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[AnointedPoetess]

Hi all, im new to this forum. Heres my problem: I've been dating this guy since last yr but we broke up so then in june or so of this yr we got back together but now hes not supportive at all and when he calls he doesn't really ask how im doing or anything..

I really care about him and desperately want this to work but afraid to let him go in fear of being alone.. what should i do?

Any advice, encouragement, or support would be greatly appreciated! Thanks.

Oh, btw.. this is my first official relationship i've ever had in my life..

 

[f U z ! o N]

why exactly did you guys break up if you care to share?

 

[ChildOfGod20]

i was wondering that too. i dont really know what to tell u other than pray about the situation and talk to ur bf about it. i know its scary bein alone but if u find out that this isn't going to work out u gotta be brave. i hope everything works out for u!

 

[Leanna]

I am concerned he is using you. In particular, if he is getting sex, and he is showing no caring for you..... well he's probably using you. Of course it could be a LOT of things, so little information....

My other thought is you are only 22 you shouldn't be "desperate" or afraid to be alone yet, you have plenty of time to find someone, maybe you need to let go and let God make you into the whole and complete woman he wants you to be before you date and marry someone.

 

[chocolateloverjen]

hey there, i dont know really what to say to that apart from talk to him and i know that that is something you will probably want to do the least (i know from experience). If you want to talk to anyone i am here. Im also in a relationship. I dont know what to do though.
God Bless
xxx

 

[MrsSeptemberPenguin]

Is it worth staying with him if he doesn't care like he should? I've had to ask myself the same questions. Maybe he does care and he just doesn't know how to show it. Make sure you talk to him about it. I recommend you check out the "5 love languages" maybe he just isn't speaking love you to in your love language...Pray!!!! pray a lot, and follow God.

 

[AnointedPoetess]

I am concerned he is using you. In particular, if he is getting sex, and he is showing no caring for you..... well he's probably using you. Of course it could be a LOT of things, so little information....

My other thought is you are only 22 you shouldn't be "desperate" or afraid to be alone yet, you have plenty of time to find someone, maybe you need to let go and let God make you into the whole and complete woman he wants you to be before you date and marry someone.

Hi Leanna, i called him today and found out that he was at his ex's house supposedly bc it was her bday and idk how long his been talking back to her.. So, now i do feel used even tho he never got no sex from me.. idk wat to do now... *Sigh*

 

[thenewageriseth]

That's awful what he's doing. Does he even care?

 

[ChildOfGod20]

if he can see that ur sad and he doesnt care then do u really think that hes the one u wanna be with? u need someone who will love u all the time and show that he cares about ur feelings all the time. u dont need someone who will make u feel used. have u been talking to him about this?

 

[AnointedPoetess]

if he can see that ur sad and he doesnt care then do u really think that hes the one u wanna be with? u need someone who will love u all the time and show that he cares about ur feelings all the time. u dont need someone who will make u feel used. have u been talking to him about this?

No, i havent becuz i basically dumped him after i found out that he was talkin to his ex again.. so.. yeah..

 

[AnointedPoetess]

That's awful what he's doing. Does he even care?

Hey Bo, i dont think so, i think he just wanted his cake and to eat it too.. ya know?

 

[thenewageriseth]

Man! I HATE guys like that! Screw I say! ...excuse my French... Must be a freakin' playa pimp dude. UGH