Money borrowed, but doesn't want to pay
Please bare with me here, because I've never posted anything on here much. This is my situation - I've was in a relationship with a Christian man who I loaned money to last August 2005. Granted it wasn't a huge amount, but I'm a single mom of two so it's not like I have a lot of money to spare. Just to give you a little history, he has had a rough go of it for pretty much the whole time of our relationship (trying to find a better paying job, living with a friend because he didn't have enough for an apartment, car always breakdown etc ) so needless to say I never felt that he had the money to pay me back even a little, so I never mentioned anything to him. Then a few weeks back he was blessed with a wonderful job making three times as much money and he was starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I was very happy for him. Over the next couple of weeks after his new job had started he was very excited about getting an apartment again and looking at buying some tools to fix his car and he was commenting that he was going have an extra 2,500 in just two paychecks where he would have enough money to do all of this. Well, I'm not a very aggressive person and it's hard for me to bring up difficult subjects like, "when do you think you could pay me back", but I decided that since he has never brought it up that I would. Well I never saw this coming, but I sent him an email about it on 2-15 and his reply was basically, that he couldn't believe that I was asking for this money after all that he has done for me and that he thought I would at least let him get on his feet and that now he realizes what kind of women I really am and that he doesn't want me to come and get the money he will pay me 1/2 now and 1/2 next month and he will mail it to me because he doesn't want to see me, To say the least, I was shock and very hurt and starting crying and feeling very upset and unbelieveable actually that he would respond this way. I didn't respond to him. The next day I came into work and he had left another message saying that he had slept on it over night and after thinking about it he is not going to pay me my money back, or at least not until he got on his feet....
Sorry this is such a long story - This is my question....
Do I do anything about the money he owes me in small claims court? What I really want is for him to realize how wrong he was and say he's sorry, but I don't think that is going to happen. Then I thought, well, if I do take him to small claims, then maybe he will think twice again before he does this to somebody else. I keep praying and praying and yet I still don't know what to do...God hasn't revealed anything to me yet....so I am hoping that some of you can help me.
Thanks for your comments and please keep in mind that I'm still very hurt and upset about this whole break up and at the same time I am very thankful to God for showing me his flawed character.
~B
Please bare with me here, because I've never posted anything on here much. This is my situation - I've was in a relationship with a Christian man who I loaned money to last August 2005. Granted it wasn't a huge amount, but I'm a single mom of two so it's not like I have a lot of money to spare. Just to give you a little history, he has had a rough go of it for pretty much the whole time of our relationship (trying to find a better paying job, living with a friend because he didn't have enough for an apartment, car always breakdown etc ) so needless to say I never felt that he had the money to pay me back even a little, so I never mentioned anything to him. Then a few weeks back he was blessed with a wonderful job making three times as much money and he was starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I was very happy for him. Over the next couple of weeks after his new job had started he was very excited about getting an apartment again and looking at buying some tools to fix his car and he was commenting that he was going have an extra 2,500 in just two paychecks where he would have enough money to do all of this. Well, I'm not a very aggressive person and it's hard for me to bring up difficult subjects like, "when do you think you could pay me back", but I decided that since he has never brought it up that I would. Well I never saw this coming, but I sent him an email about it on 2-15 and his reply was basically, that he couldn't believe that I was asking for this money after all that he has done for me and that he thought I would at least let him get on his feet and that now he realizes what kind of women I really am and that he doesn't want me to come and get the money he will pay me 1/2 now and 1/2 next month and he will mail it to me because he doesn't want to see me, To say the least, I was shock and very hurt and starting crying and feeling very upset and unbelieveable actually that he would respond this way. I didn't respond to him. The next day I came into work and he had left another message saying that he had slept on it over night and after thinking about it he is not going to pay me my money back, or at least not until he got on his feet....
Sorry this is such a long story - This is my question....
Do I do anything about the money he owes me in small claims court? What I really want is for him to realize how wrong he was and say he's sorry, but I don't think that is going to happen. Then I thought, well, if I do take him to small claims, then maybe he will think twice again before he does this to somebody else. I keep praying and praying and yet I still don't know what to do...God hasn't revealed anything to me yet....so I am hoping that some of you can help me.
Thanks for your comments and please keep in mind that I'm still very hurt and upset about this whole break up and at the same time I am very thankful to God for showing me his flawed character.
~B