretty much her main care taker. She really is a sweet little girl, but when she's told to do soemthing she doesn't want to do - watch out. I can usually explain the whole situation to her and then she's fine and undestands. An example is my Mother bought one of those gigantic disks to play with outside for my girls. When we left my mother's house Camille wanted to take it with us, but we told her no it needed to stay there. She started in with a fit right away. So I got down onh er level and explained to her that we don't have room to throw it around at our house and it would go into somebody else's yard, and what if they took it? I said, you wouldn't want somebody to take it would you? Of course she said no and was then fine with leaving it there. Does anybody else have to deal with this? Am I the only one who get's frustrated after a while?
I just want to note also, that fits have never worked in our house. Our oldest doesn't do so much as twitch her legs when she doesn't get her way (we consider that a form of a tantrum). They get sent to thier room right away whenever they behave that way, it's not tolerated. So this isn't a learned behavior from my oldest child, or a trained behavior (meaning we've given in when she's thrown a fit). It's always been and is unacceptable in our house. Yet for her it's a daily occurance.
And then within the past month she's started being a bit mean and aggressive to her baby sister. She doesn't hit her or pinch her or anythin blatently mean. She'll hold on to her legs so she can't crawl, or hold her arms still so she can't move. Another odd behavior is that she's started ripping the baby's toys out of her hands and saying she wants to play with them. I've never seen an almost 5 year old child do this. Her baby sister is 10 months old, so these are pretty much just teethers and stuff to stick in her mouth. Whatever the baby has, Camille will go up to her and rip it out of the baby's hands and say "I want to play with that!" When I tell her she needs to give it back because it's the baby's toy and that she can paly with any of the other baby toys if she wants to, it starts a fit. She's starts crying and says "I'm gonna be mad at you then!" And then she'll throw the baby toy down and storm off to her room, or I'll send her to her room for throwing the fit.
These are just a few things, but she throws things at her older sister in the midst of a fit and at her baby sister. She bother's her baby sister when she's sleeping (in the car), pulling on her arms or legs. It's just getting to be so much, I'm getting tired and frustrated.
Any help?
