hes gonna make this hard UGH!!!!!

[blue_eyes36]

Me & my husband have been seperated for almost 2 years because he molested my oldest daughter, today i told him that he was gonna be served the diviorce papers and he started saying well im gonna get a lawyer to look at these papers cus i dont trust your lawyer , well sheesh i dont want anything from him except child support , 50 dollars a week for maintinece till i get out of college & get a good Job, everthing eles stays the same as whene we seperated , please pray that Gods will be done here not his , not mine , but Gods


Thanks , Amy:o

 

[rainyday]

Cue desi in 5 ... 4 ... 3 ... 2 ...











Get ready to hear that as a woman you have NO rights to divorce your husband even though he's molesting your daughter ... you're still defying (was that the word desi?, no 'scorning') your husband.

On the real hand here ... if he molested your daughter ... why isn't he in jail? Did you have proof? If so, a lawyer isn't going to do much if it's proven.

 

[desi]

1 Ha! Blue eyes36 why isn't your husband in jail for child abuse? At the very least I suspect the men in your family would make him 'go away'.

 

[Jenna]

I'm real sorry to hear that your husband has done something so awful to hurt you and your daughter. I sure hope that she is healing and able to learn to trust again. *hugs*

 

[blue_eyes36]

Cue desi in 5 ... 4 ... 3 ... 2 ...











Get ready to hear that as a woman you have NO rights to divorce your husband even though he's molesting your daughter ... you're still defying (was that the word desi?, no 'scorning') your husband.

On the real hand here ... if he molested your daughter ... why isn't he in jail? Did you have proof? If so, a lawyer isn't going to do much if it's proven.

Excuse ME!!! as a woman i have no rights !!! oooookkkkyyy....Biblicaly I DO have a right he had sex with a anther person besides his wife (me)(which is adultry) which happened to be my daughter( at the time 12 years old) so dont even tell me I have no right to divorce him , plus he was convicted, & charged as a sexual preditor. thank you very much

Amy

 

[Echoes Peak]

Me & my husband have been seperated for almost 2 years because he molested my oldest daughter, today i told him that he was gonna be served the diviorce papers and he started saying well im gonna get a lawyer to look at these papers cus i dont trust your lawyer , well sheesh i dont want anything from him except child support , 50 dollars a week for maintinece till i get out of college & get a good Job, everthing eles stays the same as whene we seperated , please pray that Gods will be done here not his , not mine , but Gods


Thanks , Amy:o

Getting back to the issue at hand...

As a mom, your first priority is to ensure your daughter is safe which is what seems to be what you're doing. Do you have a strong network or support system? You might want to, if you haven't already, talked to your pastor or some elders in your church to help you get through this. You definitely are going to need some spiritual as well as emotional guidance as you go through your divorce and dealing with the aftermath of this whole situation. Also, how supportive is your family? You shouldn't have to go through this alone. This is what the Body is for-to support and encourage and teach one another. Also, you might want to get yourself into some counseling and support group as well as one of for your daughter. She has lived through a traumatic situation and she needs all the assistance she can get. Make sure you continually reassure her that you will be there for her regardless of what feelings and stresses she is and will go through. Thirdly, if you have actual criminal proof, I don't see why you can't take legal action of some sort. You didn't mention whether your husband admitted guilt or not. But if you have some way of demonstrating proof I would find some legal course of action. If not, I worry that in the future, he will be able to fight for visitation rights and will continue to molest your daughter. Finally, keep praying and replenshing your spirit with God's. This is pretty difficult time but know that regardless that He loves you and its only Him can you lean for strength and support.

 

[rainyday]

Excuse ME!!! as a woman i have no rights !!! oooookkkkyyy....Biblicaly I DO have a right he had sex with a anther person besides his wife (me)(which is adultry) which happened to be my daughter( at the time 12 years old) so dont even tell me I have no right to divorce him , plus he was convicted, & charged as a sexual preditor. thank you very much

Amy

I most assuredly KNOW AND DEFEND your rights biblically. That was intended for desi who consistently argues in these forums that to divorce for adultery is only a man's right since the bible states 'husband' not 'wife' in those verses. You and I, BOTH, know that is not true.

Yes, he did commit adultery, and you have EVERY RIGHT TO DIVORCE HIM BIBLICALLY. If he is a convicted pedafile now, still, his getting a lawyer won't help him that much. Only you know if he's bluffing or not.

I pray that your daughter heals as best as possible for the betrayal of trust of a father, as well as trust of body and soul, and can move on with her life loving again. I will also pray for you as well. If my husband had done anything to my daughter ... I don't know how I'd feel. I'd actually fear my feelings towards him. I can't imagine the pain you must feel inside to not only have your husband betray your wedding vows, but to violate your beloved daughter in such a way.

Again, I'm sorry for the tongue in cheek ... if you read some threads and desi's arguements AGAINST women's rights to divorce, you'll understand why I posted that. It still does not excuse my inappropriate response.

 

[blue_eyes36]

rainy day,

And I apologize for misunderstanding you, It is a very touchy subject with me and , me & my children have been though alot in the past 2 years, i tend to get defencive, Ive been though this subject, my daughter seriously rebelling & getting pregnant& she told me she bisexual,& my other daughter trying to rebell, money problems,cars breaking down , sickness,I get so depressed& stressed out, & feel like giving up Alot, BUT, I know that My GOD is in control, HE IS MY STRENGTH, & I PRAISE HIM, & i know he must have somthing VERY AWESOME in store for me & something VERY awesome for me to do for his kingdom, So no matter what i wont give up, Again Im sorry for my behaviore also, friends???,

AMY

 

[Echoes Peak]

Amy, I've got you in my prayers .

 

[blue_eyes36]

Amy, I've got you in my prayers .

Thank you your so kind


Amy

 

[Blessed75]

Amy - do you have proof he molested your daughter? Did you report it? If so, get all those records together. Also - let him get a lawyer - it's like I told my soon to be ex - the law, is the law, is the law and NO lawyer can change that. You have rights and really you have the ball in your court. You are God's child and no matter what - even when you think you're sunk - God will get you through this. Just read the footprints in the sand when you get down. God knows I have, it has so helped me. God is blessing me through this divorce and I know he will you too. No matter what - stay smart, don't let him get to you and don't argue with him. Let the lawyer do that - that's what you're paying him for. My husband did the same thing, payed MORE for a lawyer than I did and guess what? The law is the law is the law - so what that he got a lawyer - I still get what's due to me. SO - let him run his mouth and ignore. Easier said than done, I know. But the ball is in your court and you have God on your side. You just HAVE to have faith and keep believing - even when things do NOT look like they're in your favor. I'm going to pm you with some websites that I have researched for your state that will help you as well. I hate to hear about what happened to your daughter and to you but you will get through this. It's a rollercoaster ride, I know, but YOU will survive. If I can do it - so can you. You are a strong person and God is holding your hand and when you can't walk, He'll carry you. He has me. Hang in there and know that people are there for you - pm me anytime. I'll pm you those websites here in a bit. Hugs sweetie - Nikki

 

[Blessed75]

Okay Amy, I've pm'ed you some things that should help you. Hang in there - you're gonna be okay......big hugs sweetie!

 

[Violet]

I'm going to pray for you and your daughters....you have the right attitude....He must have something BIG planned for you

 

[LadyDJ]

 

[rainyday]

rainy day,

And I apologize for misunderstanding you, It is a very touchy subject with me and , me & my children have been though alot in the past 2 years, i tend to get defencive, Ive been though this subject, my daughter seriously rebelling & getting pregnant& she told me she bisexual,& my other daughter trying to rebell, money problems,cars breaking down , sickness,I get so depressed& stressed out, & feel like giving up Alot, BUT, I know that My GOD is in control, HE IS MY STRENGTH, & I PRAISE HIM, & i know he must have somthing VERY AWESOME in store for me & something VERY awesome for me to do for his kingdom, So no matter what i wont give up, Again Im sorry for my behaviore also, friends???,

AMY

Friends in Christ Jesus always blue eyes! Always!

I've been through so much myself. I went 9 months without a vehicle and had to walk to work every day. But PRAISE LORD JESUS, my job was only a mile away, but 3 months before I lost my car my employers moved closer to my house. It only took me 5 minutes from leaving my front porch to their doorway to get to work each day, even thoughout the long extremely cold and snowy winter. Many a night I walked home in the pouring rain and 12" snow. God had provided me with everything close by, within 10 minutes from my house. EVERYTHING. My church, my job, my bank, a pharmacy, super market, pet store, post office, a little restuarant, and the roller skating rink for my daughter and I to still do something fun together. Even her school was a mere 2.5 miles away. We walked together to the parent/teacher conference and home in the dark. We walked to church on Sundays together. We walked to and from the grocery store with bags. She was embarassed & humiliated to walk past her friends houses carrying groceries but I told her that for some reason known only to God, that He was removing many 'materialistic' things from our lives for a reason. I truly believe that. Since then things have been getting better financially for us. I got a vehicle. I got a better paying job with the transportation to take me to and from, my daughter notices others who were in our plight as we drive and we've offered to help them. She doesn't take much for granted. We still have a long way to go ... but with God's grace, you and I both blue eyes, will be taken to, and taught, exactly what He wants in order to instill within us the Grace He wishes to bestow upon us. Believe in that. Looking back, I can honestly see God's golden thread running through each event. I praise my God because he is truly AWESOME. You are in the middle of a journey He's carrying you through. Be patient. Trust always. God is good. God is great. Always remember that NOTHING is going to happen to you or your children today or tomorrow that you and God cannot handle together. Peace to you and your children blue eyes.

 

[blue_eyes36]

THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH!!!! all of you have been so supportive and nice , i thank God for each one of you GOD BLESS YOU ALL!!!!


Amy

 

[Blessed75]

God bless you Amy and I hope that you'll keep us updated. Hang in there -