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How can an atheist have a relationship with God?

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That's interesting, Athée, because after I bought and read a couple of Loftus' books, I had the same taste as before. But, then again, maybe I didn't indulge enough of his "outsider's taster's choice test" to end up with a different set of tastebuds. :)
I do like his outsiders test of faith, as you can see I deploy it quite regularly when trying to get at the root of someone's beliefs. I actually have not read any books authored by him about his experience of deconversion or even about his OTF, rather I read the compilations of essays that he edited. The end of Christianity, The Christian Delusion, and there is another one I am forgetting at the moment. When I read them as a believer I kept saying that as well argued as all these things were it was still "possible" that God was real and behind all the natural explanations. In the end all those things I kept having to label as possible instead of probable stacked up on me and I started to lean the other way.
 
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EPISODE 24 Scott and Chris Meyer

Here is the story about the twin boys. Hope
you take a bit and listen to this radio program with video. If you just want the healing time, head to about 18 minutes into it.
Enjoy!
Thanks for sharing, what a story and I am so glad for that family. My younger brothers are identical twins and I can't imagine life without one of them :)
That said I did a very basic Google search and found this site that is just anecdotal comments of moms that have gone through this.

Not quite TTTS yet- can it resolve?

Notice that several of the stories report having this condition, waiting, and it resolves itself. In my mind that makes jumping to "God did it" an unwarranted step.
 
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The serpent spoke to Eve.
The ass spoke to Balaam.
But from my experience since the age of fifteen, God speaks to me lots by first I hear my name...then a message follows.


The boys had twin-to-twin syndrome. It means that one of them is not getting enough nutrients and the other gets too much. The one boy also had heart problems. Posted a video of the radio show they were on for you to listen to, and anybody else that wants to hear their story.


Thanks for caring!
Not sure if others just recover or not. Had been seen by two cardiologists at the heart center, due to blood test results at a different hospital lab. The one doctor asked me why I had not yet had a blood transfusion and the other one told me things did not look good. Everything was dropping fast. I did go home and my sister was calling me every few hours to see if I was still all right. Would have a blood test in a few more days. Before that time though, had no doubt God had healed me in the morning. Had been so weak, could not even get up. I gave up and told God so. Ready to not fight for my life anymore and head home. But instead just shortly after that
God told me to take my hands from my feet to my head and I will heal you. Thanks to God for He did just that. Was able to get up soon as felt so much energy now. Ate breakfast and when my sister called, told her that she didn't need to call me anymore now as God had healed me. The doctors were amazed!
One asked me later, did I ever figure out what happened. Two years later, he is still wondering.

Is there anything in those messages that would clearly identify them as being from a divine source?

Responded in another post to the twin to twin syndrome.

I didn't notice what heart condition you had. You may not know and that is OK, my dad had a similar experience where he was having mini strokes for no reason that they could determine, then for whatever reason they went away. My dad is also an atheist so it wasn't prayer :) Again if you happen to know what condition you had or what the major symptoms were that would be helpful in determining if this was miraculous or simply an instance of a problem sorting itself put in the dynamic human body.
 
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I knew when praying that they were healed. Never doubted it, then later
she had the next ultrasound and it showed all fine now. It astonished the doctors as even the baby's heart was healed. The ultrasounds were only days apart.
Have you ever been certain of something in your faith and then it turns out differently?
So the base problem resolves itself and so too does the other problem. Wouldn't this suggest to you that the two were in some way related rather than that something super natural happened? If the TTTS is a condition that is known to reverse itself naturally why assume that in this particular instance it was your God?
 
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How indeed...when one doesn't know where one is going it matters not in which direction one walks!

George Harrison had an old song about that very thing... you gotta love his lyrics.

 
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Hey Once, good to hear from you. How are you and the family doing. Was Christmas as crazy on your end as it was here?
The readers digest version of my story is that I grew up non religious, in my late teens I met my future wife who was (and is) a strong Christian. I went with her to church, read a bunch of the new testament gave my life to Christ, repented of my sins before a holy god and lived for Him for many years. In my study one day I came across 1 Peter 3:15 and decided to really dig in to the supper for my faith. I wanted to be the best evangelist ever :) So, being academic by nature I started reading what the atheists were saying (started with the compilations edited by John Loftus of all things ) and read the Christian responses to them. In the end, after a period of 2 years or so I admitted to myself that I no longer believed.
Hope that helps.
Well family is great with a new addition born the first of December, loving that. Christmas was very busy with the new baby and we are looking for a new house so Christmas was unusual this year. I felt it snuck up on me. :)

Thank you it does help very much. The desire to please someone we love is a very strong motivator.
 
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Well family is great with a new addition born the first of December, loving that. Christmas was very busy with the new baby and we are looking for a new house so Christmas was unusual this year. I felt it snuck up on me. :)

Thank you it does help very much. The desire to please someone we love is a very strong motivator.
Congratulations!
Also...wow that sounds hectic :)
I am happy with our three and wouldn't willingly go back to the newborn stage but there are for sure many many things about those infant days that I will miss. I wish you all the joy of the new one and hope you get some sleep!
 
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Congratulations!
Also...wow that sounds hectic :)
I am happy with our three and wouldn't willingly go back to the newborn stage but there are for sure many many things about those infant days that I will miss. I wish you all the joy of the new one and hope you get some sleep!
Thanks. :) I sometimes do have problems sleeping but the baby is my daughter's new one. ;) I get all the fun of snuggling and cuddling and then go home and she is left to be up every hour. She was a single mom at 16 with the first and lived at home and I shared with the night feedings but she has it all now. She is off work for maternity leave so she takes on the full responsibility so her husband can sleep and go to work every morning. So I'm just having the fun part this time around.
 
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Thanks. :) I sometimes do have problems sleeping but the baby is my daughter's new one. ;) I get all the fun of snuggling and cuddling and then go home and she is left to be up every hour. She was a single mom at 16 with the first and lived at home and I shared with the night feedings but she has it all now. She is off work for maternity leave so she takes on the full responsibility so her husband can sleep and go to work every morning. So I'm just having the fun part this time around.
That is the best! Soft baby head kisses and no sleep deprivation...now that is heaven :)
 
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Wow, this thread has been already taken on board so sorry for the intrusion but the title made me curious.

Regarding how an atheist can have a relationship with God.
My brother came to mind when I saw this thread. He's been back and forth and this time his emotional and religious status with faith confuses me.

He tells me he doesn't believe that there's a God, yet he believes in a greater power and when things turn sour in life, he doesn't turn away prayers.
Again though, he is a very emotional person and gets angry when I mention anything to do with attending church etc.
 
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Wow, this thread has been already taken on board so sorry for the intrusion but the title made me curious.

Regarding how an atheist can have a relationship with God.
My brother came to mind when I saw this thread. He's been back and forth and this time his emotional and religious status with faith confuses me.

He tells me he doesn't believe that there's a God, yet he believes in a greater power and when things turn sour in life, he doesn't turn away prayers.
Again though, he is a very emotional person and gets angry when I mention anything to do with attending church etc.
That is an interesting case for sure [emoji5]️ I wonder what he would say if you asked what he believes about this higher power, what characteristics it has and how he knows this to be the case?
 
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I do like his outsiders test of faith, as you can see I deploy it quite regularly when trying to get at the root of someone's beliefs. I actually have not read any books authored by him about his experience of deconversion or even about his OTF, rather I read the compilations of essays that he edited. The end of Christianity, The Christian Delusion, and there is another one I am forgetting at the moment. When I read them as a believer I kept saying that as well argued as all these things were it was still "possible" that God was real and behind all the natural explanations. In the end all those things I kept having to label as possible instead of probable stacked up on me and I started to lean the other way.

I've got his "Why I became an atheist" (1st edition) and "The Christian Delusion." I don't have his other books, but I have looked at his website from time to time. And I've got a couple dozen of other "atheist/critical" books by other authors.

So, now you've got me wondering. You said in another post that you want undeniably strong T, or some sort of beverage, but here you seem to suggest that you also lean toward the concept of strong P (probability). So, I see, it seems you don't mind having a little bit of P in your T?
 
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That is an interesting case for sure [emoji5]️ I wonder what he would say if you asked what he believes about this higher power, what characteristics it has and how he knows this to be the case?

My brother is one confusing human being. He likes to make a point and gets very "passionate" about making sure others get it and yet, he will never completely open to what exactly he believes in.

It all comes to science he says.
He prefers solid concrete proof in order to believe in God.

Makes it even harder for me to know this after finding out that even though he doesn't agree with Christianity and does not believe in God, he went ahead and accepted to be my youngest Godfather. Then after 3 years later tells me that he did it out of respect. I would have liked to have known where he was standing before hand though.
 
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S: Actually, I am of the "once saved, always saved" persuasion. Which is why I wonder if you truly were a believer how you no longer could be. You're aware of the Bible verses about this particular thing, I'm sure. If not, I would be glad to share.

A: yup I am familiar. I see those verses as a pretty convenient protective mechanism but I understand why you would reference them.


I am going to do some serious editing here to put all of the relevant bits side by side. The question was how is this relationship with God manifested in real life. Your responses were (and again to other readers this is edited of you want to see the items in context please go read S' excellent post in its entirety) and I will put my thoughts in between.




S: How it manifests in my life to have a relationship with the Creator, who is also my Friend and Father? I can't even wrap my mind around Him not existing. He's everywhere with me.

A: what does that mean, that he is everywhere with you? How is he with you, inn what tangible ways?



S: It's an inner thing for me, personally, more than an outward thing. It's a relationship. And yes, the relationship manifests in my outward life all the time. I don't even know how or why, really. It's hard to explain.


A: it manifests all the time but you don't know how or why?

S: To use your words, my relationship with God is "not reasonably explained by natural means." But also based on the Word of God, which I believe the Bible to be, also for many personal reasons "not reasonably explained by natural means." That is exactly it.

A: could you explin briefly why you belive that to be the case?



S: Athee, I just thought of how it feels. Have you ever been in love - really, truly, deeply, passionately in love? That is how my relationship with God feels to me, like being in love. Madly in love, I am madly in love with God. Lol. :) Ok, now you'll really think I'm crazy, but that's as close an explanation I can think of.

A: Yes I have been and am in love. Been married for 10 years and have a wonderful wife and children. I wonder though if these are really analogous. The people I love passionately are real tangible people. I wonder if what you are describing might more accurately be compared to being passionately committed to an idea (although in your case the idea has a person shaped avatar), it motivates you, it guides you in your thoughts and action, it embolden you, gives you strength, gives you clarity of purpose etc.
What do you think?


Well, I'm flattered you want to know so much about me.

1. The verses I'm thinking of don't have anything to do with any protective mechanisms; perhaps we're thinking of different ones. Doesn't matter, really, other than I'm sincerely concerned for you, or for any believer who says they have fallen away from God.

2. How He is with me? I sense His presence since being saved in a closer and more tangible way, like physical breath, than I did before when I simply believed in God as "the life force." After truly giving my heart to Christ, and sincerely praying the Salvation Prayer, I - in that moment - felt a rush of physical warmth in my heart (chest region, to be literal) and a sense of "opening" or something being "unlocked" within me. Since that moment I have never felt estranged from God. I have felt frustrated, angry, upset with God and I'm sure He with me. But I have never felt truly alone since then. I feel His presence with me always. You know how you can feel your own pulse, or breath? It's like that, but deeper. In my bones, in my cells, how deeply I feel and know Him. It's a gift I asked for and although I am the most unworthy recipient I can think of, He honored my request. My most frequent prayer is "thank you," and I pray fairly constantly.

3. The manifestations in my physical life are too numerous and detailed to explain here. Besides, they wouldn't really mean anything to anyone else except me. My walk with God is my personal walk/relationship with God. When I do something wrong He lets me know. When I cry out He hears and answers me. Or, if He's silent I know it's the time to shut up and be patient. God is patient and God is kind. God is love and God is truth. That's about all I need to know. I trust Him implicitly. I trust Him, as revealed in His Word, more than I trust anything else in my life, including myself. He guides me through life. He literally saved my life. I could be dead. My story is a very long one; suffice to say I came from a sometimes brutal and poverty-stricken background (in more ways than one) and today I live a fulfilling, rich, peaceful, prosperous, happy, healthy life. I know I never deserved anything good more than anyone else, but I asked in faith and He answered. Not that I don't still have problems common to all people, of course I do. But my life is remarkably changed since knowing God on a personal level.

4. The "not reasonably explained by natural means," I'm not sure what you're asking, exactly. Why I believe things that have happened to me that I can't explain by natural means? Because a few things that have happened to me have no natural explanation. Simple as that.

5. I love many tangible, flesh and blood people as well. My husband, my children, my family, my friends, etc. However, my love of Jesus is also tangible and just as real to me. He's more than an idea or avatar. But, yes, I love the idea of God as well. Of course I do. I see a deep pattern of intelligence in nature and creation. I've studied a lot of science and quantum physics enough to have witnessed the glory of God on a scientific level. Nature is proof of God. There is an obvious intelligent mind behind the design of absolutely everything. I recently heard the saying, "No God, know chaos. Know God, no chaos," which sums it up nicely to me.

There are many things I don't know and never will until He reveals them. That's ok, I don't need to know everything. I'm fine with not knowing. I know the Bible contains many contradictions. I've asked Him about that, lol. :) It's a paradox, faith is a paradox. I'm fascinated by God, never-endingly fascinated. Funny thing is, few people who know me in person (besides my immediate family) would ever guess any of this about me. As I said, I'm far from a "religious" person. I'm quiet, I listen to people a lot instead.

You are a very interesting person, Athee. Thank you for conversing with me, I appreciate it.

I knew a woman, a former co-worker, who, years ago when I was facing a tough time in my life, was very kind, supportive and understanding. She helped me a lot. I mentioned to her one time that I greatly appreciated her loving, Christian gestures towards me, like little heart-warming gifts, cards, that type of thing. (I was going through a divorce and she had also been through one in the past). She immediately made it clear to me that she was NOT a Christian or a believer and that she was, in fact, a staunch atheist. I told her I felt her behavior was more Christian-like than any Christian I'd ever met up until that time. She had a loving heart, and God looks upon the heart. Atheist is just a label, like Christian. God knows the heart of everyone; He doesn't need people to believe that He exists but we certainly do need Him.

Believing in God, actually, knowing is a better word to me because I have zero doubt now, is a benefit to me and my life. I would not be here if not for God. And this has been the case for decades now for me.
 
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I've got his "Why I became an atheist" (1st edition) and "The Christian Delusion." I don't have his other books, but I have looked at his website from time to time. And I've got a couple dozen of other "atheist/critical" books by other authors.

So, now you've got me wondering. You said in another post that you want undeniably strong T, or some sort of beverage, but here you seem to suggest that you also lean toward the concept of strong P (probability). So, I see, it seems you don't mind having a little bit of P in your T?
That was brilliant, thank you for that. I laughed so hard, which is a great way to start the day [emoji28]
But yes a bit of P is ok by me. I don't see any path to absolute certainty so I have to settle for probabalistic models.
 
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My brother is one confusing human being. He likes to make a point and gets very "passionate" about making sure others get it and yet, he will never completely open to what exactly he believes in.

It all comes to science he says.
He prefers solid concrete proof in order to believe in God.

Makes it even harder for me to know this after finding out that even though he doesn't agree with Christianity and does not believe in God, he went ahead and accepted to be my youngest Godfather. Then after 3 years later tells me that he did it out of respect. I would have liked to have known where he was standing before hand though.
Sounds more like an atheist to me...
 
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Hi all,

Deadworm threw down the gauntlet suggesting that I make an earnest effort to re-aquire my belief in God. I'm not sure what he has planned but I would very much like to be convinced so I will put myself in his hands for the journey.

I am not sure to what extent this will be an interactive, all participants welcome kind of thread, however of you feel like you have something to add please feel free to respectfully engage!

Peace,
Athée

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first, it becomes important to define what is meant by a relationship with God, who in effect, God must be to be considered God.
Idolatry is a relationship with lesser gods, such as gold or money or magic. I think that we can all agree that these are all lesser gods than" that which nothing greater can exist in imagination and in reality", so this is not a path to believing in something worthy of being one's ultimate purpose and goal in life. Idolatry is in effect 'settling', redirecting one's life for something less than where one's passion lies, accepting that that which would be truly satisfying and fulfilling does not exist anyway.

What then is worthy of believing in, of putting one's faith in? That is a question as pertinent to an atheist as to a theist, for unless someone wants to write off life as ultimately absurd and pointless, we are all required to find what would be the point to our own personal life that makes its living worthwhile, and truly fulfilling.
And that point will serve as the starting point of what 'God' must mean to any of us, be with atheist or Christian or anything else.
 
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