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Ok you want practical advice?
This christian couple, Ian and Mary Grant, have good practical tips. Don't know if the OP has children but if has, then they also have books on growing great boys and girls
Growing Great Marriages
Also, thinking on this thread and topic, I recall seeing a movie that had the Love Dare in it. I think it's actually a book you can do 40 days of daring things to love your wife (or husband). I think maybe the OP just doesn't know how. He thinks maybe he has to be attracted to someone first. Well that's not always the case. You can be attracted to someone who is really really wrong for you. Like they could already be married. Or you could be attracted to the same-sex. I don't think there is a big thing with attraction, cos even horrible guys get attracted to me. And I have to say..no. And I can't do anything to make myself un-attractive, its just - female thing.
Think about all the good things you like about your wife, not just they physical things. It could be the way she's super-organised, or her handwriting, or they way she laughs. I don't know, think of things. Think of things that are lovely and pure then just stewing on the points you don't like about your wife.
You can't just love someone just like that. Love is an action. All the people that said 'love your wife, well, just do it cos the Bible says so,'don't actually spell out the ways in which this guy can.
So here's a list
greet her in the mornings
call her 'darling'
kiss her on the cheek
make her breakfast in bed
sing a cheery morning song
thank her for putting up with you!
compliment her on her dress
write a love note
do the dishes
put the rubbish out
I don't know..what do husbands and wives do with each other all day. Come on, there must be some married couples on here who can give good tips and advice without beating people over with scripture and making them feel worse. What would Jesus do? What did he say to Mary? Go help Martha in the kitchen? You were created to be a helpmeet? No, come sit here with me. Listen to my story, I'm going to tell you a good one.
This christian couple, Ian and Mary Grant, have good practical tips. Don't know if the OP has children but if has, then they also have books on growing great boys and girls
Growing Great Marriages
Also, thinking on this thread and topic, I recall seeing a movie that had the Love Dare in it. I think it's actually a book you can do 40 days of daring things to love your wife (or husband). I think maybe the OP just doesn't know how. He thinks maybe he has to be attracted to someone first. Well that's not always the case. You can be attracted to someone who is really really wrong for you. Like they could already be married. Or you could be attracted to the same-sex. I don't think there is a big thing with attraction, cos even horrible guys get attracted to me. And I have to say..no. And I can't do anything to make myself un-attractive, its just - female thing.
Think about all the good things you like about your wife, not just they physical things. It could be the way she's super-organised, or her handwriting, or they way she laughs. I don't know, think of things. Think of things that are lovely and pure then just stewing on the points you don't like about your wife.
You can't just love someone just like that. Love is an action. All the people that said 'love your wife, well, just do it cos the Bible says so,'don't actually spell out the ways in which this guy can.
So here's a list
greet her in the mornings
call her 'darling'
kiss her on the cheek
make her breakfast in bed
sing a cheery morning song
thank her for putting up with you!
compliment her on her dress
write a love note
do the dishes
put the rubbish out
I don't know..what do husbands and wives do with each other all day. Come on, there must be some married couples on here who can give good tips and advice without beating people over with scripture and making them feel worse. What would Jesus do? What did he say to Mary? Go help Martha in the kitchen? You were created to be a helpmeet? No, come sit here with me. Listen to my story, I'm going to tell you a good one.
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