Help with my struggle of anger at how some christians react.

[CounselorForChrist]

I really don't angry per say because my patience it REALLY long. It smore of I get frusterated with how christians react to some things.

Theres a boy I grew up with (they were christian to) whos parents were very much "cliky" in church and acted better then everyone. The son was very much a mean child and made himself look innocent all the time.

Well I am disabled and have been since birth. I have a few disabilities. None of them are physical though, so I look normal. Well a few years ago after this kid (now a man) lied about his seizures to join the army, he was in an accident in Iraq. He flipped a vehicle he was driving with his military friends. It put him into a coma and now that hes finally out of it hes often in a wheelchair and mentally challenged.

As soon people found out what happened they rushed to him. Helped him. Gave him and his parents money and gifts...etc. They called him a desrving soldier. He has a page on facebook with thousands of people at it. All kinds of funds in his name....etc. And yet when I had my injury at 16 almost no one came to help. No one seemed to care much. I sat in the hospital many days with no visitors aside from my parents and very few family members.

The family of this man wer every good at making people feel bad for him. They acted like they were perfect christians and there son was too and people seemed to accept that!

The point I am making is I see all these christians who were also our friends too rush to him because you could see he was disabled. It really hurst me badly when I see christians push aside people like me because they assume I am healthy and/or they don't care because I am not crippled. Why are christians like this?

In the end I forgive them (even if I think about it sometimes) because theres nothing I can do about it. I know God still cares about me anbd always will. I know I may have to fight alone compared to that guy, but I take pride in knowing with almost no help I am still making it even without those people. God has given me lots of strength to survive pretty much alone and I praise him for that!

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I want to point out while I may sound jealous I am not really. However the guy acted, he still can't help ths situation hes in now. I do feel bad for him on that end. And really I don't know what I want from people. Its not about the money or the people helping him or any of that. Its the point of who they chose to help that bugs me.

 

[Timahani]

Unfortunantely you cannot change how other people respond to people who they feel are in "need" or in "crisis". My advice to you would be:instead of focusing on others, focus more on yourself. If you are having a rough time, try talking to your loved ones and friends and looking to them for help. Often times, people aren't intentionally trying to ignore you, but they may innocently be oblivious to your suffering or you inner pain. More importantly, take your needs to the Lord. Ask him to give you the inner peace and joy that can only come from him. Others are not responsible for our happiness. Our true happiness can only be found in the Lord.

God Bless You!

 

[VincentHChough]

Dear Friend,

When you are humble, you see God's face much more clearly. When you forgive, you are being like the Father. When you suffer, you are living like Jesus.

Do not think about the failures of this person. Instead, bless him!

Yes, I'm sure it sounds hard. But when you bless him and pray for him you are being Christ-like. In this way he might change too.

Praying for you in your trials,
Vince Chough

author of
Brave Fish: Identity, Love, Faith
Ashes to Eucalyptus
Your Messiah as Metaphor

 

[joey_downunder]

I also have an invisible disability. At times I wondered if it would have been "easier" if it was more obvious to outsiders.

People have short memories. It is easy to remember that a certain person needs more help if you can actually see that they are handicapped e.g. needing wheelchair, wearing hearing aides.

I don't think you're jealous or angry, just like myself and wistful that you can't be as good at doing things that you know you could have been minus your disability. At times it can be hard to "see" how your disability might be a positive thing and therefore able to be used by God.